Guest guest Posted November 29, 2001 Report Share Posted November 29, 2001 Amputation. That's a great analogy, Minja! It's exactly like that. Amputation was the only solution for me too. Once I amputated mother (diseased limb), she couldn't poison my system any longer. It's definitely way better than living with mother (diseased limb) and being unwell until I die. With all the poison gone, I've gotten my health (mental, emotion and physical) back. Maybe we can amputate all the others in our life who don't understand and are in denial. Take care......... Carol Minja Simpson wrote: > Hi again > To me the only closure was amputation; you know how a diseased limb can > poison your whole system? You can live wih it and be unwell until you die, > or you can amputate and get your health back. You lose a limb, but you have > life after that. That's how I feel. > Who knows how much we aputate - maybe we can regrow that limb! > Actually, it's 9.30 am here (South Africa). > Take care > Minja > > Carol M [camckay@...] wrote: > > > Hi Minja! We must be burning the midnight oil! Hehehehehe > > > > In my 54 years of life, there's been no greater loneliness, and no greater > > pain. It's worse than a loss by death, because death is final, and > > there's closure. BPD abandonment provides no finality and no closure. It > > just hangs there, taunting us with unrelenting pain and agony. The hurt > > is so deep, > > it pierces our very body, mind, heart and soul. This is the legacy we > > must endure, thanks to our BPD mothers. > > > > Best wishes, > > Carol > > > > > > Minja Simpson wrote: > > > > > Hi Carol > > > Exactly my experience. It's a double problem. Nada's abuse would be > > > easier > > > to come to terms with if the rest of the family would acknowledge and > > > address it. I sometimes wonder if there is any greater loneliness in the > > > world than that feeling of desertion. > > > Keep well, friend. > > > Minja > > > > > > Carol M [camckay@...] wrote: > > > It's the same with me too. No one really understands, because they > > > filter it through their own " normal " experiences, or they're in denial > > > because it's a family member. The subtle unspoken attitude seems > > > to be, " deal with it " , or " forget about it " , or " don't lose a wink of sleep > > > over it " , as if it can be turned off like a faucet. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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