RE: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

[Guest guest]

Hi!!

I shave her with the non electric razor myself....then electric or the

battery one, she can do herself, but my dd is low functioning and needs

help. She DOES understand what is going on, and many times runs away. I

tell her to look at my legs and arms....I have to get her in the mood, which

requires, like I mentioned earlier singing and joking. Fortunately my

has a great sense of humor, unlike her NT sister who has barely

NONE!!

Hope this helps some. Your DD is more likely higher functioning and can do

this herself with prompting.

Good Luck!!

Body Hair removal

> >

> >

> > >

> > >

> > > This might sound a bit weird. I am looking for best ways to do hair

> > > removal for my 11 year old. She has lots of it and not sure whether

> > > I can use creams, wax etc. Shaving should be done more often which

> > > is not practical for me since she can't do it by herself. Does

> > > anyone have experience with laser hair removal methods? Are there

> > > any side effects to it? She has high allergies. Your feed back

> > > will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

> > >

> > > Geeta.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

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[Guest guest]

Hi!!

I shave her with the non electric razor myself....then electric or the

battery one, she can do herself, but my dd is low functioning and needs

help. She DOES understand what is going on, and many times runs away. I

tell her to look at my legs and arms....I have to get her in the mood, which

requires, like I mentioned earlier singing and joking. Fortunately my

has a great sense of humor, unlike her NT sister who has barely

NONE!!

Hope this helps some. Your DD is more likely higher functioning and can do

this herself with prompting.

Good Luck!!

Body Hair removal

> >

> >

> > >

> > >

> > > This might sound a bit weird. I am looking for best ways to do hair

> > > removal for my 11 year old. She has lots of it and not sure whether

> > > I can use creams, wax etc. Shaving should be done more often which

> > > is not practical for me since she can't do it by herself. Does

> > > anyone have experience with laser hair removal methods? Are there

> > > any side effects to it? She has high allergies. Your feed back

> > > will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

> > >

> > > Geeta.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe

> > > ------------------------

> > > Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe

> > >

[Guest guest]

Hi!!

I shave her with the non electric razor myself....then electric or the

battery one, she can do herself, but my dd is low functioning and needs

help. She DOES understand what is going on, and many times runs away. I

tell her to look at my legs and arms....I have to get her in the mood, which

requires, like I mentioned earlier singing and joking. Fortunately my

has a great sense of humor, unlike her NT sister who has barely

NONE!!

Hope this helps some. Your DD is more likely higher functioning and can do

this herself with prompting.

Good Luck!!

Body Hair removal

> >

> >

> > >

> > >

> > > This might sound a bit weird. I am looking for best ways to do hair

> > > removal for my 11 year old. She has lots of it and not sure whether

> > > I can use creams, wax etc. Shaving should be done more often which

> > > is not practical for me since she can't do it by herself. Does

> > > anyone have experience with laser hair removal methods? Are there

> > > any side effects to it? She has high allergies. Your feed back

> > > will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

> > >

> > > Geeta.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe

> > > ------------------------

> > > Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe

> > >

[Guest guest]

pollydolly63 wrote:

> I let my daughter shave herself. She does fine. The only

> problem now is that she's got it in her head that ALL

> hair (except head) is icky. I caught her shaving her

> " middle "

I'm coming out of lurkdom to comment on this. First, I was

recently found to have Asperger's Syndrome, so I speak as a

person on the Spectrum when I say this.

I have very strong sensory issues related to body hair, and

I MUST shave my pubic hair as well. I know some people find

that offensive for some reason, but I cannot bear to have

hair " down there " . It literally makes me feel nauseated and

dirty when I have hair there (though I really don't care at

all what others do with their own bodies- this is just for

me personally). So my opinion is that you should let her

shave there if she wants to.

Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues related to

the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on shaving them

anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away when her

mother approaches her with the razor. Your daughter's body

belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not offend her,

and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be shaved? It

will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the arms and

on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be hairy there.

I have already had problems with being misunderstood and

" flamed " on this list, so if anyone wants to write back to

say that I am wrong or bad for having this opinion, please

realize in advance that I will not respond, as it causes me

far too much stress to argue.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

pollydolly63 wrote:

> I let my daughter shave herself. She does fine. The only

> problem now is that she's got it in her head that ALL

> hair (except head) is icky. I caught her shaving her

> " middle "

I'm coming out of lurkdom to comment on this. First, I was

recently found to have Asperger's Syndrome, so I speak as a

person on the Spectrum when I say this.

I have very strong sensory issues related to body hair, and

I MUST shave my pubic hair as well. I know some people find

that offensive for some reason, but I cannot bear to have

hair " down there " . It literally makes me feel nauseated and

dirty when I have hair there (though I really don't care at

all what others do with their own bodies- this is just for

me personally). So my opinion is that you should let her

shave there if she wants to.

Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues related to

the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on shaving them

anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away when her

mother approaches her with the razor. Your daughter's body

belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not offend her,

and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be shaved? It

will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the arms and

on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be hairy there.

