Guest guest Posted November 27, 2000 Report Share Posted November 27, 2000 Hi - I'm Kaycee, Maggie's mom. I have an odd question. Generally I don't care about people staring at Maggie's band. I have an office Christmas party for the kids of all the employees and although my boss and secretary know about the band, I have told no one else. They are a catty group and I just don't want them to know about the band. My boss and secretary are great about it and have been very encouraging. My boss lets me take time off (no charge to my vacation time) to get the band adjusted. Any suggestions? I am thinking of not traking her and just bringing my older kids or taking the band off. Am I being a jerk, bad parent? Do other people feel this way? I think I am okay with family and close friends and strangers, but my problem is with neighbors and co-workers that I know only casually. Sorry for this really pathetic message. Kaycee > Hello everyone: > I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving. I've been catching up on > all the messages and noticed many people are worried about stares > your beautiful baby will receive while wearing the band. Our 8 1/2 > mo old , Abby has been in her band 2 1/2 weeks. I have noticed many > stares and so many head turns. I find myself laughing at these > people. Who cares what they think?? I'm never going to see them > again! Hey, if my parents could've put a cast on my big nose as a > baby for a few mos to correct the bump I have, man, would I ever be > thanking them today!!!!! I actually find many people saying how cute > she is with it and commenting on the stickers. I decorate Abby's > with seasonal stickers. I just took the turkeys off tonite & > replaced them with Santa & Rudolph. And I can't tell you how many > goose eggs Abby's helmet has prevented. We couldn't have gotten the > helmet at a better time, with her just crawling and pulling herself > up. In the 1 hr we had it off last week, she cut her pretty little > forehead open. Now I don't like taking it off the 1 hr I do! > Anyhow, I hope this helps anyone who's having a hard time with the > rudeness of others. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks of > her pretty little band. Good luck! > Debbie (Abby's mom) : ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2000 Report Share Posted November 27, 2000 Kaycee, I say to heck with what those catty folks will say. Anyone who knows them will probably know the way they are, and will take what they say with a grain of salt. I don't think there's any reason whatsoever to be embarrassed about doing the very best for your child, and if they think something is wrong with it, they should have their heads examined. Besides, you may be surprised - they may actually be curious because they know a baby (or HAVE one) that needs help! Go, take Maggie with her band, don't worry about what anybody else says, and let Maggie enjoy the party. Just my two cents! Becky & (5/4/00, banded since 10/13/00) geoconlaw@... wrote: > > Hi - I'm Kaycee, Maggie's mom. I have an odd question. Generally I > don't care about people staring at Maggie's band. I have an office > Christmas party for the kids of all the employees and although my > boss and secretary know about the band, I have told no one else. > They are a catty group and I just don't want them to know about the > band. My boss and secretary are great about it and have been very > encouraging. My boss lets me take time off (no charge to my vacation > time) to get the band adjusted. Any suggestions? I am thinking of > not traking her and just bringing my older kids or taking the band > off. Am I being a jerk, bad parent? Do other people feel this way? > I think I am okay with family and close friends and strangers, but my > problem is with neighbors and co-workers that I know only casually. > Sorry for this really pathetic message. Kaycee > > > > Hello everyone: > > I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving. I've been catching up on > > all the messages and noticed many people are worried about stares > > your beautiful baby will receive while wearing the band. Our 8 1/2 > > mo old , Abby has been in her band 2 1/2 weeks. I have noticed > many > > stares and so many head turns. I find myself laughing at these > > people. Who cares what they think?? I'm never going to see them > > again! Hey, if my parents could've put a cast on my big nose as a > > baby for a few mos to correct the bump I have, man, would I ever be > > thanking them today!!!!! I actually find many people saying how > cute > > she is with it and commenting on the stickers. I decorate Abby's > > with seasonal stickers. I just took the turkeys off tonite & > > replaced them with Santa & Rudolph. And I can't tell you how many > > goose eggs Abby's helmet has prevented. We couldn't have gotten > the > > helmet at a better time, with her just crawling and pulling herself > > up. In the 1 hr we had it off last week, she cut her pretty little > > forehead open. Now I don't like taking it off the 1 hr I do! > > Anyhow, I hope this helps anyone who's having a hard time with the > > rudeness of others. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks > of > > her pretty little band. Good luck! > > Debbie (Abby's mom) : ) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2000 Report Share Posted November 27, 2000 Well, if you really don't feel like educating a group of catty people about the band, then take it off for a couple of hours while you are at the party if you want. The small amount of extra time the band will be off shouldn't hurt her progress. I told everyone at work about Caroline's band -- even people I don't know or like very well -- because I wanted to educate them about plagio and maybe save someone they know from going through all of this. Plus, I thought that if I told a lot of people then there would be less whispering and speculation if people found out about it. However, that's just the way I am. If you don't feel comfortable about letting those people know your business, then take her band off before the party. It's your decision. But if you do decide to take her with her band on... decorate it really cute with Holiday stickers!!! I