Would someone with Asperger's have...

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social referencing at all? Dinah's speech path suggested the

possibility of Dinah having Asperger's because of her lack of eye

contact and issues with processing language. The thing is that Dinah

has eye contact, it's just not *always* there. Dinah socially

references and pretend-plays all the time with me and sissies. We were

watching a video last night and she would point and tell me about what

was going on then look up at me grinning from ear to ear. I really

don't think I'm in denial, I just don't see it as being Aspie, if

anything, just learned behavior from big sis. Her home speech path

said today that Dinah lacked eye contact with her initial visits but

it seems to her the more Dinah gets to know someone the more eye

contact she makes. After having a child with autism I don't know what

is just shy and avoidance behavior and what is a real inability. It

seems to me if she has autism/Aspergers that she would not be

referencing at all to share enjoyment, at least not at 29 mos old.

TIA,

Debi

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Thanks for everyone's advice. I've called to have a psychological

assessment done on her. She's already getting 2 hrs/wk of speech

therapy. On the one hand I feel she's just a " late talker " because she

has always made progress, just on the slower end. She doesn't seem to

get stuck on stuff like kids with autism do, but she does tend to be a

little controlling. Honestly, I feel her control issues are from my

inconsistent parenting, something I'm addressing. I feel like that's

the issue because she tends to listen to others the first time, like

daddy, mother's day out, etc, yet I catch myself repeating and

wondering why she's got me on iggy. I really, really need to read

" Raising the Strong Willed Child " again to get myself motivated, lol.

Debi