Guest guest Posted April 19, 2003 Report Share Posted April 19, 2003 ...you have already made a wonderful start in helping Jamison by stocking up on fruit and getting rid of the sodas. They are fine for an occasional treat but not everyday. Keep up doing that kind of thing...healthy eating....and even though you could never do it for yourself...I know you love Jamison a ton more than you love yourself so you can do this. Keeping Jamison active is also a top priority for fitness. Don't make a huge issue of his weight..try to help him maintain his current weight and just grow into it. Also don't make toooo many changes all at once....get used to NOT drinking Sodas...drinking water with meals....then work on replacing another bad habit...no more than one diet change per month....in a years time you will have ditched 12 bad eating habits and replaced them with 12 good habits.....in fact be tricky....Tell Jamison you need HIS help to improve YOUR diet, let him help you decide which bad habit is going and which good one will replace it. Stress lifestyle change towards health and healthy eating not dieting. Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2003 Report Share Posted April 20, 2003 In a message dated 4/20/2003 9:48:14 AM Central Daylight Time, mjs93311@... writes: > So, avoid empty calories like soda, and MOVE! See, you are doing the right > things already. Marta That's one thing I asked ...If you are going to eat something, at least eat something with nutrients....You know, get the most bang for your buck....LOL. in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2003 Report Share Posted April 20, 2003 In a message dated 4/20/2003 9:48:14 AM Central Daylight Time, mjs93311@... writes: > So, avoid empty calories like soda, and MOVE! See, you are doing the right > things already. Marta That's one thing I asked ...If you are going to eat something, at least eat something with nutrients....You know, get the most bang for your buck....LOL. in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2003 Report Share Posted April 20, 2003 In a message dated 4/20/2003 9:48:14 AM Central Daylight Time, mjs93311@... writes: > So, avoid empty calories like soda, and MOVE! See, you are doing the right > things already. Marta That's one thing I asked ...If you are going to eat something, at least eat something with nutrients....You know, get the most bang for your buck....LOL. in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2003 Report Share Posted April 20, 2003 Hi , I wanted to tell you that my son who turns 18 tommorrow was a big 12 year old also. He was pretty big all through elementary school and he looked about Jamisons size. He ate alot of food, sodas and junk foods. I worried about his weight alot but didn't cut down his food intake. I actually didn't do anything but worry. When he went into high school things changed.. he started to play football, track and weight lifting. He became interested in girls. His boy body slowly was becoming a man's body. His height came in high school (he is 6'3 now). I thought he would end up being short and pudgy like his dad. He was called fat and gay because of his weight. Now... , he is tall and handsome and my phone is ringing off the hook for him. (I always thought he was handsome) I really cringed when you said cut down on his food. I think that when we control others in the food dept. that could backfire and cause more harm than good. The reason I say that is by experience. My mother fed our family well but didn't allow junk food. I loaded up on junk food every chance I had because it was forbidden. I couldn't get enough of it. Issues with food alot of times comes from control, that is the wrong kind of control. I can tell you are a great and loving mom . Reassure Jamison that he is a beautiful person and that you love him. You can offer him healthy choices and teach him moderation with not so healthy things. If anything be ever vigilant of the amount of exercise your son gets. If he is a couch potato and eats and barely moves I would be concerned. I bet four years from now you will tell all of us that this young man has sprouted more than you could have imagined. I wish you well and pray that you will handle this issue with loving kindness. Jamison has a great mom who cares and he will do just fine. Kind regards, Kinsey in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2003 Report Share Posted April 20, 2003 Hi , I wanted to tell you that my son who turns 18 tommorrow was a big 12 year old also. He was pretty big all through elementary school and he looked about Jamisons size. He ate alot of food, sodas and junk foods. I worried about his weight alot but didn't cut down his food intake. I actually didn't do anything but worry. When he went into high school things changed.. he started to play football, track and weight lifting. He became interested in girls. His boy body slowly was becoming a man's body. His height came in high school (he is 6'3 now). I thought he would end up being short and pudgy like his dad. He was called fat and gay because of his weight. Now... , he is tall and handsome and my phone is ringing off the hook for him. (I always thought he was handsome) I really cringed when you said cut down on his food. I think that when we control others in the food dept. that could backfire and cause more harm than good. The reason I say that is by experience. My mother fed our family well but didn't allow junk food. I loaded up on junk food every chance I had because it was forbidden. I couldn't get enough of it. Issues with food alot of times comes from control, that is the wrong kind of control. I can tell you are a great and loving mom . Reassure Jamison that he is a beautiful person and that you love him. You can offer him healthy choices and teach him moderation with not so healthy things. If anything be ever vigilant of the amount of exercise your son gets. If he is a couch potato and eats and barely moves I would be concerned. I bet four years from now you will tell all of us that this young man has sprouted more than you could have imagined. I wish you well and pray that you will handle this issue with loving