Re: Re: The worst mother on earth

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I totally agree with Klara. I would also like to add that eating a healthy diet

includes having fun on festive occasions. What you ate is such a small amount

and it was a shame you couldn't really enjoy it feeling so guilty etc. A baby

needs a full menu to choose from in order to grow and develop. If you eat too

strictly then the baby draws from your past excess and you will start to crave

extreme foods in order to make balance. During pregnancy it is very important to

eat a wide variety of all foods and to satisfy those cravings coz they come from

your baby too. If you resist your cravings then it is only natural to go for

other foods and eat too much of them when you do. THere is nothing wrong with

having a non macro dessert, pancakes, juice, fruit, more oil, bread etc if that

is what you strongly feel like eating. You are not sick, you are pregnant and a

healthy person eats foods that they love - macrobiotics is not meant to be a

form of suffering but something to relish and enjoy.

Macrobiotics is all about balance and all foods are macrobiotic if used

appropriately. The key is to try and have balanced meals with lots of vegs and

if you strongly crave say sweets, try to make more natural ones first. Children

balance in a very different way to adults because they have less 'learned'

behaviour. They can live on carrots for a week and then not want them at all. Of

course if all they want is rice and nothing else for weeks, you have to gently

steer them back to center but the point is they instinctively know what they

need. It is very similar during pregnancy. Your body and baby crave certain

foods and that is great and natural.

Remember that food is only one form of nourishment. There are so many ways to

nourish your baby and it all comes together - music, nature, reading beautiful

books, creative projects, laughter, having fun, chatting with friends,

meditation, singing, making love etc etc. These are all forms of nourishment and

they also make a huge difference to how your baby develops.

I suggest you take that lovely day you had yesterday with all that lovely food

and put the memory in your belly. Remember how much fun it was and change the

experiece to a positive one. Remember the sharing with family and how wonderful

it was to be together. Remember how delicious those foods tasted and how relaxed

you felt afterwards. Then the message you send your baby will be a lovely

message and he/she will remember the beauty of spending time with family and

friends .

Blessings

Re: Re: The worst mother on earth

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>Funny about stress - it's the same as saying please don't think about a pink

elephant, and then you can't stop thinking pink elephant.

> With my first pregnancy I was constantly worried - in fact I was greatly

fearful of becoming a mother, my biggest fear is I didn't want to repeat so much

of what my mother did to me (critical, negative, nagging, etc) - but I'm telling

you, it all came to me like this is indeed what I was created for, to mother, to

nurture - and believe me, all your mb practice is gearing you in the right

direction.

> Can't repeat enough that we are all human, and therefore imperfect. In fact,

expecting perfection is what messes us up even more. It's natural to want to be

better, always, to grow, to learn, to improve - but doesn't work if we're

beating ourselves up on how we messed up. Have a ume-kuzu tea, sit back and

relax, and move on -

> another thing, somehow a big deal is made of pregnancies on how the child

will turn out - yes it's important to be as healthy as you can - but it hit me

over the head many times, that no matter how dutifully I do all the things I

think I should to be a good mother, there's many many factors on how our kids

turn out, and we just can't CONTROL it all - and wear ourselves out trying!!!!!

Relax, also make sweet vegetable drink (ok, don't relax so much that you end up

falling to the floor, but just enough to balance all this beating up on

yourself).

> And the worst (besides beating yourself up) is imagining what could be -

that's big time fear - go with what is - how are you feeling (when not stressed

out)? do you go for walks? Can you feel the kicking? Are you singing to your

baby? Go with the moment that is now, and enjoy it. I even think back now with

fondness on the times I threw up - imagine missing that????!!!!!!

> Have your husband give you massages - you and the baby :>) (unless he's too

rough, in which case find someone else to massage you)

> Klara

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>purpleveg wrote:

> I've already left you a vm but girl you MUST calm down!!!!

>First although you know how I feel about eating those foods what

>about the women who are smoking crack and pregnant? Don't you think

>that's MUCH worse??? What about drinking and smoking? Stress is

>much worse than what you ate.

>You are a WONDERFUL mother, you are thoughful and patient and

>loving. I've seen you with Marlie you are fine now stop worrying

>please!

>I'm sure the experts here will have some better info for you.

>I love you dear!

>Reg

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>> I feel like the worst mother on earth!

>> I've been so good for so long ...and then today (December 25th) I

>broke down and had (ready for this?): a handful of chips, 3 cookies

>and 3 chocolates AND a few sips of ginger ale! What got into

>me!?! ...and I HATE pop! Haven't had it in years!

>> And if I'm not freaking out! Bad enough for all that horrid sugar

>and what I may have just done to my baby, but I just had a bunch of

>pineapple and was just told that pineapple softens the cervix and

>causes miscarriages!!!

>> I " m trying not to freak out, but I " m close to tears!

>> I'm a terrible mother (to-be)!

>> How could I have done this to my baby? ..and me.

>> You may proceed to give me sh-t now...nothing can make me feel

>worse than I already do. Is there anything I can do to clean out my

>system other than drink a bunch of water?

>> I was told to try Udo's Oil 3-6-9

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>> " ...become the change you envision " _

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thanks Klara!

believe me I really am enjoying this! I never thought I would (eh Reg). This one hasn't even been born yet and I'm already excited to do it again!

