Re: does this sound familiar? LOL

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Maybe each of us can select one of the below statements and come up with a smart a** answer - well ok maybe a mature, thought provoking answer - then take a vote on the best submissions . . .

Theresa

On Tue, 11 Feb 2003 09:51:18 -0500 "michele e" writes:

‘Just let him spend more time with us. We’ll whip him into shape!’ ‘She may act that way at home, but she’s not going to do that in MY house!’‘He wouldn’t act this way if you didn’t work.’‘I managed all by myself with four kids. You’ve just got two, and you can’t handle them!’‘Don’t believe everything those psychologists tell you. He’ll just grow out of it, wait and see!’‘There’s nothing wrong with her. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill. Are you sure you’re not the one that needs to see a psychologist?’‘He’s having all these problems because you took him out of school for that home-schooling nonsense.’‘Everybody’s got to have a problem with a fancy name these days!’‘All you ever do is complain about how hard your life is.’ ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:- Michele E -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

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Bite me comes to mind. I usually just say uh-huh, where was you got your medical degree?

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>Reply-To: autism-aspergers >To: autism-aspergers >Subject: Re: does this sound familiar? LOL >Date: Tue, 11 Feb 2003 10:38:41 -0500 > >Maybe each of us can select one of the below statements and come up with >a smart a** answer - well ok maybe a mature, thought provoking answer - >then take a vote on the best submissions . . . > >Theresa > >On Tue, 11 Feb 2003 09:51:18 -0500 "michele e"

>writes: > > ‘Just let him spend more time with us. We’ll whip him into >shape!’ >‘She may act that way at home, but she’s not going to do that in MY >house!’ >‘He wouldn’t act this way if you didn’t work.’ >‘I managed all by myself with four kids. You’ve just got two, and you >can’t handle them!’ >‘Don’t believe everything those psychologists tell you. He’ll just grow >out of it, wait and see!’ >‘There’s nothing wrong with her. You’re making a mountain out of a >molehill. Are you sure you’re not the one that needs to see a >psychologist?’ >‘He’s having all these problems because you took him out of school for >that home-schooling nonsense.’ >‘Everybody’s got to have a problem with a fancy name these days!’ >‘All you ever do is complain about how hard your life is.’ > > ´¨¨)) -:¦:- > ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) > ((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:- Michele E > -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´* > > >

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What is so sad and I am humbled to say is that

BEFORE my little AS son came into my life, I judged

children who act just like he does and would think

that MY CHILD WOULD NEVER ACT THAT WAY. People just

do not understand what we deal with. They don't

have a clue.

Blessings

Diane Hearon

Mom of 8 year old boy with AS

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Great Idea Tereasa!!!!

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Boy, Diane, did you hit the nail on the head there. With a bipolar daughter

and her three children with bipolar or autism, I learned it is not always

black and white. What a hard way to learn tolerance but a sure one.

Betty - possibly Bipolar but undx'd, Effexor, Buspar, Omega 3's

grandma and guardian to

- 11 yo-- Bipolar/ADHD on Depakote, Adderall, Omega 3's

Evan - 8 yo nonverbal autism on 4 mg Risperdal, 1 mg Tenex

- 6 - Bipolar/ADHD/PTSD on Tegretol, Adderall, clonidine .1 mg, Omega

3's

mother to , their mom - Bipolar/ADHD on Topamax

wife to Bob - Effexor and too more many meds to remember

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> What is so sad and I am humbled to say is that

> BEFORE my little AS son came into my life, I judged

> children who act just like he does and would think

> that MY CHILD WOULD NEVER ACT THAT WAY. People just

> do not understand what we deal with. They don't

> have a clue.

>

> Blessings

> Diane Hearon

> Mom of 8 year old boy with AS

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Diane,

I have to agree with you whole heartedly and I am ashamed to admit I use to think the same thing. When you walk into a store and see a child laying on the floor kicking and screaming, it is hard not to pass judgment. I think it is especially difficult because on the outside, our kids look like any other "typical" child. It also doesn't help that even family docs and pediatricians dismiss parents concerns, if they are doing that, one can understand why the general public is so ill informed!

Angie

Re: does this sound familiar? LOL

What is so sad and I am humbled to say is that BEFORE my little AS son came into my life, I judged children who act just like he does and would think that MY CHILD WOULD NEVER ACT THAT WAY. People just do not understand what we deal with. They don't have a clue. Blessings Diane Hearon Mom of 8 year old boy with AS >

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If I could live my life over I would have a flyer that I passed out during those first few years.

What makes it harder is there are some kids I know personally who are NOT disciplined and there parents let them get away with murder. It makes the truly spec kids seems like those!

When your on the outside its hard to tell which kid your looking at.

I make a point now that I dont "look" at peoples kids havine a rough time. The last thing they need is me looking at them etc....

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Re: does this sound familiar? LOL

What is so sad and I am humbled to say is that BEFORE my little AS son came into my life, I judged children who act just like he does and would think that MY CHILD WOULD NEVER ACT THAT WAY. People just do not understand what we deal with. They don't have a clue. Blessings Diane Hearon Mom of 8 year old boy with AS >

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Hi Theresa,

Well I can start off with the one I am always tempted to use, when told "Just a week with me and I would whip it out of him" I long to say something along the lines of "Oh and child abuse is more acceptable than a recognised disability!!!!" LOL Of course I never have the courage and I usually walk away muttering it under my breath.

Sheelagh

Re: does this sound familiar? LOL

Maybe each of us can select one of the below statements and come up with a smart a** answer - well ok maybe a mature, thought provoking answer - then take a vote on the best submissions . . .