I have already had problems with being misunderstood and

" flamed " on this list, so if anyone wants to write back to

say that I am wrong or bad for having this opinion, please

realize in advance that I will not respond, as it causes me

far too much stress to argue.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

pollydolly63 wrote:

> I let my daughter shave herself. She does fine. The only

> problem now is that she's got it in her head that ALL

> hair (except head) is icky. I caught her shaving her

> " middle "

I'm coming out of lurkdom to comment on this. First, I was

recently found to have Asperger's Syndrome, so I speak as a

person on the Spectrum when I say this.

I have very strong sensory issues related to body hair, and

I MUST shave my pubic hair as well. I know some people find

that offensive for some reason, but I cannot bear to have

hair " down there " . It literally makes me feel nauseated and

dirty when I have hair there (though I really don't care at

all what others do with their own bodies- this is just for

me personally). So my opinion is that you should let her

shave there if she wants to.

Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues related to

the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on shaving them

anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away when her

mother approaches her with the razor. Your daughter's body

belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not offend her,

and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be shaved? It

will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the arms and

on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be hairy there.

I have already had problems with being misunderstood and

" flamed " on this list, so if anyone wants to write back to

say that I am wrong or bad for having this opinion, please

realize in advance that I will not respond, as it causes me

far too much stress to argue.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

>

> Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> related to

> the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> shaving them

> anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away

> when her

> mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> daughter's body

> belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> offend her,

> and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be

> shaved? It

> will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the

> arms and

> on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be

> hairy there.

>

I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

extensive hair removal because i run around in a

leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good way to

grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

Kassiane

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

>

> Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> related to

> the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> shaving them

> anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away

> when her

> mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> daughter's body

> belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> offend her,

> and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be

> shaved? It

> will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the

> arms and

> on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be

> hairy there.

>

I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

extensive hair removal because i run around in a

leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good way to

grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

Kassiane

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

>

> Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> related to

> the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> shaving them

> anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away

> when her

> mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> daughter's body

> belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> offend her,

> and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be

> shaved? It

> will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the

> arms and

> on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be

> hairy there.

>

I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

extensive hair removal because i run around in a

leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good way to

grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

Kassiane

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

kirithu wrote:

> I feel that this will

> only increase their confidence and ours too:)

> I might be wrong.. Not sure..

Is it possible to let her make that decision,

rather than making it for her?

Please understand that I am not attacking you, I

apologize if it comes across that way.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

kirithu wrote:

> I feel that this will

> only increase their confidence and ours too:)

> I might be wrong.. Not sure..

Is it possible to let her make that decision,

rather than making it for her?

Please understand that I am not attacking you, I

apologize if it comes across that way.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

kirithu wrote:

> I feel that this will

> only increase their confidence and ours too:)

> I might be wrong.. Not sure..

Is it possible to let her make that decision,

rather than making it for her?

Please understand that I am not attacking you, I

apologize if it comes across that way.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

If SHE cares...then SHE can learn to shave. And theres

bleaching or waxing for facial. NEVER SHAVING.

EVEREVEREVEREVEREVER. But if she cares about it, she

can probably learn to shave. And theres that natural

waxing kit thing, Ive never done it cuz I have

tumbling 2-3 times a week but its there. It should be

HER CHOICE, however.

If she is uncomfortable with hair removal, her peers

can get over it, and be told to. Typical kids can be

real buttheads, but no where is it written that we

have to let them get away with it. Its one thing if

the hair bugs her, its another if it bugs Mom. It's

HER hair, after all.

Kassiane

--- kirithu wrote:

>

> Well, this is a girl who is in class along with

> normal peers and

> basically is going to be teased a lot. She also

> takes swimming

> lessons where I have to take her to a public rec

> centre. She is

> also very particular about how she wants to

> look(longer hair etc.),

> gets attracted by some of the clothings and stuffs

> that her

> classmates have. I feel that this will only increase

> their

> confidence and ours too:) I might be wrong.. Not

> sure..

>

> Geeta

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> > > related to

> > > the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> > > shaving them

> > > anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs

> away

> > > when her

> > > mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> > > daughter's body

> > > belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> > > offend her,

> > > and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she

> be

> > > shaved? It

> > > will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under

> the

> > > arms and

> > > on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to

> be

> > > hairy there.

> > >

> >

> > I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

> > died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

> > armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

> > extensive hair removal because i run around in a

> > leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

> > otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

> >

> > And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good

> way to

> > grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

> >

> > Kassiane

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

If SHE cares...then SHE can learn to shave. And theres

bleaching or waxing for facial. NEVER SHAVING.

EVEREVEREVEREVEREVER. But if she cares about it, she

can probably learn to shave. And theres that natural

waxing kit thing, Ive never done it cuz I have

tumbling 2-3 times a week but its there. It should be

HER CHOICE, however.

If she is uncomfortable with hair removal, her peers

can get over it, and be told to. Typical kids can be

real buttheads, but no where is it written that we

have to let them get away with it. Its one thing if

the hair bugs her, its another if it bugs Mom. It's

HER hair, after all.

