Guest guest Posted August 1, 2003 Report Share Posted August 1, 2003 Well... we're in! Got the call on Tuesday night, left Wednesday. Will try to catch up with all one of these mornings, it was pretty scarey scene here on Wednesday. About 195 round trip, and will be getting lots of frequent 'driver' miles coming in the next few weeks. luv to all... DES < might catch up on sleep now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2003 Report Share Posted August 1, 2003 Oh Des, what emotional turmoil. Relief, worry, apathy....I remember feeling lots of emotions when my daughter was hospitalized. I hope you *do* get some rest and "you" time....and I hope your son gets the help he needs to make life less challenging for him AND you. Toodles!>^..^<Maralee Inpatient time Well... we're in! Got the call on Tuesday night, left Wednesday. Will try to catch up with all one of these mornings, it was pretty scarey scene here on Wednesday. About 195 round trip, and will be getting lots of frequent 'driver' miles coming in the next few weeks. luv to all...DES < might catch up on sleep now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 About a year & 1/2 ago I hospitalized my son for depression. He wasn't suicidal, he wasn't violent, but he was definitely not functioning in this world. After a rough morning trying to get him up & ready for school, I simply without warning to him drove him to the hospital instead of school. Our therapist is also affiliated with that hospital & she & I had discussed this option for a few weeks beforehand. Almost ironically, the hospital has a special day school for " severely behaviorally disturbed " kids that my son had attended for 2 years several years before. So it wasn't a totally strange environment for him. He didn't argue or protest, but I think he also thought I was bluffing, & thought I'd back out right up to when I'd finished signing the paperwork & the door locked behind him. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life, & I cried all the way home. He was there 5 days. The 1st day, it was " I don't belong here, get me out of here! " but after that he started listening not only to what the staff was saying, but what the other teens were telling him about himself. He came to realize that it was best for both of us at the time. It was so very hard for me, harder than for him I know. He learned a lot in those 5 days. If I had doubts that I did the right thing, they were banished just in the last weeks of school last May. He had to give a presentation in his Sociology class. This AS teen, with ADD & still taking meds for depression, stood up in front of his class & talked about depression-- & he used himself as an example! He told them about his hospitalization, & without naming names about some of the other kids that were there at the same time. He told me he was nervous at 1st, but when he noticed their total non-negative attention on him, it got easier. He was the only 1 in class to get a round of applause after his presentation! I was so proud of him! Hang in there, Des, these days will be very hard, but it will be worth it. Sometimes, the harder something is, the greater the benefits of it. Candace in Colorado > Well... we're in! Got the call on Tuesday night, left Wednesday. > Will try to catch up with all one of these mornings, it was pretty > scarey scene here on Wednesday. About 195 round trip, and will be > getting lots of frequent 'driver' miles coming in the next few > weeks. luv to all... > > DES < might catch up on sleep now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 Thanks M... called to see how things were, they said its the 'honeymoon' time. Nice, calm, cooperative. OYYYY! They should have come to the house to help transport then :/ Ended up calling police, he was hanging out the window upstairs...phone in one hand, ankle in another. The offered him the choice: go with me in the Medivan or go with them in cuffs. errrrrrr.. he wasn't liking those choices. But eventually he decided to go with me. Was a long drive...but he was up the whole night before on a 'pacing thing' so he fell asleep for a bit. am starting to settle down myself now. Spending some long over due quality time with the younger son; and resting. yea...I hope this helps him too. DES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 Thanks M... called to see how things were, they said its the 'honeymoon' time. Nice, calm, cooperative. OYYYY! They should have come to the house to help transport then :/ Ended up calling police, he was hanging out the window upstairs...phone in one hand, ankle in another. The offered him the choice: go with me in the Medivan or go with them in cuffs. errrrrrr.. he wasn't liking those choices. But eventually he decided to go with me. Was a long drive...but he was up the whole night before on a 'pacing thing' so he fell asleep for a bit. am starting to settle down myself now. Spending some long over due quality time with the younger son; and resting. yea...I hope this helps him too. DES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 thanks Candace.. this only his second inpatient. First was Nov last year. My older had so many I lost count. I really don't think it gets easy on the parents Can relate to the 'break down' on the way home....... relief? or just plain letting the pent up emotions go. glad I had a 'understanding' medivan driver. LOL DES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 Yeah, Des, those inpatient times (I've only had one with DD) ARE emotional. I was relieved she was there but worried too because she was fearful (she's so anxious) and she's 'emotionally safe' with me, so then I felt guilty of course; AND then there's all that pent-up emotion, as you mentioned. Ugh.. I've found myself falling apart and crying over the stupidest things sometimes...and I know it is pent up emotion. I just keep going and going and going and going and giving and giving and giving and being patient time and time and time again....and then....SNAP......I break! And fall apart. I try to do that when I'm alone. LOL! Toodles!>^..