bet there are some really festive ones around. That'll make her band much more cheerful and less medical looking. -----Original Message----- From: geoconlaw@... [mailto:geoconlaw@...] Sent: Monday, November 27, 2000 9:55 AM Plagiocephalyegroups Subject: Re: People staring Hi - I'm Kaycee, Maggie's mom. I have an odd question. Generally I don't care about people staring at Maggie's band. I have an office Christmas party for the kids of all the employees and although my boss and secretary know about the band, I have told no one else. They are a catty group and I just don't want them to know about the band. My boss and secretary are great about it and have been very encouraging. My boss lets me take time off (no charge to my vacation time) to get the band adjusted. Any suggestions? I am thinking of not traking her and just bringing my older kids or taking the band off. Am I being a jerk, bad parent? Do other people feel this way? I think I am okay with family and close friends and strangers, but my problem is with neighbors and co-workers that I know only casually. Sorry for this really pathetic message. Kaycee > Hello everyone: > I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving. I've been catching up on > all the messages and noticed many people are worried about stares > your beautiful baby will receive while wearing the band. Our 8 1/2 > mo old , Abby has been in her band 2 1/2 weeks. I have noticed many > stares and so many head turns. I find myself laughing at these > people. Who cares what they think?? I'm never going to see them > again! Hey, if my parents could've put a cast on my big nose as a > baby for a few mos to correct the bump I have, man, would I ever be > thanking them today!!!!! I actually find many people saying how cute > she is with it and commenting on the stickers. I decorate Abby's > with seasonal stickers. I just took the turkeys off tonite & > replaced them with Santa & Rudolph. And I can't tell you how many > goose eggs Abby's helmet has prevented. We couldn't have gotten the > helmet at a better time, with her just crawling and pulling herself > up. In the 1 hr we had it off last week, she cut her pretty little > forehead open. Now I don't like taking it off the 1 hr I do! > Anyhow, I hope this helps anyone who's having a hard time with the > rudeness of others. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks of > her pretty little band. Good luck! > Debbie (Abby's mom) : ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2000 Report Share Posted November 27, 2000 Kaycee: I totally agree with Becky! We had our family reunion in August, and I took Hanna - band and all. I'm only close with a handful of the people that were there, but answered the questions that came my way (which was very few. I think they sent in a "scout" or two, then got the scoop from those few people). One man teased me about being an over protective mom, but otherwise, everyone was very good. I kept some flyers with me (you can copy them from the files section if you want), and handed them to anyone who was curious. Good luck with your decision. Kendra Becky Keck wrote: Kaycee, I say to heck with what those catty folks will say. Anyone who knows them will probably know the way they are, and will take what they say with a grain of salt. I don't think there's any reason whatsoever to be embarrassed about doing the very best for your child, and if they think something is wrong with it, they should have their heads examined. Besides, you may be surprised - they may actually be curious because they know a baby (or HAVE one) that needs help! Go, take Maggie with her band, don't worry about what anybody else says, and let Maggie enjoy the party. Just my two cents! Becky & (5/4/00, banded since 10/13/00) geoconlaw@... wrote: > > Hi - I'm Kaycee, Maggie's mom. I have an odd question. Generally I > don't care about people staring at Maggie's band. I have an office > Christmas party for the kids of all the employees and although my > boss and secretary know about the band, I have told no one else. > They are a catty group and I just don't want them to know about the > band. My boss and secretary are great about it and have been very > encouraging. My boss lets me take time off (no charge to my vacation > time) to get the band adjusted. Any suggestions? I am thinking of > not traking her and just bringing my older kids or taking the band > off. Am I being a jerk, bad parent? Do other people feel this way? > I think I am okay with family and close friends and strangers, but my > problem is with neighbors and co-workers that I know only casually. > Sorry for this really pathetic message. Kaycee > > > > Hello everyone: > > I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving. I've been catching up on > > all the messages and noticed many people are worried about stares > > your beautiful baby will receive while wearing the band. Our 8 1/2 > > mo old , Abby has been in her band 2 1/2 weeks. I have noticed > many > > stares and so many head turns. I find myself laughing at these > > people. Who cares what they think?? I'm never going to see them > > again! Hey, if my parents could've put a cast on my big nose as a > > baby for a few mos to correct the bump I have, man, would I ever be > > thanking them today!!!!! I actually find many people saying how > cute > > she is with it and commenting on the stickers. I decorate Abby's > > with seasonal stickers. I just took the turkeys off tonite & > > replaced them with Santa & Rudolph. And I can't tell you how many > > goose eggs Abby's helmet has prevented. We couldn't have gotten > the > > helmet at a better time, with her just crawling and pulling herself > > up. In the 1 hr we had it off last week, she cut her pretty little > > forehead open. Now I don't like taking it off the 1 hr I do! > > Anyhow, I hope this helps anyone who's having a hard time with the > > rudeness of others. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks > of > > her pretty little band. Good luck! > > Debbie (Abby's mom) : ) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2000 Report Share Posted November 27, 2000 Kaycee, I understand how you feel. There have been times when Hunter has not worn his band because I didn't want to have to explain and talk about the band the whole time. We all need a break once in a while. Do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable. Maggie won't know if she misses the party or not and it certainly won't hurt for her not to wear it for a couple of hours. If you take her with her band on and you are uncomfortable about it more than likely your older children and everyone else there will pick up on it. You're a great mother for making sure Maggie gets treatment! (Hunter's mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2000 Report Share Posted November 28, 2000 My reply is not quite as nice as everyone elses, but my daughter wore her band for four months and I answered tons of questions and stares etc.(which was fine) towards the end, I was out to eat with my husband and daughter and this man was looking at my little girl with a terrible look on his face...not of sympathy or even curiousity...more gauking. I noticed that he just couldn't quit looking. I had finally had enough and I put my hand behind her band and politely flipped up my middlefinger. If he wasn't staring, no harm done...if he was, he got the point. I hope I will be forgiven for this moment of weakness, but I actually feel he deserved it. Good luck to you. Your child is your beautiful baby, don't let anyone make you feel bad about helping her. Good luck! > > Hello everyone: > > I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving. I've been catching up on > > all the messages and noticed many people are worried about stares > > your beautiful baby will receive while wearing the band. Our 8 1/2 > > mo old , Abby has been in her band 2 1/2 weeks. I have noticed > many > > stares and so many head turns. I find myself laughing at these > > people. Who cares what they think?? I'm never going to see them > > again! Hey, if my parents could've put a cast on my big nose as a > > baby for a few mos to correct the bump I have, man, would I ever be > > thanking them today!!!!! I actually find many people saying how > cute > > she is with it and commenting on the stickers. I decorate Abby's > > with seasonal stickers. I just took the turkeys off tonite & > > replaced them with Santa & Rudolph. And I can't tell you how many > > goose eggs Abby's helmet has prevented. We couldn't have gotten > the > > helmet at a better time, with her just crawling and pulling herself > > up. In the 1 hr we had it off last week, she cut her pretty little > > forehead open. Now I don't like taking it off the 1 hr I do! > > Anyhow, I hope this helps anyone who's having a hard time with the > > rudeness of others. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks > of > > her pretty little band. Good luck! > > Debbie (Abby's mom) : ) > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2000 Report Share Posted November 29, 2000 Great Story. Good for you. I answer questions when people are interested and I am happy to do it (like at my church). When we are out and people gawk my husband now stares back at them. -- In Plagiocephalyegroups, Khierholzer@u... wrote: > My reply is not quite as nice as everyone elses, but my daughter > wore her band for four months and I answered tons of questions and > stares etc.(which was fine) towards the end, I was out to eat with > my husband and daughter and this man was looking at my little girl > with a terrible look on his face...not of sympathy or even > curiousity...more gauking. I noticed that he just couldn't quit > looking. I had finally had enough and I put my hand behind her > band and politely flipped up my middlefinger. If he wasn't staring, > no harm done...if he was, he got the point. I hope I will be forgiven > for this moment of weakness, but I actually feel he deserved it. > Good luck to you. Your child is your beautiful baby, don't let > anyone make you feel bad about helping her. Good luck! > > > > > > > Hello everyone: > > > I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving. I've been catching up on > > > all the messages and noticed many people are worried about stares > > > your beautiful baby will receive while wearing the band. Our 8 > 1/2 > > > mo old , Abby has been in her band 2 1/2 weeks. I have noticed > > many > > > stares and so many head turns. I find myself laughing at these > > > people. Who cares what they think?? I'm never going to see them > > > again! Hey, if my parents could've put a cast on my big nose as a > > > baby for a few mos to correct the bump I have, man, would I ever > be > > > thanking them today!!!!! I actually find many people saying how > > cute > > > she is with it and commenting on the stickers. I decorate Abby's > > > with seasonal stickers. I just took the turkeys off tonite & > > > replaced them with Santa & Rudolph. And I can't tell you how many > > > goose eggs Abby's helmet has prevented. We couldn't have gotten > > the > > > helmet at a better time, with her just crawling and pulling > herself > > > up. In the 1 hr we had it off last week, she cut her pretty > little > > > forehead open. Now I don't like taking it off the 1 hr I do! > > > Anyhow, I hope this helps anyone who's having a hard time with the > > > rudeness of others. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks > > of > > > her pretty little band. Good luck! > > > Debbie (Abby's mom) : ) > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Hi ... I don't have much of a rib hump, but I do have an unusual gait when I'm in pain. People sometimes ask about it, and I tell them that it's because of back pain. If they seem interested, I simply tell them I have scoliosis which is an unnatural curvature of the spine. It's a good way to educate the public on the topic. Regards, On 7/7/03 5:51 PM, " MsCello@... " <MsCello@...> wrote: > I.m curious to know now that we are on the subject of the way people > look..... I get stared at and hear kids say " what's wrong with her? " I > have > flatback and lean forward although there is no rib hump. How do you all > handle > this? It is such a minor problem yet I don't know what a good answer is... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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