" ...become the change you envision." Lemoine

From: VeganMacrobiotics [mailto:VeganMacrobiotics ] On Behalf Of Klara LeVineSent: December 27, 2006 12:01 AMTo: VeganMacrobiotics Subject: Re: Re: The worst mother on earth

I'll bet you can google anything and find all sorts of nonsense.

I'd tell you to throw away the computer but then I wouldn't get to hear the rest of your exciting story.

Anyway, stay away from pink elephants :>)

Klara, wishing I could start the mothering journey all over againSONIA LEMOINE <sonialemoineshaw (DOT) ca> wrote:

Thank you.Yes, guilty is the word, but I"m trying not to be so hard on myself. Of course in all my years of working with pregnant woman I had never heard of pineapple causing miscarriage. I ended up 'googling' it and found a few sites that said yes this was the case. I still can't help but think that is ridiculous. I love pineapple and have a cousin who ate it all thru her pregnancy.Still the 'guilt' I had was enough to make me more conscious and determined to eat right. Thank you for your kind words ."...become the change you envision" _ Re: The worst mother on earth> Hi ,> > I hope you're feeling somewhat better now than when you wrote your > message. It seems the guilt you feel must be much worse than the > food you ate. This doesn't make you a bad mother at all to eat > these things. Your body is going through so many changes, and it's > only natural to have cravings as your body adjusts to all the > changes. Perhaps it's best to be gentle and loving with yourself. > > Many moms have eaten these foods and not suffered a miscarraige, > and > surely your health must be much better than theirs! Your baby > will > be fine. > > HOpe you enjoyed the holidays, > > > > >> > I feel like the worst mother on earth!> > I've been so good for so long ...and then today (December 25th) > I > broke down and had (ready for this?): a handful of chips, 3 > cookies > and 3 chocolates AND a few sips of ginger ale! What got into > me!?! ...and I HATE pop! Haven't had it in years!> > And if I'm not freaking out! Bad enough for all that horrid > sugar > and what I may have just done to my baby, but I just had a bunch > of > pineapple and was just told that pineapple softens the cervix and > causes miscarriages!!!> > I"m trying not to freak out, but I"m close to tears!> > I'm a terrible mother (to-be)!> > How could I have done this to my baby? ..and me. > > You may proceed to give me sh-t now...nothing can make me feel > worse than I already do. Is there anything I can do to clean out > my > system other than drink a bunch of water?> > I was told to try Udo's Oil 3-6-9> > > > "...become the change you envision" _ > >> > >

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LOL

Thanks.

Thanks to everyone.

I've gained 20 lbs already and have been told I shouldn't be so heavy already. I'm fine. As long as I feel my baby kicking everyday I know we'll be OK.

Thanks for the support.

Happy New Year!

From: VeganMacrobiotics [mailto:VeganMacrobiotics ] On Behalf Of purplevegSent: December 26, 2006 10:39 PMTo: VeganMacrobiotics Subject: Re: The worst mother on earth

I already know what kind of mom you are silly. You will and are a wonderful, thoughtful and loving mom. My mom ate stuff like eclairs on a daily basis when she was pregnant with Nikki.............. lolxoxoxoxoxoR>> I know.> I just felt the baby go nuts with all that sugar in me not long after I ate it and I thought my G-d I'm killing my child with a sugar rush! I thought it was having some kind of an attack from all the crap I just fed it. > I was so worried (to put it mildly) and tried to calm myself as to not make the situation worse. > I wont be doing that again guaranteed. > I would never feed my baby sugar, cookies, chocolate, etc as a born infant I can't believe I did it at 20 weeks in my belly. > I still feel bad (Reggie thank you sooooooooooooo much for the phone message) but am trying to take what everyone has said to heart.> much love, and thanks for the continued support to all who wrote back!> > > "...become the change you envision" _

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LOL

Thanks.

Thanks to everyone.

I've gained 20 lbs already and have been told I shouldn't be so heavy already. I'm fine. As long as I feel my baby kicking everyday I know we'll be OK.

Thanks for the support.

Happy New Year!

From: VeganMacrobiotics [mailto:VeganMacrobiotics ] On Behalf Of purplevegSent: December 26, 2006 10:39 PMTo: VeganMacrobiotics Subject: Re: The worst mother on earth

I already know what kind of mom you are silly. You will and are a wonderful, thoughtful and loving mom. My mom ate stuff like eclairs on a daily basis when she was pregnant with Nikki.............. lolxoxoxoxoxoR>> I know.> I just felt the baby go nuts with all that sugar in me not long after I ate it and I thought my G-d I'm killing my child with a sugar rush! I thought it was having some kind of an attack from all the crap I just fed it. > I was so worried (to put it mildly) and tried to calm myself as to not make the situation worse. > I wont be doing that again guaranteed. > I would never feed my baby sugar, cookies, chocolate, etc as a born infant I can't believe I did it at 20 weeks in my belly. > I still feel bad (Reggie thank you sooooooooooooo much for the phone message) but am trying to take what everyone has said to heart.> much love, and thanks for the continued support to all who wrote back!> > > "...become the change you envision" _