^<Maralee Re: Inpatient time thanks Candace.. this only his second inpatient. First was Nov last year. My older had so many I lost count. I really don't think it gets easy on the parents Can relate to the 'break down' on the way home....... relief? or just plain letting the pent up emotions go. glad I had a 'understanding' medivan driver. LOLDES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 Yeah, Des, those inpatient times (I've only had one with DD) ARE emotional. I was relieved she was there but worried too because she was fearful (she's so anxious) and she's 'emotionally safe' with me, so then I felt guilty of course; AND then there's all that pent-up emotion, as you mentioned. Ugh.. I've found myself falling apart and crying over the stupidest things sometimes...and I know it is pent up emotion. I just keep going and going and going and going and giving and giving and giving and being patient time and time and time again....and then....SNAP......I break! And fall apart. I try to do that when I'm alone. LOL! Toodles!>^..^<Maralee Re: Inpatient time thanks Candace.. this only his second inpatient. First was Nov last year. My older had so many I lost count. I really don't think it gets easy on the parents Can relate to the 'break down' on the way home....... relief? or just plain letting the pent up emotions go. glad I had a 'understanding' medivan driver. LOLDES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 Des, yes, use this time to get yourself settled down inside. Give special attention to your younger son. Rest, & though it sounds strange, try not to think about what's happening to the one in the hospital. I've found that when something is really stressing me out, during some down-time where I'm not really trying to think about anything in particular is when I actually start to get my clearest thoughts about whatever is wrong. But that down-time is so hard to get when we have kids like ours. Candace in Colorado > Thanks M... called to see how things were, they said its > the 'honeymoon' time. Nice, calm, cooperative. OYYYY! They should > have come to the house to help transport then :/ Ended up calling > police, he was hanging out the window upstairs...phone in one hand, > ankle in another. The offered him the choice: go with me in the > Medivan or go with them in cuffs. errrrrrr.. he wasn't liking those > choices. But eventually he decided to go with me. Was a long > drive...but he was up the whole night before on a 'pacing thing' so > he fell asleep for a bit. > > am starting to settle down myself now. Spending some long over due > quality time with the younger son; and resting. > > yea...I hope this helps him too. > > DES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2003 Report Share Posted August 2, 2003 Amen to this! > Yeah, Des, those inpatient times (I've only had one with DD) ARE emotional. I was relieved she was there but worried too because she was fearful (she's so anxious) and she's 'emotionally safe' with me, so then I felt guilty of course; AND then there's all that pent-up emotion, as you mentioned. Ugh.. > > I've found myself falling apart and crying over the stupidest things sometimes...and I know it is pent up emotion. I just keep going and going and going and going and giving and giving and giving and being patient time and time and time again....and then....SNAP......I break! And fall apart. > > I try to do that when I'm alone. LOL! > > Toodles! > >^..^< > Maralee > Re: Inpatient time > > > thanks Candace.. this only his second inpatient. First was Nov last > year. My older had so many I lost count. I really don't think it > gets easy on the parents Can relate to the 'break down' on the > way home....... relief? or just plain letting the pent up emotions > go. > > glad I had a 'understanding' medivan driver. LOL > > DES > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2003 Report Share Posted August 3, 2003 I know, Des. Those kids of ours. Sometimes people (I like to call them civilians) have a hard time believing our kids act like we say they do ....when no one is around. Many times I've thought I should set up a hidden video camera or at least a tape recorder (we did do that years ago for our psychiatrist) to 'prove' that we are not exaggerating when we tell our 'stories.' Our dd is so opposite in public of what she's like at home. Shy. Quiet. Doesn't say a word. Yeah, right! Toodles!>^..^<Maralee Re: Inpatient time Thanks M... called to see how things were, they said its the 'honeymoon' time. Nice, calm, cooperative. OYYYY! They should have come to the house to help transport then :/ Ended up calling police, he was hanging out the window upstairs...phone in one hand, ankle in another. The offered him the choice: go with me in the Medivan or go with them in cuffs. errrrrrr.. he wasn't liking those choices. But eventually he decided to go with me. Was a long drive...but he was up the whole night before on a 'pacing thing' so he fell asleep for a bit.am starting to settle down myself now. Spending some long over due quality time with the younger son; and resting.yea...I hope this helps him too.DES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2003 Report Share Posted August 10, 2003 How are things going with your son, Des? Toodles!>^..^<Maralee Re: Inpatient time Thanks M... called to see how things were, they said its the 'honeymoon' time. Nice, calm, cooperative. OYYYY! They should have come to the house to help transport then :/ Ended up calling police, he was hanging out the window upstairs...phone in one hand, ankle in another. The offered him the choice: go with me in the Medivan or go with them in cuffs. errrrrrr.. he wasn't liking those choices. But eventually he decided to go with me. Was a long drive...but he was up the whole night before on a 'pacing thing' so he fell asleep for a bit.am starting to settle down myself now. Spending some long over due quality time with the younger son; and resting.yea...I hope this helps him too.DES Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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