Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 Your nada been an expert at throwing money around to control others, she's still at it. Yes, I agree.......... it's the love of money that causes evil. Big difference. We were military too, only we're retired now. In the 70s when real estate was skyrocketing, all our civilian friends bought homes and made nice quick profits that they used to buy nicer homes. We were stuck moving all over the place, and for precisely the reasons you state, we didn't buy a home, because it made no economic sense. Best wishes, Carol ilene@... wrote: > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is the > root of all evil. > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of manipulation > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me from > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada told my > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our first > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an apt or > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds of > money on that deal. > > Ilene > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 Your nada been an expert at throwing money around to control others, she's still at it. Yes, I agree.......... it's the love of money that causes evil. Big difference. We were military too, only we're retired now. In the 70s when real estate was skyrocketing, all our civilian friends bought homes and made nice quick profits that they used to buy nicer homes. We were stuck moving all over the place, and for precisely the reasons you state, we didn't buy a home, because it made no economic sense. Best wishes, Carol ilene@... wrote: > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is the > root of all evil. > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of manipulation > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me from > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada told my > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our first > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an apt or > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds of > money on that deal. > > Ilene > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 Your nada been an expert at throwing money around to control others, she's still at it. Yes, I agree.......... it's the love of money that causes evil. Big difference. We were military too, only we're retired now. In the 70s when real estate was skyrocketing, all our civilian friends bought homes and made nice quick profits that they used to buy nicer homes. We were stuck moving all over the place, and for precisely the reasons you state, we didn't buy a home, because it made no economic sense. Best wishes, Carol ilene@... wrote: > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is the > root of all evil. > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of manipulation > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me from > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada told my > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our first > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an apt or > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds of > money on that deal. > > Ilene > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 Hi everyone Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for manipulation? - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' money, having " too little " ... etc. When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. Minja > money is the root.... > > > > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is > the > root of all evil. > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of > manipulation > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me > from > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada > told my > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our > first > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an > apt or > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds > of > money on that deal. > > Ilene > > > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to > ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to > ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for > non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of > contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 Hi everyone Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for manipulation? - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' money, having " too little " ... etc. When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. Minja > money is the root.... > > > > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is > the > root of all evil. > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of > manipulation > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me > from > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada > told my > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our > first > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an > apt or > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds > of > money on that deal. > > Ilene > > > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to > ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to > ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for > non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of > contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 Hi everyone Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for manipulation? - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' money, having " too little " ... etc. When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. Minja > money is the root.... > > > > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is > the > root of all evil. > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of > manipulation > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me > from > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada > told my > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our > first > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an > apt or > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds > of > money on that deal. > > Ilene > > > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to > ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to > ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for > non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of > contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Minja, The letter of Irene's mother made me feel like writing something similar but you were first :-)! My mother punished me by not giving me financial support when I studied (I could not finish my studies). She always told me that I would end up in the gutter. I lived from social welfare for a while. I have then decided that I never want to depend financially on someone again. I'm not willing to be submissive just to get financial support. I am not for sale. And now I finally have a prestigious job with a good salary. And I spend it to spoil myself, to travel and to buy nice clothes. If this is the