Get back what you put out

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I've been watching the posts lately. We really don't know each other that well.

We are all just " companions in a similar situation " due to our symptoms and

treatments of Stills.

I felt that I was " personally attacked " also in the recent past and believe that

there is way too much " sitting in judgment " of other people. Just because

someone is new to the group (where more tolerance should be displayed until we

get to know them more) or if a new idea is posed to the group, why do many of us

take that as a personal affront? Could it be that we, ourselves, are feeling

poorly and are unwittingly using the list as a forum to let out our

frustrations?

Please, everyone...stop and think first before you type words that are hurtful.

It doesn't matter if they are to a new person (regardless of age or knowledge)

or to a member who has been around for a while, EVERYONE should be treated

equally and not with suspicion or questioning their credibility. With so many

of us not feeling well lately (and this has been stated by quite a number of

active members in the group), would it be possible for ALL of us to REMEMBER to

temper our reactions until we know what we are doing. It seems to me that there

are a growing number of people on the list that are sitting in judgment and feel

that they have the RIGHT to immediately question or condemn someone or something

they don't understand or have decided they don't like.

Is this the kind of " support group " we all want? I would hope not.

Then...please verify a " negative " point of view BEFORE spouting it off to the

whole group! That shouldn't even be something that anyone needs reminding of,

but apparently a lot here have forgotten that as of late.

What if the impression of " Liz " was wrong? How do you feel about not

" supporting someone else with Stills? " Ask yourself personally, how are you

" supporting " this Stills disease " support group? " It is all just lip service,

or are you really caring? If you are, then couldn't you wait to check out your

questions in a more courteous manner? Would that hurt you? Don't be in a rush

to condemn just because you're not feeling well. We all have our days of not

feeling well.

We should not be here to judge, but to " support " and help with our knowledge,

our shared experiences, and our " KINDNESS. "

Let's THINK before we react my friends. Please!

Jul

(lilac_rose@... )