Re: Please help if you can

June 9, 2002

,

Are you in the Dallas area? Are you considering residential

placement? What places have denied you and why?

- what is the new yahoo group that you started for concerns

on older kids in Texas?

Theresa, SA

June 10, 2002

In a message dated 6/9/02 10:16:57 PM Central Daylight Time,

Fischer1959@... writes:

> I have an 18 year old autistic daughter, mentally age 2 from 106 fever as a

> baby, they couldnt get it down in time. I feel I have exhausted all my

> possibilities in getting help, to find her placement. She is getting

> physical

> with myself, my husband, and our to young ones, ages 18 months and 9

> months.

> She is also becoming destructive,and has put several holes in walls. My

> husband and I are at our wits end. Someone I met on Yahoo also has an

> autistic child and suggested calling Dallas Childrens Hospital,where he had

>

> gotten help for his child. But if anyone else has suggestions, or places I

> can contact to get help, please, please let me know, before something bad

> happens, thank you.

>

> Fischer

>

Hello ,

Have you considered SSRIs for this child? If yes, and if you are using them

what are they? Have you tried talking to her neurologists about changing

them? Has her day time care (school) changed recently?

Just thinking aloud to figure out if it is just a physiological change, or if

it is an environmental change or a chemical imbalance...

Love and Prayers,

Sheela.

June 19, 2002

Question for parents.........

I am only 19 days into this (my child's diagnosis) and just when I

thought things were improving my Son seems to have regressed. His

tantrums are uncontrollable. Today I picked him up from his Montessori

school and I " busted " his teacher (actually teacher helper) quickly

taking away a toy my Son always stims on. I was mad at the school not

so much for giving him the toy we previously discussed them removing but

the fact that they tried to hide it from that they gave it to him. I

can understand that he is so out of control at times and they have other

children to tend to them falling into the temptation giving him the toy

to keep him quiet once in a great while. Wont I don't like is the dis

honesty. He is almost three and they wont keep him unless potty trained

anyway so I need to find a place for him now.

Does anyone have any suggestions about childcare for an ASD boy? My wife

and I must both work to make ends meet and I have little time to find

somewhere good and affordable. I am in the Spring TX area.

Any suggestions would mean a great deal.

PS.....one more little question. I feel so guilty doing things I used

to enjoy when my child is asleep. Like watching a ball game or playing

hoops, working out etc. I feel like I should be on the CPU researching

info, reading books, making plans etc. I guess I am asking at what

point to you guys feel your doing all you can......or do you really ever

feel that way? Do you Fathers of ASD children still watch sports and

things like that? Is there a happy medium?

sheelaravi@... wrote:

>

> In a message dated 6/9/02 10:16:57 PM Central Daylight Time,

> Fischer1959@... writes:

>

> > I have an 18 year old autistic daughter, mentally age 2 from 106

> fever as a

> > baby, they couldnt get it down in time. I feel I have exhausted all

> my

> > possibilities in getting help, to find her placement. She is getting

>

> > physical

> > with myself, my husband, and our to young ones, ages 18 months and 9

>

> > months.

> > She is also becoming destructive,and has put several holes in walls.

> My

> > husband and I are at our wits end. Someone I met on Yahoo also has

> an

> > autistic child and suggested calling Dallas Childrens Hospital,where

> he had

> >

> > gotten help for his child. But if anyone else has suggestions, or

> places I

> > can contact to get help, please, please let me know, before

> something bad

> > happens, thank you.

> >

> > Fischer

> >

>

> Hello ,

> Have you considered SSRIs for this child? If yes, and if you are using

> them

> what are they? Have you tried talking to her neurologists about

> changing

> them? Has her day time care (school) changed recently?

>

> Just thinking aloud to figure out if it is just a physiological

> change, or if

> it is an environmental change or a chemical imbalance...

>

> Love and Prayers,

> Sheela.

>

June 19, 2002

I feel your frustration as I know it only too well........ One thing to

remember - is that Autism is going to be a long, exhausting marathon - it is

not going to be a quick, smooth, sprint.

While that doesn't sound to encouraging - it should help you to realize that

during a marathon - it is important

to B-R-E-A-T-E.......and P-A-C-E Y-O-U-R-S-E-L-F........

I see myself 5 years ago in your post - up all night on the computer -

reading every autism book - and so on..... and you know - after all that -

my son is still Autistic.....

I have since learned - despite much much much self-inflicted guilt - to

balance. As you can tell - I still am on the computer reading - but went

from 22 autism lists to about 10 - I allow only so much time for the

computer/reading books/ and so on..

I have even been seen out in public taking a walk for myself!!!

My husband and I both have learned that in order to survive the marathon for

the long haul - we need to focus on ourselves, and each other, now and then.

PS - I don't think there is a point when you feel you have done all you can

- I guess it's that fact that gives us faith and hope that if we keep

searching - we will find something that helps our child be the best he or

she can be.

Guppy - who is now going to go read a couple chapters of a book

that has absolutely NOTHING to do with Autism! woo woo!!