4B. WTO List Nettiquite: Guideline of Day

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YOUR RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES

It is your obligation to know and follow these guidelines before posting.

Your participation on the list acknowledges you have read and agreed to these

guidelines. If you do not agree, please do not become a list member until

your question or concern is resolved. If you ever have a question or concern

about these guidelines, please write to WelcomeToOz-owneregroups. If you

feel someone has violated them, please DO NOT respond online; please forward

the post and your comments to WelcomeToOz-owneregroups.

1. It is your RIGHT to a safe atmosphere where you feel comfortable

discussing very personal issues.

To create this atmosphere, you have several RESPONSIBILITIES. They are:

a) We are all at different stages, we all have different situations, and we

all have different considerations and backgrounds. Please do not be

judgmental about how another person lives their life--if you do, you will

make it harder for others to post for fear of being judged. It takes some

people a lot of courage to speak up, and a Dr. -type " don't be so

stupid " approach can do a lot of harm. Please be gentle. And people will be

gentle with you.

Treat other list members in a courteous manner, and please act

respectfully toward others even if you disagree with their opinions. Flaming

(lashing out at someone) disrupts the entire list, so we take it very

seriously and handle it ASAP. Please don't make issues personal or take

things personally if someone does not do this. Forward the post to the

facilitators.

c) Conflict will happen. That's life. It's a chance to practice calmly

stating your needs, wants and opinions, listening to others and coming to a

solution together. Great practice for a Non used to belittlement, black and

white thinking and blaming.

d) Keep in mind that anything you write is going to 50-700 other people who

all have busy lives. Please keep posts on topic.

e) Please especially avoid off topic discussions that have the potential to

generate strong or hurt feelings. We all have our personal views on sex,

politics, abortion, feminism, Macs vs Pc's, the existance of God and which

way to hang the toilet paper. But discussions of these topics belong someone

else--perhaps on the " Which Way to Roll the Toilet Paper " Listserv

facilitated by Martha .

Randi Kreger

List owner, Welcome To Oz Lists

Coauthor, Stop Walking on Eggshells

Love and Loathing, Hope for Parents

www.BPDCentral.com