Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

[Guest guest]

For me it depends on the NTs. The adult studies classes I just comleted were usually pretty nice. There were bad evenings of course, but most of the time they went well. Having to deal with less pleasant NTs can be a real pain though. There are some that I just don't get along with at all and they drain me, while banal gossip and chit-chat also drains me. Argumentative ones also bother me, especially if I am in command at the moment. Having an opinion is one thing and if it has merit I'll change my mind, but if not, freaking drop it and get on with it.

[Guest guest]

Question: Does interaction with NTs affect any of you in this fashion?

Answer: Yes, yes, and YES! When I teach (meaning I am interacting with multiple

NTs for at least an hour and a half) it takes me another hour to get back to

normal by meditating/relaxing in a quiet, dark space. When this opportunity is

not afforded, I tend to " go off the deep end " . It seems like the light is

brighter, the noise is louder, and I really struggle to manuever through the

continued interactions. I would love to know what others do to conquer this

because I find it a little embarrassing to have to literally escape the

situation.

e

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[Guest guest]

Tom:

> Does interaction with NTs affect any of you in this fashion?Yep. And actually ANY 3-D interaction. But it is of course always more tiresome to be with people who are very different from yourself. And to be in a group instead of with just one or two. And if you meet in public with lots of noise and stuff going on versus the quiet of someone's home.

Inger

[Guest guest]

Sure, interacting with most NTs is taxing for me. Hard work. I'm much

more vital now that I'm living and working alone.

Ken

>

> In a prior post I mentioned that I slept for nearly ten hours last

> night and awakened only marginally refreshed. Lately I have been

> feeling close to mental and emotional exhaustion and I've found that

> things that don't usually bother me are now things that I blow out of

> proportion.

>

> I know for a fact that I can directly attribute my exhaustion to

> having to interact so closely with NTs all the time. Does interaction

> with NTs affect any of you in this fashion?

>

> Tom

[Guest guest]

L,

I don't think that makes you a bad mother, just normal. All parents can't wait for their children to grow up, but at the same time don't really want them to. I think it is only natural, since the parents have spent 18 years or so raising the children, and that is a long time for anything.

[Guest guest]

It seems I'm supposed to wait for a breakthrough...kids leaving for college ( a

bit later in Sweden considering our contemporary school is longer...) but I

don't feel the way others seem to.

I love my children to death. I could probably move mountains for them too. I

actually dont even like other children...maybee some students that I've worked

closely with then;) I especially dislike filthy ones.....(I know I might like

them if I get a relation with them,,,and maybee tidy the up and teach them

manners......)....but what are people talking about??? I can't wait to send

them my kids to University...Faaar away;)....But on the other side how I will

react when they are gone...I don'tknow...my reactions are always late

anyway....

I did however have a 4o.something.crisis,,,realizing that I!!!! who always had

looked young suddenly looked almost my age....scary...and a different thought;)

If u wanna know how I look like...check the link...Charlotte;)

(they are cute however when they are asleep....the boys...

Lotta)

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From: VISIGOTH@...

Date: 2005/04/09 lö AM 01:23:51 CEST

To: FAMSecretSociety

Ämne: Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

L,

I don't think that makes you a bad mother, just normal. All parents can't

wait for their children to grow up, but at the same time don't really want them

to. I think it is only natural, since the parents have spent 18 years or so

raising the children, and that is a long time for anything.

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[Guest guest]

It seems I'm supposed to wait for a breakthrough...kids leaving for college ( a

bit later in Sweden considering our contemporary school is longer...) but I

don't feel the way others seem to.

I love my children to death. I could probably move mountains for them too. I

actually dont even like other children...maybee some students that I've worked

closely with then;) I especially dislike filthy ones.....(I know I might like

them if I get a relation with them,,,and maybee tidy the up and teach them

manners......)....but what are people talking about??? I can't wait to send

them my kids to University...Faaar away;)....But on the other side how I will

react when they are gone...I don'tknow...my reactions are always late

anyway....

I did however have a 4o.something.crisis,,,realizing that I!!!! who always had

looked young suddenly looked almost my age....scary...and a different thought;)

If u wanna know how I look like...check the link...Charlotte;)

(they are cute however when they are asleep....the boys...

