Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 R: Good for you for getting angry instead of believing the social worker! It is so easy to buy into the guilt! I chuckled as I read your post, because my son sounds so much like yours! He too has gone though hoarding candy, trading cards and rocks! I think collecting things is definitely a normal developmental stage, but as with many things, OCD starts with a " normal " kid thing and multiplies it's intensity by 100! I learned to ask my son if he felt he HAD to have the thing he was collecting, or if he just WANTED it. If he answered that he just wanted it, then I told him he could wait a day or longer to get it, and it should not cause distress. Then I made him wait. If he felt he HAD to have it NOW, I would identify it for him as an OCD thought and we would start ERP on the subject. This worked for him because he was really motivated at the time to beat OCD. Stick to your guns - you know your son. It's so frustrating not to get support from the person you are paying to try and help you! Maybe it's time to find another therapist? Just my 2 cents... Good luck! - (MI) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 R: Good for you for getting angry instead of believing the social worker! It is so easy to buy into the guilt! I chuckled as I read your post, because my son sounds so much like yours! He too has gone though hoarding candy, trading cards and rocks! I think collecting things is definitely a normal developmental stage, but as with many things, OCD starts with a " normal " kid thing and multiplies it's intensity by 100! I learned to ask my son if he felt he HAD to have the thing he was collecting, or if he just WANTED it. If he answered that he just wanted it, then I told him he could wait a day or longer to get it, and it should not cause distress. Then I made him wait. If he felt he HAD to have it NOW, I would identify it for him as an OCD thought and we would start ERP on the subject. This worked for him because he was really motivated at the time to beat OCD. Stick to your guns - you know your son. It's so frustrating not to get support from the person you are paying to try and help you! Maybe it's time to find another therapist? Just my 2 cents... Good luck! - (MI) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 R: Good for you for getting angry instead of believing the social worker! It is so easy to buy into the guilt! I chuckled as I read your post, because my son sounds so much like yours! He too has gone though hoarding candy, trading cards and rocks! I think collecting things is definitely a normal developmental stage, but as with many things, OCD starts with a " normal " kid thing and multiplies it's intensity by 100! I learned to ask my son if he felt he HAD to have the thing he was collecting, or if he just WANTED it. If he answered that he just wanted it, then I told him he could wait a day or longer to get it, and it should not cause distress. Then I made him wait. If he felt he HAD to have it NOW, I would identify it for him as an OCD thought and we would start ERP on the subject. This worked for him because he was really motivated at the time to beat OCD. Stick to your guns - you know your son. It's so frustrating not to get support from the person you are paying to try and help you! Maybe it's time to find another therapist? Just my 2 cents... Good luck! - (MI) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 : Your insights are helpful. What is ERP and how does one help a child (boy-age 11) be motivated about working on OCD? He sees a Psychologist, but is only going so as not to lose his privileges. He's there, but not cooperating . . . not talking. Re: Digest Number 2433 R: Good for you for getting angry instead of believing the social worker! It is so easy to buy into the guilt! I chuckled as I read your post, because my son sounds so much like yours! He too has gone though hoarding candy, trading cards and rocks! I think collecting things is definitely a normal developmental stage, but as with many things, OCD starts with a " normal " kid thing and multiplies it's intensity by 100! I learned to ask my son if he felt he HAD to have the thing he was collecting, or if he just WANTED it. If he answered that he just wanted it, then I told him he could wait a day or longer to get it, and it should not cause distress. Then I made him wait. If he felt he HAD to have it NOW, I would identify it for him as an OCD thought and we would start ERP on the subject. This worked for him because he was really motivated at the time to beat OCD. Stick to your guns - you know your son. It's so frustrating not to get support from the person you are paying to try and help you! Maybe it's time to find another therapist? Just my 2 cents... Good luck! - (MI) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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