Guest guest Posted April 30, 2001 Report Share Posted April 30, 2001 I am glad you can see it now for what it was. I'm glad you are not like that so it isn't being passed on. In New York around the turn of the century there was a famous miser, I think her last name was Green, who didn't take her son to the doctor when he broke his leg. He walked with a limp for the rest of his life. His mother was a millionaire from being a miser. Cyndy --- giacomo wrote: > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and she > took me > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I do > hate to > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some > sadism. For > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an adult > because > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate > novocaine. In > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a result, > trips to > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous > penny-pincher, > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using much > or any > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a > root canal > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised > that my > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling > appointments as a > kid. > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having us > expose > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose tooth > and my > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told her > not to > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it > out. > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator > in our > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me to > the > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from > preschool. > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like 20 > minutes. > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked > diaper to my > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally > came out, > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. > when she > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that > parents > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I > would have to > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag me > enough > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my > back. When I > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to school. > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. But > when I > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. I > would > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid to > the > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he > have a > concussion? (I did.) > > giacomo > > ===== PEACE and HEALING /group/depression-cause-cure http://www.hypnosis-audio.com http://www.emofree.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2001 Report Share Posted April 30, 2001 " But thinking back (and I do hate to see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some sadism. " I grew up angry with the medical profession for what I perceived as the odd and ineffectual care that I often received. But now I'm not sure where the blame really fell. I don't know what was due to my mother and what was due to the doctors. I never questioned whether the pediatrician really told her that I had an allergy to the sun or not. Now I wonder if it was something she made up. I do know that the pediatrician told her I would die if I became a vegetarian, because I heard him say it. > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and she took me > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I do hate to > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some sadism. For > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an adult because > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate novocaine. In > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a result, trips to > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous penny- pincher, > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using much or any > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a root canal > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised that my > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling appointments as a > kid. > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having us expose > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose tooth and my > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told her not to > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it out. > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator in our > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me to the > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from preschool. > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like 20 minutes. > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked diaper to my > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally came out, > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. when she > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that parents > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I would have to > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag me enough > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my back. When I > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to school. > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. But when I > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. I would > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid to the > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he have a > concussion? (I did.) > > giacomo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2001 Report Share Posted April 30, 2001 My God! Now that is abuse. You are not crazy in your confusion, she was neglecting you, and possibly revelling in the attention it garnered on her. Oh, poor nada, you and your sickly children. But not comforting a sick child? Making you get up and do housework? (I am swearing at the screen now, but I won't type what I'm saying!) See, there was no one there to see what a wonderful comforting mother she could be, so she didn't bother. I wonder if someone dropped by how quickly she'd get you some soup? Maybe I'm off base here, but this is such an outrage, I'm afraid I may not be making much sense. Don't feel bad about seeing things as negative when they are! Trust your gut. The body never lies. Hugs, Rosemary > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and she took me > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I do hate to > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some sadism. For > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an adult because > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate novocaine. In > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a result, trips to > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous penny- pincher, > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using much or any > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a root canal > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised that my > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling appointments as a > kid. > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having us expose > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose tooth and my > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told her not to > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it out. > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator in our > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me to the > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from preschool. > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like 20 minutes. > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked diaper to my > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally came out, > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. when she > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that parents > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I would have to > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag me enough > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my back. When I > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to school. > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. But when I > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. I would > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid to the > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he have a > concussion? (I did.) > > giacomo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2001 Report Share Posted April 30, 2001 My God! Now that is abuse. You are not crazy in your confusion, she was neglecting you, and possibly revelling in the attention it garnered on her. Oh, poor nada, you and your sickly children. But not comforting a sick child? Making you get up and do housework? (I am swearing at the screen now, but I won't type what I'm saying!) See, there