Lotta)

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From: VISIGOTH@...

Date: 2005/04/09 lö AM 01:23:51 CEST

To: FAMSecretSociety

Ämne: Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

L,

I don't think that makes you a bad mother, just normal. All parents can't

wait for their children to grow up, but at the same time don't really want them

to. I think it is only natural, since the parents have spent 18 years or so

raising the children, and that is a long time for anything.

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[Guest guest]

It seems I'm supposed to wait for a breakthrough...kids leaving for college ( a

bit later in Sweden considering our contemporary school is longer...) but I

don't feel the way others seem to.

I love my children to death. I could probably move mountains for them too. I

actually dont even like other children...maybee some students that I've worked

closely with then;) I especially dislike filthy ones.....(I know I might like

them if I get a relation with them,,,and maybee tidy the up and teach them

manners......)....but what are people talking about??? I can't wait to send

them my kids to University...Faaar away;)....But on the other side how I will

react when they are gone...I don'tknow...my reactions are always late

anyway....

I did however have a 4o.something.crisis,,,realizing that I!!!! who always had

looked young suddenly looked almost my age....scary...and a different thought;)

If u wanna know how I look like...check the link...Charlotte;)

(they are cute however when they are asleep....the boys...

Lotta)

============================================================

From: VISIGOTH@...

Date: 2005/04/09 lö AM 01:23:51 CEST

To: FAMSecretSociety

Ämne: Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

L,

I don't think that makes you a bad mother, just normal. All parents can't

wait for their children to grow up, but at the same time don't really want them

to. I think it is only natural, since the parents have spent 18 years or so

raising the children, and that is a long time for anything.

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[Guest guest]

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile, its just been really busy latley.

Its funny that you just posted this, because lately I have been

figuring out that when I spend a lot of time around people, I get

really tired or I just start feeling unmotivated. The more people

there are and the more time I spend with them, the more tired or

unmotivated I feel. Most of the time, all I want to do is just sleep

or watch tv or read and not much else. This doesn't happen if I am

with Opie or Britt, so I am guessing that it is just plain exhusting

just to be around people who are not like ourseleves. Maybe because we

feel like we have to try and be less like ourseleve and more like

those around us? Thats just something that I wonder if it the reason

for being so tired after being around a lot of people.

I'll try to post more later on, but finals are coming up and so is my

sisters wedding, so not sure I will have a lot of time.

Just wanted to also welcome all of the new people who have joined.

[Guest guest]

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile, its just been really busy latley.

Its funny that you just posted this, because lately I have been

figuring out that when I spend a lot of time around people, I get

really tired or I just start feeling unmotivated. The more people

there are and the more time I spend with them, the more tired or

unmotivated I feel. Most of the time, all I want to do is just sleep

or watch tv or read and not much else. This doesn't happen if I am

with Opie or Britt, so I am guessing that it is just plain exhusting

just to be around people who are not like ourseleves. Maybe because we

feel like we have to try and be less like ourseleve and more like

those around us? Thats just something that I wonder if it the reason

for being so tired after being around a lot of people.

I'll try to post more later on, but finals are coming up and so is my

sisters wedding, so not sure I will have a lot of time.

Just wanted to also welcome all of the new people who have joined.

[Guest guest]

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile, its just been really busy latley.

Its funny that you just posted this, because lately I have been

figuring out that when I spend a lot of time around people, I get

really tired or I just start feeling unmotivated. The more people

there are and the more time I spend with them, the more tired or

unmotivated I feel. Most of the time, all I want to do is just sleep

or watch tv or read and not much else. This doesn't happen if I am

with Opie or Britt, so I am guessing that it is just plain exhusting

just to be around people who are not like ourseleves. Maybe because we

feel like we have to try and be less like ourseleve and more like

those around us? Thats just something that I wonder if it the reason

for being so tired after being around a lot of people.

I'll try to post more later on, but finals are coming up and so is my

sisters wedding, so not sure I will have a lot of time.

Just wanted to also welcome all of the new people who have joined.