Re: Heidi & / party (THX)

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Thanks everyone. I took the high road this time BUT I am no saint, I

almost asked my DH to cut her out of our life 3 years ago.

Because:

3-1/2 years ago DH fell off a ladder and almost died. He was in ICU

for 5 days. We didn't know if he would walk or if he had brain

damage. He fell on his back and compressed a vertebra plus they had

to do surgery to relieve the pressure on his brain because of

bleeding in the brain. SIL came to see him the day he got out of

ICU. He still had swelling of the brain and we just didn't know if

he had permanent brain damage.

While we were waiting for him to be moved into his regular room she

was telling me all about her breast enlargement surgery. (It was her

second one, the implant slipped and they needed to go back in to fix

it, while she was there she asked them to add more saline.) So she

is telling me how painful it was. I was in total shock I kept

thinking this can't be happening, DH's future is still unknown, he is

laying in a hospital bed and she wants me to feel sorry for her

boobs?

Oh, did I forget to mention while DH was in surgery the day of the

accident, the local family gathered to be there. Well with everyone

there I guess she thought it was a good time to announce to the

family she was moving in with her boyfriend. I was only half

listening to her, but she made such a big deal out of it that I

though they were getting married. She still thinks to this day that

I don't like her DH (they did finally get married) because I didn't

act excited enough for her.

Funny how I had other things on my mind.

3 month later was Christmas. At first we weren't going to see his

family at Christmas but then DH was doing better than we thought. So

we called down and told them we would come for Christmas after all.

SIL had made plans to go to her boyfriend's parent's house for

Christmas. Well we didn't go because SIL called me up screaming

that I waited until she had other plans and that I was trying to cut

her out of Christmas. We agreed to get together the end of January,

but ended up canceling because my father died unexpectedly.

DH told SIL what happened and that we had to cancel. Well as I was

on the phone with the coroner I heard my Call Waiting going crazy,

someone was trying to get through. When I finally was able to pick

it up it was SIL, she had to call back because she wanted to tell

me " she " was crying. But that hadn't done it for me yet. No it took

more

When we finally got together the end of February, she complained that

it took so long to get together for Christmas and for her to see her

only nephews open their gifts. I was then pushed over the edge. It

took all my strength not to get up and b!tch slap her.

My sweet DH did offer not to see her ever again. I came close to

saying yes, but I love my kids and DH too much. I do still fantasize

how great life would be if I took him up on his offer. (LOL)

Sorry so long. I guess I still have some pent up anger. I wish I

could say that is all of it, but DH and I have been married over 10

years and there is a bunch of other stories I could tell. Don't

worry I won't!!

Thanks and Take Care,

Heidi-SAHM to 7, 4-1/2 (Apraxia, DSI) 11 months

(VUR, tort/Plagio-DOC Banded 2/14/03 and FTT)

> > > > Hey Heidi:

> > > > So, how did 's big " coming out party " go this weekend? I

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> > > > noone gave you any grief over you banding her! Let us know

> Hope

> > > > it went well.

> > > > Debbie Abby's mom DOCGrad

> > > > MI

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