Guest guest Posted April 12, 2003 Report Share Posted April 12, 2003 How did your parents feel about you getting married and having children, and how did you adjust to living in a new place with someone other than your family? pregnacy and labor Well since much of the life of me was spent in mental wards and such was so isolated from the real of life so not learned much aobu that part of life. I to not be to understand or connect the sex parts of marriage is what created of babies i tothinked in my head they just be to come because of the marriage. Well the time was to understand of hte pregnancy was when the mouth of me had strongest cravings of very salty sour things. Was eating sourkraut stright from can uncooked and want of olives and pickles and meltdown if not get them. this is when learned that was of pregnant with my first. This triggered a fear to me greatly. I to be to then began to read all books in library as could on babies and how to care for them and what to do. so the whole pregnancy was spent researching on how to care for a baby. I to lacked knowing what to expect of labor but was terrified when realized where babies had to enter the world from . that was of so much scare to me. but for me the first baby was of easy. i to had to be induced because my water to breaked the night before and no labor pains to me. they induced me by noon that day and then by 5 or so began to feel of the pains and by one minute till 7 my daughter was of born. Now the nurses are waht made me to feel retarded by them comments to me. such as the crying and fear I to had over the IV and such sayed was acting like a baby and comments of how if was going to be amom to a baby then needed to act like a grown up. Many words like that. I to lacked getted their words they to sayed to me so often couldnot follow through because lacked what they wanted me to do, so then this made them angry to me more. I to wanted so much to go home right after she was born to be with the safe of the husband. Then after they taked her away they not let me see of her and I to not understand why. It was much of 12 or more hours after she was of born before they to finally get her for me. This ot maked me feared and angry. I to wanted to hold that baby as I to loved of babies. It took me much longer time to understand she was not a toy or doll but real and my full responsibility. I to also learned much quick babies dont follow rules like the books say. I to had to nurse the baby every 2 hours instead of every 3 -4 hours. that was confusing and they to say babies cry when wet often my to cry and be not of wet so that was confusing . i to remember once took her diaper off and to looked and no wet and lifted her legs high and kept looking to see why maybe she was not being a wet baby because she was crying so much. I to kep looking for soil or wet but not find it. So then finally learned babies dont be to have rules they set thier own rules . I to learned her cries much quick. She mostly wanted to be just held close to me and I to loved her warm and baby smells. Sondra Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2003 Report Share Posted April 12, 2003 How did your parents feel about you getting married and having children, and how did you adjust to living in a new place with someone other than your family? pregnacy and labor Well since much of the life of me was spent in mental wards and such was so isolated from the real of life so not learned much aobu that part of life. I to not be to understand or connect the sex parts of marriage is what created of babies i tothinked in my head they just be to come because of the marriage. Well the time was to understand of hte pregnancy was when the mouth of me had strongest cravings of very salty sour things. Was eating sourkraut stright from can uncooked and want of olives and pickles and meltdown if not get them. this is when learned that was of pregnant with my first. This triggered a fear to me greatly. I to be to then began to read all books in library as could on babies and how to care for them and what to do. so the whole pregnancy was spent researching on how to care for a baby. I to lacked knowing what to expect of labor but was terrified when realized where babies had to enter the world from . that was of so much scare to me. but for me the first baby was of easy. i to had to be induced because my water to breaked the night before and no labor pains to me. they induced me by noon that day and then by 5 or so began to feel of the pains and by one minute till 7 my daughter was of born. Now the nurses are waht made me to feel retarded by them comments to me. such as the crying and fear I to had over the IV and such sayed was acting like a baby and comments of how if was going to be amom to a baby then needed to act like a grown up. Many words like that. I to lacked getted their words they to sayed to me so often couldnot follow through because lacked what they wanted me to do, so then this made them angry to me more. I to wanted so much to go home right after she was born to be with the safe of the husband. Then after they taked her away they not let me see of her and I to not understand why. It was much of 12 or more hours after she was of born before they to finally get her for me. This ot maked me feared and angry. I to wanted to hold that baby as I to loved of babies. It took me much longer time to understand she was not a toy or