Kassiane

--- kirithu wrote:

>

> Well, this is a girl who is in class along with

> normal peers and

> basically is going to be teased a lot. She also

> takes swimming

> lessons where I have to take her to a public rec

> centre. She is

> also very particular about how she wants to

> look(longer hair etc.),

> gets attracted by some of the clothings and stuffs

> that her

> classmates have. I feel that this will only increase

> their

> confidence and ours too:) I might be wrong.. Not

> sure..

>

> Geeta

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> > > related to

> > > the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> > > shaving them

> > > anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs

> away

> > > when her

> > > mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> > > daughter's body

> > > belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> > > offend her,

> > > and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she

> be

> > > shaved? It

> > > will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under

> the

> > > arms and

> > > on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to

> be

> > > hairy there.

> > >

> >

> > I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

> > died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

> > armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

> > extensive hair removal because i run around in a

> > leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

> > otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

> >

> > And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good

> way to

> > grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

> >

> > Kassiane

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

If SHE cares...then SHE can learn to shave. And theres

bleaching or waxing for facial. NEVER SHAVING.

EVEREVEREVEREVEREVER. But if she cares about it, she

can probably learn to shave. And theres that natural

waxing kit thing, Ive never done it cuz I have

tumbling 2-3 times a week but its there. It should be

HER CHOICE, however.

If she is uncomfortable with hair removal, her peers

can get over it, and be told to. Typical kids can be

real buttheads, but no where is it written that we

have to let them get away with it. Its one thing if

the hair bugs her, its another if it bugs Mom. It's

HER hair, after all.

Kassiane

--- kirithu wrote:

>

> Well, this is a girl who is in class along with

> normal peers and

> basically is going to be teased a lot. She also

> takes swimming

> lessons where I have to take her to a public rec

> centre. She is

> also very particular about how she wants to

> look(longer hair etc.),

> gets attracted by some of the clothings and stuffs

> that her

> classmates have. I feel that this will only increase

> their

> confidence and ours too:) I might be wrong.. Not

> sure..

>

> Geeta

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> > > related to

> > > the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> > > shaving them

> > > anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs

> away

> > > when her

> > > mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> > > daughter's body

> > > belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> > > offend her,

> > > and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she

> be

> > > shaved? It

> > > will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under

> the

> > > arms and

> > > on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to

> be

> > > hairy there.

> > >

> >

> > I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

> > died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

> > armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

> > extensive hair removal because i run around in a

> > leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

> > otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

> >

> > And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good

> way to

> > grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

> >

> > Kassiane

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I agree Kassi. I used the same approach on my daughter insofar as her hair

(head). She has realllly long hair and hates to have it washed and combed.

I told her the choice was hers, I could have it cut like a friend of hers

(short like a pixie elf - really cute) and then we wouldn't have to wash so

often or she could keep it long and not complain when it's shampoo/comb

time. She decided on her own that she'd rather have the long hair (I

believe she uses her long hair as a sort of " shield " against her and the

world). So now she doesn't complain so much since the decision is hers. And

when she does, I remind her.

Diane

Re: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

If SHE cares...then SHE can learn to shave. And theres

bleaching or waxing for facial. NEVER SHAVING.

EVEREVEREVEREVEREVER. But if she cares about it, she

can probably learn to shave. And theres that natural

waxing kit thing, Ive never done it cuz I have

tumbling 2-3 times a week but its there. It should be

HER CHOICE, however.

If she is uncomfortable with hair removal, her peers

can get over it, and be told to. Typical kids can be

real buttheads, but no where is it written that we

have to let them get away with it. Its one thing if

the hair bugs her, its another if it bugs Mom. It's

HER hair, after all.

Kassiane

--- kirithu wrote:

>

> Well, this is a girl who is in class along with

> normal peers and

> basically is going to be teased a lot. She also

> takes swimming

> lessons where I have to take her to a public rec

> centre. She is

> also very particular about how she wants to

> look(longer hair etc.),

> gets attracted by some of the clothings and stuffs

> that her

> classmates have. I feel that this will only increase

> their

> confidence and ours too:) I might be wrong.. Not

> sure..

>

> Geeta

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> > > related to

> > > the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> > > shaving them

> > > anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs

> away

> > > when her

> > > mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> > > daughter's body

> > > belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> > > offend her,

> > > and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she

> be

> > > shaved? It

> > > will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under

> the

> > > arms and

> > > on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to

> be

> > > hairy there.

> > >

> >

> > I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

> > died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

> > armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

> > extensive hair removal because i run around in a

> > leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

> > otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

> >

> > And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good

> way to

> > grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

> >

> > Kassiane

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I agree Kassi. I used the same approach on my daughter insofar as her hair

(head). She has realllly long hair and hates to have it washed and combed.

I told her the choice was hers, I could have it cut like a friend of hers

(short like a pixie elf - really cute) and then we wouldn't have to wash so

often or she could keep it long and not complain when it's shampoo/comb

time. She decided on her own that she'd rather have the long hair (I

believe she uses her long hair as a sort of " shield " against her and the

world). So now she doesn't complain so much since the decision is hers. And

when she does, I remind her.