kindness. Jamison has a great mom who cares and he will do just fine. Kind regards, Kinsey in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2003 Report Share Posted April 20, 2003 Hi , I wanted to tell you that my son who turns 18 tommorrow was a big 12 year old also. He was pretty big all through elementary school and he looked about Jamisons size. He ate alot of food, sodas and junk foods. I worried about his weight alot but didn't cut down his food intake. I actually didn't do anything but worry. When he went into high school things changed.. he started to play football, track and weight lifting. He became interested in girls. His boy body slowly was becoming a man's body. His height came in high school (he is 6'3 now). I thought he would end up being short and pudgy like his dad. He was called fat and gay because of his weight. Now... , he is tall and handsome and my phone is ringing off the hook for him. (I always thought he was handsome) I really cringed when you said cut down on his food. I think that when we control others in the food dept. that could backfire and cause more harm than good. The reason I say that is by experience. My mother fed our family well but didn't allow junk food. I loaded up on junk food every chance I had because it was forbidden. I couldn't get enough of it. Issues with food alot of times comes from control, that is the wrong kind of control. I can tell you are a great and loving mom . Reassure Jamison that he is a beautiful person and that you love him. You can offer him healthy choices and teach him moderation with not so healthy things. If anything be ever vigilant of the amount of exercise your son gets. If he is a couch potato and eats and barely moves I would be concerned. I bet four years from now you will tell all of us that this young man has sprouted more than you could have imagined. I wish you well and pray that you will handle this issue with loving kindness. Jamison has a great mom who cares and he will do just fine. Kind regards, Kinsey in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2003 Report Share Posted April 21, 2003 In a message dated 4/21/2003 11:48:20 AM Central Daylight Time, baroodym@... writes: > You know how teenagers can be. Just love, > love, love him and support him to love himself EXACTLY the > way he is. Remind him often of specific wonderful > characteristics that he is. Write positive affirmations > and post them around the house and in his lunch as little > love notes. It is so hard to feel ok with yourself in this > society. It is so great that he has you and lots of loving > and accepting friends. Acceptance is the most important > thing to young people; it is great that he has that from > others. The hardest part is getting it from your self. > > Love, > > Mona > ITA, I know when I was a teen and 300-400+ pounds, I never felt like my parents felt I was good enough. I know my mother loved me, but I felt like the constant nagging about my weight was like " Hey you look great, " BUT " .... Does this make sense? Weight acceptance in schools is horrible. I know a little girl (teen)whose life is being made miserable because she doesn't conform to the mold that most of these kids do. She is about a size 12, and being called fat is hurting her. It's hard to tell her she is beautiful, because everyone at school calls her fat. The girl is absolutely beautiful and that is the sad part. Great personality, and views herself through the eyes of the ones teasing her. It is sooo hard to view yourself as pretty or a great kid when others tell you different. I know I carry a lot of " baggage " from my teen years. in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2003 Report Share Posted April 21, 2003 In a message dated 4/21/2003 11:48:20 AM Central Daylight Time, baroodym@... writes: > You know how teenagers can be. Just love, > love, love him and support him to love himself EXACTLY the > way he is. Remind him often of specific wonderful > characteristics that he is. Write positive affirmations > and post them around the house and in his lunch as little > love notes. It is so hard to feel ok with yourself in this > society. It is so great that he has you and lots of loving > and accepting friends. Acceptance is the most important > thing to young people; it is great that he has that from > others. The hardest part is getting it from your self. > > Love, > > Mona > ITA, I know when I was a teen and 300-400+ pounds, I never felt like my parents felt I was good enough. I know my mother loved me, but I felt like the constant nagging about my weight was like " Hey you look great, " BUT " .... Does this make sense? Weight acceptance in schools is horrible. I know a little girl (teen)whose life is being made miserable because she doesn't conform to the mold that most of these kids do. She is about a size 12, and being called fat is hurting her. It's hard to tell her she is beautiful, because everyone at school calls her fat. The girl is absolutely beautiful and that is the sad part. Great personality, and views herself through the eyes of the ones teasing her. It is sooo hard to view yourself as pretty or a great kid when others tell you different. I know I carry a lot of " baggage " from my teen years. in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2003 Report Share Posted April 21, 2003 In a message dated 4/21/2003 2:36:35 PM Central Daylight Time, baroodym@... writes: > Same here. And even as an adult it is difficult to accept > when others see beauty in me. > > Mona > Tell me about it.... in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2003 Report Share Posted April 21, 2003 In a message dated 4/21/2003 2:36:35 PM Central Daylight Time, baroodym@... writes: > Same here. And even as an adult it is difficult to accept > when others see beauty in me. > > Mona > Tell me about it.... in Bama http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Surgery- RNY to DS revision on12/6 -377.5 12/17 - 346.5 ( minus 31lbs) 01/15- 338.1 (minus 39.1lbs) 02/12-330.0 (minus 47.5 lbs) 04/06- 324.3 (minus 53.2 lbs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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