Guest guest Posted January 15, 2000 Report Share Posted January 15, 2000 In a message dated 01/16/2000 5:10:58 AM Eastern Standard Time, GalofGOP@... writes: << On the way home (the clincher) he asked if my fiance and I were completely happy, because he thought sometimes that we might not be. >> I hoped you responded very positively about how happy you are with your choice for a partner for life. The guy sounds like he is lonely and maybe has a crush on you but he is probably used to being the odd man out cuz of his low self-esteem. Just send him no negative vibes about your present relationship Barb whose hubby is about the only man who hasn't flirted in his office cuz he makes it clear upfront he is happily married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2000 Report Share Posted January 15, 2000 In a message dated 01/16/2000 5:10:58 AM Eastern Standard Time, GalofGOP@... writes: << On the way home (the clincher) he asked if my fiance and I were completely happy, because he thought sometimes that we might not be. >> I hoped you responded very positively about how happy you are with your choice for a partner for life. The guy sounds like he is lonely and maybe has a crush on you but he is probably used to being the odd man out cuz of his low self-esteem. Just send him no negative vibes about your present relationship Barb whose hubby is about the only man who hasn't flirted in his office cuz he makes it clear upfront he is happily married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2000 Report Share Posted January 16, 2000 , Give the guy a set of Tae-bo tapes. What would be really good is if you can convince your fiance to do Tae-bo with your friend, without you. I have to warn you that men have a different emotional makeup than women. If he has already been that forward you should be very careful, especially if he has a history of setting himself up for rejection. If he continues to do this he is living a fantasy until he is rejected. If he's wrapped up in this fantasy he may not always recognize rejection and could go too far. He may just be asking you for help, but be careful for his sake and yours. Luci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2000 Report Share Posted January 16, 2000 , Give the guy a set of Tae-bo tapes. What would be really good is if you can convince your fiance to do Tae-bo with your friend, without you. I have to warn you that men have a different emotional makeup than women. If he has already been that forward you should be very careful, especially if he has a history of setting himself up for rejection. If he continues to do this he is living a fantasy until he is rejected. If he's wrapped up in this fantasy he may not always recognize rejection and could go too far. He may just be asking you for help, but be careful for his sake and yours. Luci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2000 Report Share Posted January 16, 2000 , While I don't know everything about how your friend and fiance get along, I would suggest that you tell your friend that you value his friendship a lot; that, however, your relationship with your fiance is a private matter; and, that you wouldn't want for the three of you to end up in a predicament which could damage the friendship the three of you have together. Firm, but caring, limit-setting seems to be in order here. Good luck! :-) who hates situations like that galofgo-@... wrote: original article:/group/tae-bo_on/?start=7703 > Ok. I need some off the topic advice. My fiance was out of town for drill > this weekend. We have the same friends, so I hang out with them regardless > of whether or not he is here. Well I've been starting to think that one of > our mutual friends..who we also work with, has a thing for me. You see....he > is a 100+ lbs over weight and has very low self-esteem so he always > handicapps himself by going after someone he can't have..if that makes sense. > I think its finally my turn. We gathered at his place (he picked me up since > I don't drive) to watch movies on his new DVD player and it was hard as heck > to get him to take me home. He kept wanting to show me things at his > apartment ot talk about this or that. Mind you I completely trust the > guy...but I think he just wanted my company. On the way home (the clincher) > he asked if my fiance and I were completely happy, because he thought > sometimes that we might not be. > > I don't know what to do. I really just want to let it pass and he'll move > on. I don't want to loose his friendship as he has been friends with my > fiance and I for quite sometime. Plus we work together and have a lot of on > the side business adventures together. I also don't feel comftorable > telling my fiance because I don't want him to think badly of the guy. Which > he would. He can get a little jealous...or he might be uncomftorable with me > being around him. > > I feel horrible, because I want my friend to be happy. I know a huge part of > it is self-esteem. I lent him my taebo tapes...because that was one of the > first benefits I realy reaped from Taebo. He hasn't touched them. Yet he's > always cutting himself down because of his appearance. I don't know what to > do!!!!! > > Who is thankful just to vent her frustrations Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.