Diane

Re: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

If SHE cares...then SHE can learn to shave. And theres

bleaching or waxing for facial. NEVER SHAVING.

EVEREVEREVEREVEREVER. But if she cares about it, she

can probably learn to shave. And theres that natural

waxing kit thing, Ive never done it cuz I have

tumbling 2-3 times a week but its there. It should be

HER CHOICE, however.

If she is uncomfortable with hair removal, her peers

can get over it, and be told to. Typical kids can be

real buttheads, but no where is it written that we

have to let them get away with it. Its one thing if

the hair bugs her, its another if it bugs Mom. It's

HER hair, after all.

Kassiane

--- kirithu wrote:

>

> Well, this is a girl who is in class along with

> normal peers and

> basically is going to be teased a lot. She also

> takes swimming

> lessons where I have to take her to a public rec

> centre. She is

> also very particular about how she wants to

> look(longer hair etc.),

> gets attracted by some of the clothings and stuffs

> that her

> classmates have. I feel that this will only increase

> their

> confidence and ours too:) I might be wrong.. Not

> sure..

>

> Geeta

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> > > related to

> > > the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> > > shaving them

> > > anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs

> away

> > > when her

> > > mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> > > daughter's body

> > > belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> > > offend her,

> > > and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she

> be

> > > shaved? It

> > > will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under

> the

> > > arms and

> > > on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to

> be

> > > hairy there.

> > >

> >

> > I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

> > died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

> > armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

> > extensive hair removal because i run around in a

> > leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

> > otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

> >

> > And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good

> way to

> > grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

> >

> > Kassiane

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I agree Kassi. I used the same approach on my daughter insofar as her hair

(head). She has realllly long hair and hates to have it washed and combed.

I told her the choice was hers, I could have it cut like a friend of hers

(short like a pixie elf - really cute) and then we wouldn't have to wash so

often or she could keep it long and not complain when it's shampoo/comb

time. She decided on her own that she'd rather have the long hair (I

believe she uses her long hair as a sort of " shield " against her and the

world). So now she doesn't complain so much since the decision is hers. And

when she does, I remind her.

Diane

Re: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

If SHE cares...then SHE can learn to shave. And theres

bleaching or waxing for facial. NEVER SHAVING.

EVEREVEREVEREVEREVER. But if she cares about it, she

can probably learn to shave. And theres that natural

waxing kit thing, Ive never done it cuz I have

tumbling 2-3 times a week but its there. It should be

HER CHOICE, however.

If she is uncomfortable with hair removal, her peers

can get over it, and be told to. Typical kids can be

real buttheads, but no where is it written that we

have to let them get away with it. Its one thing if

the hair bugs her, its another if it bugs Mom. It's

HER hair, after all.

Kassiane

--- kirithu wrote:

>

> Well, this is a girl who is in class along with

> normal peers and

> basically is going to be teased a lot. She also

> takes swimming

> lessons where I have to take her to a public rec

> centre. She is

> also very particular about how she wants to

> look(longer hair etc.),

> gets attracted by some of the clothings and stuffs

> that her

> classmates have. I feel that this will only increase

> their

> confidence and ours too:) I might be wrong.. Not

> sure..

>

> Geeta

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues

> > > related to

> > > the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on

> > > shaving them

> > > anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs

> away

> > > when her

> > > mother approaches her with the razor. Your

> > > daughter's body

> > > belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not

> > > offend her,

> > > and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she

> be

> > > shaved? It

> > > will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under

> the

> > > arms and

> > > on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to

> be

> > > hairy there.

> > >

> >

> > I agree with Lilli. It's their bodies. No one ever

> > died or was damaged or made ill from having leg or

> > armpit hair that didnt bother them. I have to do

> > extensive hair removal because i run around in a

> > leotard all the time, and some sensory stuff, but

> > otherwise...who cares? It's purely cosmetic.

> >

> > And...as for facial hair...shaving it is a good

> way to

> > grow a moustache like daddy's. Just a side note.

> >

> > Kassiane

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Lili,

I shave my daughter because, though I help cleanse her thoroughly, she

still has a body odor and does use deodorant. I also shave her mainly in

the spring and summer months so that she will not be made fun of because of

her hairyness.

She does run away, but laughingly so, not in terror, and she MOST of the

time DOES NOT run away.

I think YOU are taking this entirely out of context. You can voice your

opinion, I have no problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell someone

WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO. I just add my opinion and they can do

with it what they will.

Re: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

>

> pollydolly63 wrote:

>

> > I let my daughter shave herself. She does fine. The only

> > problem now is that she's got it in her head that ALL

> > hair (except head) is icky. I caught her shaving her

> > " middle "

>

> I'm coming out of lurkdom to comment on this. First, I was

> recently found to have Asperger's Syndrome, so I speak as a

> person on the Spectrum when I say this.