gutter, I don't mind staying in it! And when I think about nada's money, she can put it where I think she can (sorry to be so blunt). A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I find that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, can you? I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving because you feel like giving, not because you expect something in return. Hildegard > Hi everyone > Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for > manipulation? > - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her > money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' > money, having " too little " ... etc. > When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and > having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. > Minja > > > money is the root.... > > > > > > > > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is > > the > > root of all evil. > > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of > > manipulation > > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me > > from > > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada > > told my > > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our > > first > > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an > > apt or > > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds > > of > > money on that deal. > > > > Ilene > > > > > > > > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to > > ModOasis-unsubscribe@y... Send questions & concerns to > > ModOasis-owner@y... " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for > > non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of > > contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Minja, The letter of Irene's mother made me feel like writing something similar but you were first :-)! My mother punished me by not giving me financial support when I studied (I could not finish my studies). She always told me that I would end up in the gutter. I lived from social welfare for a while. I have then decided that I never want to depend financially on someone again. I'm not willing to be submissive just to get financial support. I am not for sale. And now I finally have a prestigious job with a good salary. And I spend it to spoil myself, to travel and to buy nice clothes. If this is the gutter, I don't mind staying in it! And when I think about nada's money, she can put it where I think she can (sorry to be so blunt). A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I find that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, can you? I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving because you feel like giving, not because you expect something in return. Hildegard > Hi everyone > Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for > manipulation? > - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her > money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' > money, having " too little " ... etc. > When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and > having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. > Minja > > > money is the root.... > > > > > > > > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is > > the > > root of all evil. > > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of > > manipulation > > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me > > from > > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada > > told my > > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our > > first > > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an > > apt or > > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds > > of > > money on that deal. > > > > Ilene > > > > > > > > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to > > ModOasis-unsubscribe@y... Send questions & concerns to > > ModOasis-owner@y... " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for > > non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of > > contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Minja, The letter of Irene's mother made me feel like writing something similar but you were first :-)! My mother punished me by not giving me financial support when I studied (I could not finish my studies). She always told me that I would end up in the gutter. I lived from social welfare for a while. I have then decided that I never want to depend financially on someone again. I'm not willing to be submissive just to get financial support. I am not for sale. And now I finally have a prestigious job with a good salary. And I spend it to spoil myself, to travel and to buy nice clothes. If this is the gutter, I don't mind staying in it! And when I think about nada's money, she can put it where I think she can (sorry to be so blunt). A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I find that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, can you? I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving because you feel like giving, not because you expect something in return. Hildegard > Hi everyone > Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for > manipulation? > - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her > money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' > money, having " too little " ... etc. > When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and > having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. > Minja > > > money is the root.... > > > > > > > > Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is > > the > > root of all evil. > > This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of > > manipulation > > really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me > > from > > being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada > > told my > > hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our > > first > > home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an > > apt or > > small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds > > of > > money on that deal. > > > > Ilene > > > > > > > > > > To get off the list, send a blank message to > > ModOasis-unsubscribe@y... Send questions & concerns to > > ModOasis-owner@y... " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for > > non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of > > contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Money is the center of their universe- absolutely. Ellen At 08:52 AM 11/28/01 +0200, you wrote: >Hi everyone >Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for >manipulation? >- Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her >money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' >money, having " too little " ... etc. >When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and >having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. >Minja > >> money is the root.... >> >> >> >> Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is >> the >> root of all evil. >> This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of >> manipulation >> really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me >> from >> being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada >> told my >> hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our >> first >> home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an >> apt or >> small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds >> of >> money on that deal. >> >> Ilene >> >> >> >> >> To get off the list, send a blank message to >> ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to >> ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for >> non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of >> contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Money is the center of their universe- absolutely. Ellen At 08:52 AM 11/28/01 +0200, you wrote: >Hi everyone >Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for >manipulation? >- Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her >money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' >money, having " too little " ... etc. >When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and >having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. >Minja > >> money is the root.... >> >> >> >> Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is >> the >> root of all evil. >> This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of >> manipulation >> really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me >> from >> being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada >> told my >> hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our >> first >> home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an >> apt or >> small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds >> of >> money on that deal. >> >> Ilene >> >> >> >> >> To get off the list, send a blank message to >> ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to >> ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for >> non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of >> contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Money is the center of their universe- absolutely. Ellen At 08:52 AM 11/28/01 +0200, you wrote: >Hi everyone >Have you also found that money is one of your nada's prime tools for >manipulation? >- Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her >money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' >money, having " too little " ... etc. >When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and >having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. >Minja > >> money is the root.... >> >> >> >> Actually, money is neither good nor bad - it's the LOVE of money that is >> the >> root of all evil. >> This has taken me some time to learn and unlearn! This kind of >> manipulation >> really messed up my ability to discern needs from wants and also kept me >> from >> being able to appreciate the small things. Also, the first thing my nada >> told my >> hubby after she met him was she was giving us 10,000 to help us buy our >> first >> home. We got pushed into home ownership when we should have been in an >> apt or >> small rental since we were military and apt to move . We lost all kinds >> of >> money on that deal. >> >> Ilene >> >> >> >> >> To get off the list, send a blank message to >> ModOasis-unsubscribe . Send questions & concerns to >> ModOasis-owner . " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for >> non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of >> contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 >A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I find >that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, can you? >I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving because >you feel like giving, not because you expect something in return. > >Hildegard, Very well said. When you lack a stable sense of who you are & can't look deep enough to have any spiritual connections, MONEY becomes KING. All behavior is conditional. Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 >A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I find >that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, can you? >I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving because >you feel like giving, not because you expect something in return. > >Hildegard, Very well said. When you lack a stable sense of who you are & can't look deep enough to have any spiritual connections, MONEY becomes KING. All behavior is conditional. Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 >A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I find >that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, can you? >I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving because >you feel like giving, not because you expect something in return. > >Hildegard, Very well said. When you lack a stable sense of who you are & can't look deep enough to have any spiritual connections, MONEY becomes KING. All behavior is conditional. Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My Mom is very controlling with money, as was her father. Cyndy --- " Ellen C. Greene " wrote: > >A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I > find > >that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, > can you? > >I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving > because > >you feel like giving, not because you expect something in > return. > > > >Hildegard, > > Very well said. When you lack a stable sense of who you are & > can't look > deep enough to have any spiritual connections, MONEY becomes > KING. All > behavior is conditional. > Ellen > ===== __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My Mom is very controlling with money, as was her father. Cyndy --- " Ellen C. Greene " wrote: > >A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I > find > >that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, > can you? > >I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving > because > >you feel like giving, not because you expect something in > return. > > > >Hildegard, > > Very well said. When you lack a stable sense of who you are & > can't look > deep enough to have any spiritual connections, MONEY becomes > KING. All > behavior is conditional. > Ellen > ===== __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My Mom is very controlling with money, as was her father. Cyndy --- " Ellen C. Greene " wrote: > >A lot of old people seem to have this obsession with money. I > find > >that strange, as you can't take it with you in your grave, > can you? > >I think being generous is being unconditional. It's giving > because > >you feel like giving, not because you expect something in > return. > > > >Hildegard, > > Very well said. When you lack a stable sense of who you are & > can't look > deep enough to have any spiritual connections, MONEY becomes > KING. All > behavior is conditional. > Ellen > ===== __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My nada is obsessed with money too. She gave up working when she was young, (60) and decided to live off of her pension (less than 500/month) and in order to do that, she needed to move in with me and my sister. She colors it differently " Oh, my daughters live all over the country and I just want to spend