Personality Profiles

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Hello all,

I was wondering what other kids who suffer from OCD are like seperate

from their OCD. I'm interested in this because I recently found out

from my wife that we don't believe our daughter is doing as well as

she says she is. Grade wise she is doing excellent. But socially,

not so well. She has few friends, and they are kids who generally

don't fit in with the general populace. They aren't a bad influence,

but it seems that they are the only ones who pay attention to her.

She loves to be social, but will not extend herself. Most of the

friends she has had in the past, including some good friends, wind up

slowly migrating to others because she just doesn't extend herself

and is not very assertive. The reason why it surprised me was that

she is not this way at home. She's bubbly, energetic and outspoken.

I was deeply saddened to find out she cannot extend this outside. She

tells us that things are going well and she has good days. However,

putting the puzzle together, we find that she often eats lunch by

herself, doesn't say two words to anyone all day, and tends to be

overlooked by other kids. These are parts of her personality and not

OCD related, but I was wondering if there were some common

personality traits among OCD kids.

Is your kid mostly an extrovert or introvert?

Are they shy or assertive?

Leaders or followers, or in-between?

Lots of aquaintances or a few close friends?

Do they actively seek friendships, or are they more of a loner? If

they are a loner, do they *want* to have more friends?

I don't mean this in a negative way, but do they have common or

practicle sense? For example, our dd get's A's in school, but she's

very " flighty " and is often in her own world and does not clue in to

real life. For this reason, we are scared to send her out in the

world because we fear she couldn't handle it. Of course she's only

11, but most kids can get up, take a shower and get dressed in 20

minutes and understand responsibility, whereas she takes her own

sweet time, and doesn't care if she's not dressed. She doesn't get

worried or excited until she's already 20 minutes late and then

blames it on her mom. She just does not understand that it's her

responsibility.

As a kid who grew up somewhat as a loner, although I'm very

personable, I always wanted people to extend themselves to me. It

hurts me deeply to think that she's going to grow up missing the

enjoyment of life and then regretting it later.

Thanks for your help.

FD