>

> I have very strong sensory issues related to body hair, and

> I MUST shave my pubic hair as well. I know some people find

> that offensive for some reason, but I cannot bear to have

> hair " down there " . It literally makes me feel nauseated and

> dirty when I have hair there (though I really don't care at

> all what others do with their own bodies- this is just for

> me personally). So my opinion is that you should let her

> shave there if she wants to.

>

> Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues related to

> the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on shaving them

> anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away when her

> mother approaches her with the razor. Your daughter's body

> belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not offend her,

> and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be shaved? It

> will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the arms and

> on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be hairy there.

>

> I have already had problems with being misunderstood and

> " flamed " on this list, so if anyone wants to write back to

> say that I am wrong or bad for having this opinion, please

> realize in advance that I will not respond, as it causes me

> far too much stress to argue.

> --

> Lili in the Republic of Ireland

> Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

> http://blog.lilirose.net

>

>

>

> Autism_in_Girls-subscribe

> ------------------------

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>

[Guest guest]

Hi Lili,

I shave my daughter because, though I help cleanse her thoroughly, she

still has a body odor and does use deodorant. I also shave her mainly in

the spring and summer months so that she will not be made fun of because of

her hairyness.

She does run away, but laughingly so, not in terror, and she MOST of the

time DOES NOT run away.

I think YOU are taking this entirely out of context. You can voice your

opinion, I have no problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell someone

WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO. I just add my opinion and they can do

with it what they will.

Re: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

>

> pollydolly63 wrote:

>

> > I let my daughter shave herself. She does fine. The only

> > problem now is that she's got it in her head that ALL

> > hair (except head) is icky. I caught her shaving her

> > " middle "

>

> I'm coming out of lurkdom to comment on this. First, I was

> recently found to have Asperger's Syndrome, so I speak as a

> person on the Spectrum when I say this.

>

> I have very strong sensory issues related to body hair, and

> I MUST shave my pubic hair as well. I know some people find

> that offensive for some reason, but I cannot bear to have

> hair " down there " . It literally makes me feel nauseated and

> dirty when I have hair there (though I really don't care at

> all what others do with their own bodies- this is just for

> me personally). So my opinion is that you should let her

> shave there if she wants to.

>

> Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues related to

> the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on shaving them

> anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away when her

> mother approaches her with the razor. Your daughter's body

> belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not offend her,

> and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be shaved? It

> will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the arms and

> on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be hairy there.

>

> I have already had problems with being misunderstood and

> " flamed " on this list, so if anyone wants to write back to

> say that I am wrong or bad for having this opinion, please

> realize in advance that I will not respond, as it causes me

> far too much stress to argue.

> --

> Lili in the Republic of Ireland

> Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

> http://blog.lilirose.net

>

>

>

> Autism_in_Girls-subscribe

> ------------------------

> Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Lili,

I shave my daughter because, though I help cleanse her thoroughly, she

still has a body odor and does use deodorant. I also shave her mainly in

the spring and summer months so that she will not be made fun of because of

her hairyness.

She does run away, but laughingly so, not in terror, and she MOST of the

time DOES NOT run away.

I think YOU are taking this entirely out of context. You can voice your

opinion, I have no problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell someone

WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO. I just add my opinion and they can do

with it what they will.

Re: Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

>

> pollydolly63 wrote:

>

> > I let my daughter shave herself. She does fine. The only

> > problem now is that she's got it in her head that ALL

> > hair (except head) is icky. I caught her shaving her

> > " middle "

>

> I'm coming out of lurkdom to comment on this. First, I was

> recently found to have Asperger's Syndrome, so I speak as a

> person on the Spectrum when I say this.

>

> I have very strong sensory issues related to body hair, and

> I MUST shave my pubic hair as well. I know some people find

> that offensive for some reason, but I cannot bear to have

> hair " down there " . It literally makes me feel nauseated and

> dirty when I have hair there (though I really don't care at

> all what others do with their own bodies- this is just for

> me personally). So my opinion is that you should let her

> shave there if she wants to.

>

> Also, for girls that do NOT have sensory issues related to

> the hair, I'm wondering why parents insist on shaving them

> anyway? I was sad to read of the girl who runs away when her

> mother approaches her with the razor. Your daughter's body

> belongs to her, not to you. If the hair does not offend her,

> and shaving DOES offend her, then why must she be shaved? It

> will not hurt her in any way to be hairy under the arms and

> on legs, any more than it hurts your husband to be hairy there.

>

> I have already had problems with being misunderstood and

> " flamed " on this list, so if anyone wants to write back to

> say that I am wrong or bad for having this opinion, please

> realize in advance that I will not respond, as it causes me

> far too much stress to argue.

> --

> Lili in the Republic of Ireland

> Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

> http://blog.lilirose.net

>

>

>

> Autism_in_Girls-subscribe

> ------------------------

> Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe

>

[Guest guest]

L. Sherwood wrote:

> I think YOU are taking this entirely out of

> context. You can voice your opinion, I have no

> problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell

> someone WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO.

> I just add my opinion and they can do with it

> what they will.