doll but real and my full responsibility. I to also learned much quick babies dont follow rules like the books say. I to had to nurse the baby every 2 hours instead of every 3 -4 hours. that was confusing and they to say babies cry when wet often my to cry and be not of wet so that was confusing . i to remember once took her diaper off and to looked and no wet and lifted her legs high and kept looking to see why maybe she was not being a wet baby because she was crying so much. I to kep looking for soil or wet but not find it. So then finally learned babies dont be to have rules they set thier own rules . I to learned her cries much quick. She mostly wanted to be just held close to me and I to loved her warm and baby smells. Sondra Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2003 Report Share Posted April 12, 2003 How did your parents feel about you getting married and having children, and how did you adjust to living in a new place with someone other than your family? pregnacy and labor Well since much of the life of me was spent in mental wards and such was so isolated from the real of life so not learned much aobu that part of life. I to not be to understand or connect the sex parts of marriage is what created of babies i tothinked in my head they just be to come because of the marriage. Well the time was to understand of hte pregnancy was when the mouth of me had strongest cravings of very salty sour things. Was eating sourkraut stright from can uncooked and want of olives and pickles and meltdown if not get them. this is when learned that was of pregnant with my first. This triggered a fear to me greatly. I to be to then began to read all books in library as could on babies and how to care for them and what to do. so the whole pregnancy was spent researching on how to care for a baby. I to lacked knowing what to expect of labor but was terrified when realized where babies had to enter the world from . that was of so much scare to me. but for me the first baby was of easy. i to had to be induced because my water to breaked the night before and no labor pains to me. they induced me by noon that day and then by 5 or so began to feel of the pains and by one minute till 7 my daughter was of born. Now the nurses are waht made me to feel retarded by them comments to me. such as the crying and fear I to had over the IV and such sayed was acting like a baby and comments of how if was going to be amom to a baby then needed to act like a grown up. Many words like that. I to lacked getted their words they to sayed to me so often couldnot follow through because lacked what they wanted me to do, so then this made them angry to me more. I to wanted so much to go home right after she was born to be with the safe of the husband. Then after they taked her away they not let me see of her and I to not understand why. It was much of 12 or more hours after she was of born before they to finally get her for me. This ot maked me feared and angry. I to wanted to hold that baby as I to loved of babies. It took me much longer time to understand she was not a toy or doll but real and my full responsibility. I to also learned much quick babies dont follow rules like the books say. I to had to nurse the baby every 2 hours instead of every 3 -4 hours. that was confusing and they to say babies cry when wet often my to cry and be not of wet so that was confusing . i to remember once took her diaper off and to looked and no wet and lifted her legs high and kept looking to see why maybe she was not being a wet baby because she was crying so much. I to kep looking for soil or wet but not find it. So then finally learned babies dont be to have rules they set thier own rules . I to learned her cries much quick. She mostly wanted to be just held close to me and I to loved her warm and baby smells. Sondra Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2004 Report Share Posted September 26, 2004 Sondra, thanks for sharing this. I'm gonna make sure I use lots of visual pics to explain it all to Allie. If she ever has babies I'm gonna try to be with her as much as possible in the early days to help her adjust. Sometimes, if I can say this without it being offensive to anyone, I worry that her masturbation desires might lead her to becoming sexually active when she might not understand the importance of the act. I also worry that when she gets older boys might realize her inability to express her feelings and it make her an easy target for sexual abuse. If a boy started acting interested, would she have the understanding that he might be giving her a line of lies to simply engage in intercourse with her, that sort of thing. I guess as time goes on I'll know more about her ability to understand it all. I want to let her live her life as she wants while being able to protect her from the people who might take advantage of her. Of course, she will have her big and little sister to help look out for her, so maybe between the four of us and a very loving daddy...! Debi > Well since much of the life of me was spent in mental wards and such > was so isolated from the real of life so not learned much aobu that > part of life. I to not be to understand or connect the sex parts of > marriage is what created of babies i tothinked in my head they just > be to come because of the marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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