my time visiting with my adorable grandchildren while I am still healthy " . She does not contribute to the households she mooches off of, bec. she is a queen, her humble servants should take care of that. She likes to read " Town and Country " and gushes over social climbing stuff. When she was here she loved to gush over my inlwaws and would come dowstairs with perfume and jewelry (wasted effort, they are reserved New Englanders). She is obsessed with the wealth of her incestuous brother. Everything is about class and what things look like, and if even slightly challenged on that topic, she goes into full waif, saying she has nothing. Nada was obsessed with my husband's salary, (middle class university). My husband has a glossy MBA and lots of his classmates are rich now, we didn't go on that road bec. we decided early on that we needed to have a simple life bec. of our focus on our kids. She never quit talking about what one cousin said he would do with my husband's education. Can you believe that? She tried to pass of Cubic Zirconias numerous times as diamonds. Most recently she went to NYC and bought some Fabulous Fake watches. When my inlaws were here and I was asking if someone had seen my watch (I was doing dishes), she went around in a loud voice saying, " Has anyone seen a Cartier watch? " Eeeeewww. She's obsesses with money alright. I believe if she had enough of it to manipulate she would. But she has mastered the art of using the concept of money to her waiflike advantage. If one of her children has a " bonus " she tries to find a way to benefit. Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My nada is obsessed with money too. She gave up working when she was young, (60) and decided to live off of her pension (less than 500/month) and in order to do that, she needed to move in with me and my sister. She colors it differently " Oh, my daughters live all over the country and I just want to spend my time visiting with my adorable grandchildren while I am still healthy " . She does not contribute to the households she mooches off of, bec. she is a queen, her humble servants should take care of that. She likes to read " Town and Country " and gushes over social climbing stuff. When she was here she loved to gush over my inlwaws and would come dowstairs with perfume and jewelry (wasted effort, they are reserved New Englanders). She is obsessed with the wealth of her incestuous brother. Everything is about class and what things look like, and if even slightly challenged on that topic, she goes into full waif, saying she has nothing. Nada was obsessed with my husband's salary, (middle class university). My husband has a glossy MBA and lots of his classmates are rich now, we didn't go on that road bec. we decided early on that we needed to have a simple life bec. of our focus on our kids. She never quit talking about what one cousin said he would do with my husband's education. Can you believe that? She tried to pass of Cubic Zirconias numerous times as diamonds. Most recently she went to NYC and bought some Fabulous Fake watches. When my inlaws were here and I was asking if someone had seen my watch (I was doing dishes), she went around in a loud voice saying, " Has anyone seen a Cartier watch? " Eeeeewww. She's obsesses with money alright. I believe if she had enough of it to manipulate she would. But she has mastered the art of using the concept of money to her waiflike advantage. If one of her children has a " bonus " she tries to find a way to benefit. Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My nada is obsessed with money too. She gave up working when she was young, (60) and decided to live off of her pension (less than 500/month) and in order to do that, she needed to move in with me and my sister. She colors it differently " Oh, my daughters live all over the country and I just want to spend my time visiting with my adorable grandchildren while I am still healthy " . She does not contribute to the households she mooches off of, bec. she is a queen, her humble servants should take care of that. She likes to read " Town and Country " and gushes over social climbing stuff. When she was here she loved to gush over my inlwaws and would come dowstairs with perfume and jewelry (wasted effort, they are reserved New Englanders). She is obsessed with the wealth of her incestuous brother. Everything is about class and what things look like, and if even slightly challenged on that topic, she goes into full waif, saying she has nothing. Nada was obsessed with my husband's salary, (middle class university). My husband has a glossy MBA and lots of his classmates are rich now, we didn't go on that road bec. we decided early on that we needed to have a simple life bec. of our focus on our kids. She never quit talking about what one cousin said he would do with my husband's education. Can you believe that? She tried to pass of Cubic Zirconias numerous times as diamonds. Most recently she went to NYC and bought some Fabulous Fake watches. When my inlaws were here and I was asking if someone had seen my watch (I was doing dishes), she went around in a loud voice saying, " Has anyone seen a Cartier watch? " Eeeeewww. She's obsesses with money alright. I believe if she had enough of it to manipulate she would. But she has mastered the art of using the concept of money to her waiflike advantage. If one of her children has a " bonus " she tries to find a way to benefit. Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Minja - you said " - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' money, having " too little " ... etc. When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. " Maybe I should send my nada to visit yours and they could talk about money and how ungrateful their daughters were/are!!! Yes, my nada focused on money all the time, but I didn't realize how much until your post! Ilene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 Minja - you said " - Lending money to relatives, borrowing money, making relatives owe her money, complaining about not being paid back, being resentful of others' money, having " too little " ... etc. When we still used to talk, nada would focus on all aspects of money and having/not havng it for 80% of her long monologue. " Maybe I should send my nada to visit yours and they could talk about money and how ungrateful their daughters were/are!!! Yes, my nada focused on money all the time, but I didn't realize how much until your post! Ilene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My nada was also always curious about how much we paid for something and how much my hubby got paid. I got good at the " Ann Landers's type answers but she'd still push. Talk about no boundaries. Ilene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2001 Report Share Posted November 28, 2001 My nada was also always curious about how much we paid for something and how much my hubby got paid. I got good at the " Ann Landers's type answers but she'd still push. Talk about no boundaries. Ilene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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