Yes, I understand now that I cannot state an

opinion on this list without somebody telling me

that I am bad or wrong. I will not be posting

again. I would unsub if I did not enjoy reading

Sondra's mails so much.

I am sorry I offended you, as I said several

times, that was not my intent. I have Asperger's

Syndrome and apparently I cannot speak to NT

people at all without somebody becoming upset or

having feelings hurt. So I will not post again,

sorry again that I offended you.

--

Lili in the Republic of Ireland

Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

http://blog.lilirose.net

[Guest guest]

Sondra!!

Thank you for putting into words and explaining what I had really wanted

to put across, and hopefully clearing up a situation that was more of a

misunderstanding.

I DO NOT want Lili to leave the list because of me or any other poster.

I did not mean to offend anyone.

I can understand that I may have given the impression that my shaving

was under a forced against her will position. It is not. She is

very ticklish, and I use a light touch on her. Her NT sister is also of

very sensitive touch, and laughs and squirms even at the Dr's office during

a physical exam.

s hair is cut short, due to her sensitivity of scalp. I have found

a hairdresser (a man) who takes no longer than 10 minutes on her. She is

not in the chair long, and her hair looks neat.

I also mentioned that if she is not cleansed daily, she will have body

odor. She is also a hairy girl, as I am too.

I hope that I may still be welcome to post, if you Sondra feel the need to

remove me, then you must do what is best for the board and it's members.

Thank you again for clarifying my words.

Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

>

>

>

> Lilli I to be of sorry that you are of not want to post here

> anymore. that to saddens me.

>

> But, the things I to found about to post is to stay in realms as

> much as possible about self presentations and oo personal thinking.

> So for to respond about the hair things I would be to maybe respond

> from own personal view for self, which I to do that much so, and

> while you felt a reasonable right to say you thinking( in which I to

> also agree intenternally that is her body and rights) for this young

> lady , it is really a boundary of the parents to chose which is

> right for thems daughter and for the daughter to either make it part

> of her world or to continue to fight in in the current way she is to

> be doing and the parents will come to thems own conclusion of the

> outcomes to it. The mother was more concerned about the social

> ramifications of her not following current trends of womans.

>

> Yet the mom to say she to screams in laughter ways such as maybe it

> is overwhlemingly a tickly feeling a good feeling that can be

> powerful over stimulating thus the laugh and running yet liked of

> it. I to be fo this for self too. It is like when one much

> happy/feared goes down the roller coaster and they have that over

> stimulating feel they scream all the way down and like of it. yet at

> the same are unsure of the feeling they just be to experienced. So

> the young lady was not running in protest of pains screaming as the

> words comed to clarify that. She may instead be overly stimulated in

> an unsure and powerfully tickly way.

>

> About words from posters it is not just from NT as in my world and

> exposures I to often get rejected or words of not nice to me from

> ASD peoples too for my lack of being perfect in words and

> expressions and or in the very thinking of some. I to learned I to

> nto be the whole, I to be fo Sondra , and I to only have to express

> what is related to the thinking, feeling and expressions that Sondra

> to feels. I to know cant please all peoples simply for being on

> spectrum even among those on spectrum, so not want to sound as

> negative but Lilli rejection often comes in various ways and I to

> find that many reject from both sodes simply because of the way in

> which the words to comed. Sometimes our words can send emotional

> tones that NT can see and read that we may lack in, and so this

> triggers a reaction, and the same goes for us and often times

> neither has sent words with the intent to be of the way the other

> interpreted it. I to simply learned thoughmy therpaist to ask of

> clarifications first before to react. To react first only makes of

> the things worse. So if you ot read posts and it to trigger emotion

> in you take time to reflect on that emotion and then see what is of

> to trigger it, then after that you can be to form questions to seek

> clarifying to assure you feelings were of correct before to react.

> Lastly to close off I to love of you self adapted ways to share you

> challged areas of words by to say I to not mean to be of offend but

> if I to do this please not take it that way or words similar to

> this, this is very good to do and if people then ignore that and

> take offense to you words it is of thems issues not you, you had

> already shared that it will be hard for you to say in you words what

> you are thinking and know that because of hte AS sometimes the words

> come in wrong fashions. When one ignores and attacks anyways then

> that is like most to me rude fashions of being.

> I to hope you will be to think over this and be to continue to post

> of you thinkings.

> Sondra

>

> In Autism_in_Girls , Lili Finn <lili@l...> wrote:

> > L. Sherwood wrote:

> >

> > > I think YOU are taking this entirely out of

> > > context. You can voice your opinion, I have no

> > > problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell

> > > someone WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO.

> > > I just add my opinion and they can do with it

> > > what they will.

> >

> > Yes, I understand now that I cannot state an

> > opinion on this list without somebody telling me

> > that I am bad or wrong. I will not be posting

> > again. I would unsub if I did not enjoy reading

> > Sondra's mails so much.

