Re: OT Endless debates -Heidi

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In a message dated 9/5/04 5:04:30 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

dezinegal@... writes:

Good grief. is a grown man (although young) and seems mature

enough to handle feedback. Question: do you think people benefit if

they take the time to examine their behavior and ask themselves " what

am I doing to cause certain reactions in some people? "

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Hi ,

Is there any particular reason why your viewpoint about my behavior would be

more valuable to me than Heidi's in this process of self-evaluation?

Chris

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>Unitl your last few posts to me I have never found you to be

>condescending.

Thanks for the feedback.

>Good grief. is a grown man (although young) and seems mature

>enough to handle feedback. Question: do you think people benefit if

>they take the time to examine their behavior and ask themselves " what

>am I doing to cause certain reactions in some people? "

Sure, he's mature enough, but it is also common for people

to " stick up for each other " so to speak. And yes, that is a good

question for people to ask themselves!

>Upset is not accurate. Exasperated and surprised are accurate.

OK. It's hard to figure out what emotion is behind written

text ...

> Hmm. I love to read about new ideas and then investigate them to

>determine if they can work/help or are applicable to my situation.

>That's how I knew the Warrior Diet was not going to work for me. I read

>a lot of the info on the site and the experiences of people on this

>list who follow it.

Well then that's great, you'll read about lots of new ideas here.

Heidi Jean

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>Is there any particular reason why your viewpoint about my behavior would be

>more valuable to me than Heidi's in this process of self-evaluation?

How about we just get off this subject entirely? It's serving no purpose

other than to waste time and annoy people. (That's not a demand, just a

request and suggestion.)

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>I would be happy to hear that it's none of the above.

>

>~

I'd say it is more like my way of saying " I'm responding

to this out of politeness but I'm not saying anything more. "

Like and you both are saying, this doesn't enhance

anyone's life. So far it seems from your responses that anything I say

that is meaningful to me has negative connotations to

you, and really, my goal in life is not to make anyone

feel negatively, so, I come up with something that is

as neutral as I can (kind of like how politicians answer

" Well, I'm glad you asked that. It's an excellent question.

Reminds me of another excellent question I was asked ... " )

But, I'm bowing out at this point. I will take your good

suggestion and stop.

>

Heidi Jean