Guest guest Posted March 27, 2001 Report Share Posted March 27, 2001 My Nada'a favorite thing to do is sit my sister, brother, and me down and tell us she doesn't plan on living much longer. Then she will make us choose what rings my sister and I want and who get what assets. It is a little freaky. She hasn't even come close to dieing though. I think we have gone through this routine about 15 times. It is starting to get really old. tiffany >From: rpicado@... >Reply-To: ModOasis >To: ModOasis >Subject: Re: Stuff >Date: Mon, 26 Mar 2001 19:53:42 -0000 > > >>is this a common thing for bpd to exaggerate medical problems for >attention?<< > >You bet! My nada has been dying since the day she was born. She used >to tell us when we were little that if she died " It was OK to be mad >at God. " As I got older, my response became, " Don't worry Nada, >you'll end up burying us all. " Then when she actually did get sick, >she was thrilled. > >Thanks, >Rosemary > > _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2001 Report Share Posted March 27, 2001 My Nada'a favorite thing to do is sit my sister, brother, and me down and tell us she doesn't plan on living much longer. Then she will make us choose what rings my sister and I want and who get what assets. It is a little freaky. She hasn't even come close to dieing though. I think we have gone through this routine about 15 times. It is starting to get really old. tiffany >From: rpicado@... >Reply-To: ModOasis >To: ModOasis >Subject: Re: Stuff >Date: Mon, 26 Mar 2001 19:53:42 -0000 > > >>is this a common thing for bpd to exaggerate medical problems for >attention?<< > >You bet! My nada has been dying since the day she was born. She used >to tell us when we were little that if she died " It was OK to be mad >at God. " As I got older, my response became, " Don't worry Nada, >you'll end up burying us all. " Then when she actually did get sick, >she was thrilled. > >Thanks, >Rosemary > > _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2001 Report Share Posted March 27, 2001 wrote: > My Nada is constantly complaining about some medical > condition that she has. > Granted some of them are actual problems, but others the > doctors can't > find a diagnosis for. > Does anyone else have a nada that does these kinds of > things? and is this > a common thing for bpd to exaggerate medical problems for attention? > In a word, yes. And nadas are the only ones who can correctly diagnose, treat, and manage their ailments. Doctors are wrong, family members are wrong, but strangers in the coffee shop are experts. It's an attention-getter (they hope). My nada used to regularly burst into tears for no reason when she visited. I always ignored it, and it hasn't happened the past 2 visits. She usually recounts the tale of a different illness each visit, too, because I don't react the way she wants me to. I ignore it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2001 Report Share Posted March 27, 2001 wrote: > My Nada is constantly complaining about some medical > condition that she has. > Granted some of them are actual problems, but others the > doctors can't > find a diagnosis for. > Does anyone else have a nada that does these kinds of > things? and is this > a common thing for bpd to exaggerate medical problems for attention? > In a word, yes. And nadas are the only ones who can correctly diagnose, treat, and manage their ailments. Doctors are wrong, family members are wrong, but strangers in the coffee shop are experts. It's an attention-getter (they hope). My nada used to regularly burst into tears for no reason when she visited. I always ignored it, and it hasn't happened the past 2 visits. She usually recounts the tale of a different illness each visit, too, because I don't react the way she wants me to. I ignore it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2001 Report Share Posted April 1, 2001 In a message dated 3/28/01 11:23:11 AM Pacific Daylight Time, rpicado@... writes: << >>> My Nada'a favorite thing to do is sit my sister, brother, and me down and tell us she doesn't plan on living much longer. Then she will make us choose what rings my sister and I want and who get what assets. It is a little freaky. <<< I know what you mean. I've been there too. I'd say it's more than a little freaky. It's manipulation and control. It's just another way to pull all of your strings. My nada used to do that, but my sister and I refused to listen to her once we hit our teens. And the " Last Will and Testament " game is just a way to control you beyond the grave. Any gift is not a gift when there's strings attached, and nada gifts always have strings attached. >> my nada always tries to get me to go into her bedroom so we can " talk " in private. it took a lot of courage but now I refuse. we can " talk " with someone else there just fine, thank you. Lissa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2001 Report Share Posted April 1, 2001 In a message dated 3/28/01 11:23:11 AM Pacific Daylight Time, rpicado@... writes: << >>> My Nada'a favorite thing to do is sit my sister, brother, and me down and tell us she doesn't plan on living much longer. Then she will make us choose what rings my sister and I want and who get what assets. It is a little freaky. <<< I know what you mean. I've been there too. I'd say it's more than a little freaky. It's manipulation and control. It's just another way to pull all of your strings. My nada used to do that, but my sister and I refused to listen to her once we hit our teens. And the " Last Will and Testament " game is just a way to control you beyond the grave. Any gift is not a gift when there's strings attached, and nada gifts always have strings attached. >> my nada always tries to get me to go into her bedroom so we can " talk " in private. it took a lot of courage but now I refuse. we can " talk " with someone else there just fine, thank you. Lissa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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