> >

> > I am sorry I offended you, as I said several

> > times, that was not my intent. I have Asperger's

> > Syndrome and apparently I cannot speak to NT

> > people at all without somebody becoming upset or

> > having feelings hurt. So I will not post again,

> > sorry again that I offended you.

> > --

> > Lili in the Republic of Ireland

> > Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

> > http://blog.lilirose.net

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Autism_in_Girls-subscribe

> ------------------------

> Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe

>

[Guest guest]

Sondra!!

Thank you for putting into words and explaining what I had really wanted

to put across, and hopefully clearing up a situation that was more of a

misunderstanding.

I DO NOT want Lili to leave the list because of me or any other poster.

I did not mean to offend anyone.

I can understand that I may have given the impression that my shaving

was under a forced against her will position. It is not. She is

very ticklish, and I use a light touch on her. Her NT sister is also of

very sensitive touch, and laughs and squirms even at the Dr's office during

a physical exam.

s hair is cut short, due to her sensitivity of scalp. I have found

a hairdresser (a man) who takes no longer than 10 minutes on her. She is

not in the chair long, and her hair looks neat.

I also mentioned that if she is not cleansed daily, she will have body

odor. She is also a hairy girl, as I am too.

I hope that I may still be welcome to post, if you Sondra feel the need to

remove me, then you must do what is best for the board and it's members.

Thank you again for clarifying my words.

Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

>

>

>

> Lilli I to be of sorry that you are of not want to post here

> anymore. that to saddens me.

>

> But, the things I to found about to post is to stay in realms as

> much as possible about self presentations and oo personal thinking.

> So for to respond about the hair things I would be to maybe respond

> from own personal view for self, which I to do that much so, and

> while you felt a reasonable right to say you thinking( in which I to

> also agree intenternally that is her body and rights) for this young

> lady , it is really a boundary of the parents to chose which is

> right for thems daughter and for the daughter to either make it part

> of her world or to continue to fight in in the current way she is to

> be doing and the parents will come to thems own conclusion of the

> outcomes to it. The mother was more concerned about the social

> ramifications of her not following current trends of womans.

>

> Yet the mom to say she to screams in laughter ways such as maybe it

> is overwhlemingly a tickly feeling a good feeling that can be

> powerful over stimulating thus the laugh and running yet liked of

> it. I to be fo this for self too. It is like when one much

> happy/feared goes down the roller coaster and they have that over

> stimulating feel they scream all the way down and like of it. yet at

> the same are unsure of the feeling they just be to experienced. So

> the young lady was not running in protest of pains screaming as the

> words comed to clarify that. She may instead be overly stimulated in

> an unsure and powerfully tickly way.

>

> About words from posters it is not just from NT as in my world and

> exposures I to often get rejected or words of not nice to me from

> ASD peoples too for my lack of being perfect in words and

> expressions and or in the very thinking of some. I to learned I to

> nto be the whole, I to be fo Sondra , and I to only have to express

> what is related to the thinking, feeling and expressions that Sondra

> to feels. I to know cant please all peoples simply for being on

> spectrum even among those on spectrum, so not want to sound as

> negative but Lilli rejection often comes in various ways and I to

> find that many reject from both sodes simply because of the way in

> which the words to comed. Sometimes our words can send emotional

> tones that NT can see and read that we may lack in, and so this

> triggers a reaction, and the same goes for us and often times

> neither has sent words with the intent to be of the way the other

> interpreted it. I to simply learned thoughmy therpaist to ask of

> clarifications first before to react. To react first only makes of

> the things worse. So if you ot read posts and it to trigger emotion

> in you take time to reflect on that emotion and then see what is of

> to trigger it, then after that you can be to form questions to seek

> clarifying to assure you feelings were of correct before to react.

> Lastly to close off I to love of you self adapted ways to share you

> challged areas of words by to say I to not mean to be of offend but

> if I to do this please not take it that way or words similar to

> this, this is very good to do and if people then ignore that and

> take offense to you words it is of thems issues not you, you had

> already shared that it will be hard for you to say in you words what

> you are thinking and know that because of hte AS sometimes the words

> come in wrong fashions. When one ignores and attacks anyways then

> that is like most to me rude fashions of being.

> I to hope you will be to think over this and be to continue to post

> of you thinkings.

> Sondra

>

> In Autism_in_Girls , Lili Finn <lili@l...> wrote:

> > L. Sherwood wrote:

> >

> > > I think YOU are taking this entirely out of

> > > context. You can voice your opinion, I have no

> > > problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell

> > > someone WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO.

> > > I just add my opinion and they can do with it

> > > what they will.

> >

> > Yes, I understand now that I cannot state an

> > opinion on this list without somebody telling me

> > that I am bad or wrong. I will not be posting

> > again. I would unsub if I did not enjoy reading

> > Sondra's mails so much.

> >

> > I am sorry I offended you, as I said several

> > times, that was not my intent. I have Asperger's

> > Syndrome and apparently I cannot speak to NT

> > people at all without somebody becoming upset or

> > having feelings hurt. So I will not post again,

> > sorry again that I offended you.