Theresa

On Tue, 11 Feb 2003 09:51:18 -0500 "michele e" writes:

‘Just let him spend more time with us. We’ll whip him into shape!’ ‘She may act that way at home, but she’s not going to do that in MY house!’‘He wouldn’t act this way if you didn’t work.’‘I managed all by myself with four kids. You’ve just got two, and you can’t handle them!’‘Don’t believe everything those psychologists tell you. He’ll just grow out of it, wait and see!’‘There’s nothing wrong with her. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill. Are you sure you’re not the one that needs to see a psychologist?’‘He’s having all these problems because you took him out of school for that home-schooling nonsense.’‘Everybody’s got to have a problem with a fancy name these days!’‘All you ever do is complain about how hard your life is.’ ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:- Michele E -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

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Hi

I totally relate to these comments as some of my family think Adam 'just needs a good hiding'

Luv Sue

does this sound familiar? LOL

‘Just let him spend more time with us. We’ll whip him into shape!’ ‘She may act that way at home, but she’s not going to do that in MY house!’‘He wouldn’t act this way if you didn’t work.’‘I managed all by myself with four kids. You’ve just got two, and you can’t handle them!’‘Don’t believe everything those psychologists tell you. He’ll just grow out of it, wait and see!’‘There’s nothing wrong with her. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill. Are you sure you’re not the one that needs to see a psychologist?’‘He’s having all these problems because you took him out of school for that home-schooling nonsense.’‘Everybody’s got to have a problem with a fancy name these days!’‘All you ever do is complain about how hard your life is.’ ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:- Michele E -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

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"Just a week with me and I would whip it out of him"

When I read this one it reminded me of what Evan's paternal grandfather said about Evan right after Evan was dx'd with nonverbal autism. "Let me take him home with us to Oregon and I will have him talking in two months'. Needless to say if I already had no reason to dislike this man, that would have assured it. I don't have a clue as to what he thought he would do to force a nonverbal child to talk and did not want to ask him either.

Betty - possibly Bipolar but undx'd, Effexor, Buspar, Omega 3'sgrandma and guardian to

- 11 yo-- Bipolar/ADHD on Depakote, Adderall, Omega 3'sEvan - 8 yo nonverbal autism on 4 mg Risperdal, 1 mg Tenex - 6 - Bipolar/ADHD/PTSD on Tegretol, Adderall, clonidine .1 mg, Omega 3'smother to , their mom - Bipolar/ADHD on Topamaxwife to Bob - Effexor and too more many meds to remember

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It is usually my parents or brothers or my mother's best friend and I simply say that it is none of their business and I am not going to talk to them about it.......period! If they continue to bitch I get up and leave. I haven't been over to my parents house in 4mths and don't plan on going back because of their attitude with my sons. My father thinks that I should just slap them if they start to show their anger or frustration. That they will somehow "wake-up". I don't believe on ever hitting a child in the face or head and they are too old to spank even if this was a behavor that one would spank for. I personally believe that they cannot help behaving the way that they do and it's our job as parents to help them cope not make life harder for them. Just my thoughts.

heather

Re: does this sound familiar? LOL >Date: Tue, 11 Feb 2003 10:38:41 -0500 > >Maybe each of us can select one of the below statements and come up with >a smart a** answer - well ok maybe a mature, thought provoking answer - >then take a vote on the best submissions . . . > >Theresa > >On Tue, 11 Feb 2003 09:51:18 -0500 "michele e"

>writes: > > ‘Just let him spend more time with us. We’ll whip him into >shape!’ >‘She may act that way at home, but she’s not going to do that in MY >house!’ >‘He wouldn’t act this way if you didn’t work.’ >‘I managed all by myself with four kids. You’ve just got two, and you >can’t handle them!’ >‘Don’t believe everything those psychologists tell you. He’ll just grow >out of it, wait and see!’ >‘There’s nothing wrong with her. You’re making a mountain out of a >molehill. Are you sure you’re not the one that needs to see a >psychologist?’ >‘He’s having all these problems because you took him out of school for >that home-schooling nonsense.’ >‘Everybody’s got to have a problem with a fancy name these days!’ >‘All you ever do is complain about how hard your life is.’ > > ´¨¨)) -:¦:- > ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) > ((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:- Michele E > -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´* > > >

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I don't think there's a person anywhere with a disabled kid that hasn't

had to put up with this guff at one time or another, in varying degrees

of rudeness and/or unthinking cruelty. My parents, particularly my dad,

didn't understand Louie *at all* when he was first dx'ed and I know now

it was because Louie scared them on a level they couldn't really

verbalize. So, what worked for my family was to schedule a home visit

from Louie's psychologist to come talk to the family and anyone else

closely involved with Louie (other than us, to answer questions that

perhaps these folks didn't want to ask us for one reason or another.

The crowd that showed up included my parents, our best friend, our

daughter, and a couple of my siblings (I have 5). Ms. Wimbish, for that

was her name, stayed and talked and answered questions for a good hour

after she'd finished the presentation about autism she'd worked up. And

so my parents et al finally understood, the fear went away, and the

remarks stopped completely.....and they felt more forthcoming about

asking us questions about Louie and his autism. It was one of the best

things we ever did for Louie, and I don't regret it. Especially now

that both my folks are gone (they passed in 1992 & 1993).

You might want to try this, anybody, if it's getting too deep to handle

'round about the relatives houses.

Strangers? Who the hell cares what they think or say? I don't know

them, they don't know me, so they should go on their merry way. We've

raised both our kids to not give a rap for public opinion of them or

their idiosyncrasies.

Annie, who loves ya annie@...

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