School Punishments / Suspensions

July 18, 2003

My son has Aspergers / ADHD, when we made up his IEP it was to help

the school educate him in the manner in which he needs. My question

is if an IEP is made because a child obviously reacts differently,

then how can they suspended or punished them for having a unique

response. I have the understanding that the IEP is made to protect

their rights as unique indivuals. of couse I dont condone violence

but I would think an anger managent class would be the a usefull

tool.

My son in the past has never showed anger, I see it in him now tho.

He is just not angry by nature, he is a lover not a fighter. When he

plays with the more aggresive boys and they argue about whatever

boys argue about. He does warn them when he is angry, and he askes

them to stop(one in particual I have caught taunting him on several

occasions, and he been hit on several occasions)but I have been

trying to teach him its never right to hit and trying to teach the

other lil boy about self preservation and how certain actions will

get certain reactions(lol), they have limited supervised playtime

together now and my son beleives him to be his best friend. But, the

lil boy knows the right buttons and he uses them frequently out of

spite, he will also be in my sons class next year.

Will the school not take this into account, because if not omg is it

going to be quite a year. I do give my son time out (he is 7)

followed by a talk after he is calmed about what his reactions

could/should have been, and if he dosent know to just walk it

off.....but if I do say so myself I kinda deep down think smacking a

person who is screaming at the top of their lungs 2 inches away from

your face could just be the correct response. We know that kids are

cruel to each other I would never want my childhood back, at the

same time I am telling him not to hit I feel like I am also teaching

him to not defend his rights, Im unsure where is the real division.

I overall think of it as teaching him self discipline, but what 7

year old can grasp that concept.

Thanks,

candymania

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