> > --

> > Lili in the Republic of Ireland

> > Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

> > http://blog.lilirose.net

>

>

>

>

>

>

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> ------------------------

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>

[Guest guest]

Sondra!!

Thank you for putting into words and explaining what I had really wanted

to put across, and hopefully clearing up a situation that was more of a

misunderstanding.

I DO NOT want Lili to leave the list because of me or any other poster.

I did not mean to offend anyone.

I can understand that I may have given the impression that my shaving

was under a forced against her will position. It is not. She is

very ticklish, and I use a light touch on her. Her NT sister is also of

very sensitive touch, and laughs and squirms even at the Dr's office during

a physical exam.

s hair is cut short, due to her sensitivity of scalp. I have found

a hairdresser (a man) who takes no longer than 10 minutes on her. She is

not in the chair long, and her hair looks neat.

I also mentioned that if she is not cleansed daily, she will have body

odor. She is also a hairy girl, as I am too.

I hope that I may still be welcome to post, if you Sondra feel the need to

remove me, then you must do what is best for the board and it's members.

Thank you again for clarifying my words.

Re: Body Hair removal & skin picking

>

>

>

> Lilli I to be of sorry that you are of not want to post here

> anymore. that to saddens me.

>

> But, the things I to found about to post is to stay in realms as

> much as possible about self presentations and oo personal thinking.

> So for to respond about the hair things I would be to maybe respond

> from own personal view for self, which I to do that much so, and

> while you felt a reasonable right to say you thinking( in which I to

> also agree intenternally that is her body and rights) for this young

> lady , it is really a boundary of the parents to chose which is

> right for thems daughter and for the daughter to either make it part

> of her world or to continue to fight in in the current way she is to

> be doing and the parents will come to thems own conclusion of the

> outcomes to it. The mother was more concerned about the social

> ramifications of her not following current trends of womans.

>

> Yet the mom to say she to screams in laughter ways such as maybe it

> is overwhlemingly a tickly feeling a good feeling that can be

> powerful over stimulating thus the laugh and running yet liked of

> it. I to be fo this for self too. It is like when one much

> happy/feared goes down the roller coaster and they have that over

> stimulating feel they scream all the way down and like of it. yet at

> the same are unsure of the feeling they just be to experienced. So

> the young lady was not running in protest of pains screaming as the

> words comed to clarify that. She may instead be overly stimulated in

> an unsure and powerfully tickly way.

>

> About words from posters it is not just from NT as in my world and

> exposures I to often get rejected or words of not nice to me from

> ASD peoples too for my lack of being perfect in words and

> expressions and or in the very thinking of some. I to learned I to

> nto be the whole, I to be fo Sondra , and I to only have to express

> what is related to the thinking, feeling and expressions that Sondra

> to feels. I to know cant please all peoples simply for being on

> spectrum even among those on spectrum, so not want to sound as

> negative but Lilli rejection often comes in various ways and I to

> find that many reject from both sodes simply because of the way in

> which the words to comed. Sometimes our words can send emotional

> tones that NT can see and read that we may lack in, and so this

> triggers a reaction, and the same goes for us and often times

> neither has sent words with the intent to be of the way the other

> interpreted it. I to simply learned thoughmy therpaist to ask of

> clarifications first before to react. To react first only makes of

> the things worse. So if you ot read posts and it to trigger emotion

> in you take time to reflect on that emotion and then see what is of

> to trigger it, then after that you can be to form questions to seek

> clarifying to assure you feelings were of correct before to react.

> Lastly to close off I to love of you self adapted ways to share you

> challged areas of words by to say I to not mean to be of offend but

> if I to do this please not take it that way or words similar to

> this, this is very good to do and if people then ignore that and

> take offense to you words it is of thems issues not you, you had

> already shared that it will be hard for you to say in you words what

> you are thinking and know that because of hte AS sometimes the words

> come in wrong fashions. When one ignores and attacks anyways then

> that is like most to me rude fashions of being.

> I to hope you will be to think over this and be to continue to post

> of you thinkings.

> Sondra

>

> In Autism_in_Girls , Lili Finn <lili@l...> wrote:

> > L. Sherwood wrote:

> >

> > > I think YOU are taking this entirely out of

> > > context. You can voice your opinion, I have no

> > > problem with that, but personally I DO NOT tell

> > > someone WHAT I THINK or FEEL THEY SHOULD DO.

> > > I just add my opinion and they can do with it

> > > what they will.

> >

> > Yes, I understand now that I cannot state an

> > opinion on this list without somebody telling me

> > that I am bad or wrong. I will not be posting

> > again. I would unsub if I did not enjoy reading

> > Sondra's mails so much.

> >

> > I am sorry I offended you, as I said several

> > times, that was not my intent. I have Asperger's

> > Syndrome and apparently I cannot speak to NT

> > people at all without somebody becoming upset or

> > having feelings hurt. So I will not post again,

> > sorry again that I offended you.

> > --

> > Lili in the Republic of Ireland

> > Momma to Saoirse (Feb 9 03) and Neil (Nov 10 94)

> > http://blog.lilirose.net

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