was no one there to see what a wonderful comforting mother she could be, so she didn't bother. I wonder if someone dropped by how quickly she'd get you some soup? Maybe I'm off base here, but this is such an outrage, I'm afraid I may not be making much sense. Don't feel bad about seeing things as negative when they are! Trust your gut. The body never lies. Hugs, Rosemary > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and she took me > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I do hate to > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some sadism. For > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an adult because > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate novocaine. In > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a result, trips to > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous penny- pincher, > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using much or any > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a root canal > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised that my > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling appointments as a > kid. > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having us expose > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose tooth and my > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told her not to > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it out. > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator in our > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me to the > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from preschool. > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like 20 minutes. > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked diaper to my > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally came out, > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. when she > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that parents > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I would have to > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag me enough > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my back. When I > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to school. > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. But when I > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. I would > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid to the > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he have a > concussion? (I did.) > > giacomo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2001 Report Share Posted April 30, 2001 My God! Now that is abuse. You are not crazy in your confusion, she was neglecting you, and possibly revelling in the attention it garnered on her. Oh, poor nada, you and your sickly children. But not comforting a sick child? Making you get up and do housework? (I am swearing at the screen now, but I won't type what I'm saying!) See, there was no one there to see what a wonderful comforting mother she could be, so she didn't bother. I wonder if someone dropped by how quickly she'd get you some soup? Maybe I'm off base here, but this is such an outrage, I'm afraid I may not be making much sense. Don't feel bad about seeing things as negative when they are! Trust your gut. The body never lies. Hugs, Rosemary > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and she took me > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I do hate to > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some sadism. For > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an adult because > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate novocaine. In > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a result, trips to > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous penny- pincher, > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using much or any > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a root canal > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised that my > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling appointments as a > kid. > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having us expose > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose tooth and my > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told her not to > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it out. > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator in our > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me to the > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from preschool. > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like 20 minutes. > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked diaper to my > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally came out, > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. when she > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that parents > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I would have to > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag me enough > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my back. When I > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to school. > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. But when I > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. I would > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid to the > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he have a > concussion? (I did.) > > giacomo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2001 Report Share Posted May 1, 2001 > My God! Now that is abuse. A few years ago, our church was rocked to its foundations by a scandal involving the choirmaster and his long-term sexual abuse of choirboys. Boys from age 6 to age 18 were victims, over a period of many years. The GOOD part of this is that we all learned so very much about abuse, in all its forms, and a great number of women discovered that they had been the victims of childhood abuse. Sexual, physical, and/or emotional. We had just never identified all those 'things' going on as abuse. What a revelation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2001 Report Share Posted May 1, 2001 > My God! Now that is abuse. A few years ago, our church was rocked to its foundations by a scandal involving the choirmaster and his long-term sexual abuse of choirboys. Boys from age 6 to age 18 were victims, over a period of many years. The GOOD part of this is that we all learned so very much about abuse, in all its forms, and a great number of women discovered that they had been the victims of childhood abuse. Sexual, physical, and/or emotional. We had just never identified all those 'things' going on as abuse. What a revelation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2001 Report Share Posted May 2, 2001 My Mom was always on good behavior in front of the neighbors. Or on the phone. She would brag about us. Even me. I think she was defending her own ego-image by bragging. And in private she was expressing her own lack of self-esteem by raging. Kind of narcissistic. Kind of addictive. It doesn't hurt if no one sees it. She behaved better if her mother was visiting. And she behaved better if my father was home than if he wasn't. Stress brings out the weak points in a person. She wasn't meant to have four kids; she sure didn't ask for them. She could have skipped me, for sure. We both would have been happier! Cyndy --- rpicado@... wrote: > My God! Now that is abuse. You are not crazy in your confusion, she > > was neglecting you, and possibly revelling in the attention it > garnered on her. Oh, poor nada, you and your sickly children. But > not > comforting a sick child? Making you get up and do housework? (I am > swearing at the screen now, but I won't type what I'm saying!) > > See, there was no one there to see what a wonderful comforting > mother > she could be, so she didn't bother. I wonder if someone dropped by > how quickly she'd get you some soup? Maybe I'm off base here, but > this is such an outrage, I'm afraid I may not be making much sense. > > Don't feel bad about seeing things as negative when they are! Trust > > your gut. The body never lies. > > Hugs, > Rosemary > > > > > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and > she > took me > > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I > do > hate to > > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some > sadism. For > > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an > adult > because > > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate > novocaine. In > > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a > result, > trips to > > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous > penny- > pincher, > > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using > much > or any > > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a > > root canal > > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised > > that my > > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling > appointments as a > > kid. > > > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having > us > expose > > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose > tooth > and my > > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told > her > not to > > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it > out. > > > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator > > in our > > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me > to > the > > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from > preschool. > > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like > 20 > minutes. > > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked > diaper to my > > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally > > came out, > > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. > when she > > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out > that > parents > > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I > would have to > > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag > me > enough > > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my > back. When I > > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to > school. > > > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. > But > when I > > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. > I > would > > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid > to > the > > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he > have a > > concussion? (I did.) > > > > giacomo > > ===== PEACE and HEALING /group/depression-cause-cure http://www.hypnosis-audio.com http://www.emofree.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2001 Report Share Posted May 2, 2001 My Mom was always on good behavior in front of the neighbors. Or on the phone. She would brag about us. Even me. I think she was defending her own ego-image by bragging. And in private she was expressing her own lack of self-esteem by raging. Kind of narcissistic. Kind of addictive. It doesn't hurt if no one sees it. She behaved better if her mother was visiting. And she behaved better if my father was home than if he wasn't. Stress brings out the weak points in a person. She wasn't meant to have four kids; she sure didn't ask for them. She could have skipped me, for sure. We both would have been happier! Cyndy --- rpicado@... wrote: > My God! Now that is abuse. You are not crazy in your confusion, she > > was neglecting you, and possibly revelling in the attention it > garnered on her. Oh, poor nada, you and your sickly children. But > not > comforting a sick child? Making you get up and do housework? (I am > swearing at the screen now, but I won't type what I'm saying!) > > See, there was no one there to see what a wonderful comforting > mother > she could be, so she didn't bother. I wonder if someone dropped by > how quickly she'd get you some soup? Maybe I'm off base here, but > this is such an outrage, I'm afraid I may not be making much sense. > > Don't feel bad about seeing things as negative when they are! Trust > > your gut. The body never lies. > > Hugs, > Rosemary > > > > > My nada was also very good about getting us to the dentist and > she > took me > > to an allergist once a week for shots. But thinking back (and I > do > hate to > > see EVERYTHING as negative) I wonder if there wasn't also some > sadism. For > > example, until recently I have rarely gone to a dentist as an > adult > because > > the dentist that we went to as a child did not use adequate > novocaine. In > > fact sometime he would drill without using it at all. As a > result, > trips to > > the dentist were excruciating. My mother was/is an infamous > penny- > pincher, > > so I even wonder if she told the dentist to refrain from using > much > or any > > anesthesia because she was trying to save money. I recently has a > > root canal > > (due in large part to my aversion too dentists) and was surprised > > that my > > dentist kept me in greater comfort than most of my filling > appointments as a > > kid. > > > > She was also famous for cornering doctors at parties and having > us > expose > > some ailment or another and asking his opinion. > > > > Anyway, about the sadism, I remember that once I had a loose > tooth > and my > > mother asked to see it. I actually saw what was coming and told > her > not to > > pull it out. Of course she immediately reached in and ripped it > out. > > > > And, final story, when I was 16 I smacked my head on the radiator > > in our > > house--really opened up the back of my head. My mother drove me > to > the > > emergency room, but on the way we had to pick up my brother from > preschool. > > Fair enough. But she went into the day care for what seemed like > 20 > minutes. > > I was in the passenger's seat of the car holding a blood-soaked > diaper to my > > head waiting for her to take me to the hospital. When she finally > > came out, > > I watched her at the entrance joking and chatting with someone. > when she > > finally got me to the hospital they put in 24 stitches. > > > > OK--one more. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out > that > parents > > bring their sick kids food in bed. Whenever I was home sick, I > would have to > > get up and make my own food. And eventually my mother would nag > me > enough > > that I would get up and start doing housework to get her off my > back. When I > > was home with mono, it was actually a relief to go back to > school. > > > > These are things that I have been ashamed of as petty grudges. > But > when I > > think about how I am as a parent, I do see a sadism behind them. > I > would > > have called the daycare and made arrangements and gotten my kid > to > the > > hospital to make sure that he was taken care of quickly--did he > have a > > concussion? (I did.) > > > > giacomo > > ===== PEACE and HEALING /group/depression-cause-cure http://www.hypnosis-audio.com http://www.emofree.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2009 Report Share Posted April 24, 2009 Wonder if something like this would work? From: DownSyndromeInfoExchange [mailto:DownSyndromeInfoExchange ] On Behalf Of Izzo Sent: Friday, April 24, 2009 9:45 PM To: DownSyndromeInfoExchange Subject: [DownSyndromeInfoExchange] Dentist Ideas for the office: Ipod with headphones or portable dvd player with headphones, sunglasses to lessen the bright lights. We have changed to an office that is much more calm and relaxed and quiet and laid back (does not accept medicaid) rather than the other pediatric office which was an open bay and even in the quiet room was a lot of hustle and bustle. Ideas for brushing teeth at home: We sing his favorite songs (Happy birthday, veggietales or spongebob theme songs) while we are brushing. It is more fun and he knows when brushing is done when the song is done. Maybe a timer might also work so that he can see when brushing will be over. We stand behind him while he faces the mirror and brush his teeth for him and let him hold on to " help. " We use the long plastic Reach flosser with the disposable heads and that seems to be the easiest way to do it. Other than that, maybe some nitrous oxide would help out, or Versed in the chair. We have used my restraining him by hugging, but at a certain point he was getting too big for me to hold him and I was tired of being the bad guy. I refused the papoose and changed dentists. C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2009 Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 What a wonderful program! That dentist is great!etteSubject: RE: [DownSyndromeInfoExchange] DentistTo: DownSyndromeInfoExchange Date: Friday, April 24, 2009, 10:04 PM Wonder if something like this would work? http://www.youtube. com/watch? v=artQFqd6osQ From: DownSyndromeInfoExc hange@yahoogroup s.com [mailto:DownSyndrom eInfoExchange@ yahoogroups. com] On Behalf Of Izzo Sent: Friday, April 24, 2009 9:45 PM To: DownSyndromeInfoExc hange@yahoogroup s.com Subject: [DownSyndromeInfoEx change] Dentist Ideas for the office: Ipod with headphones or portable dvd player with headphones, sunglasses to lessen the bright lights. We have changed to an office that is much more calm and relaxed and quiet and laid back (does not accept medicaid) rather than the other pediatric office which was an open bay and even in the quiet room was a lot of hustle and bustle. Ideas for brushing teeth at home: We sing his favorite songs (Happy birthday, veggietales or spongebob theme songs) while we are brushing. It is more fun and he knows when brushing is done when the song is done. Maybe a timer might also work so that he can see when brushing will be over. We stand behind him while he faces the mirror and brush his teeth for him and let him hold on to "help." We use the long plastic Reach flosser with the disposable heads and that seems to be the easiest way to do it. Other than that, maybe some nitrous oxide would help out, or Versed in the chair. We have used my restraining him by hugging, but at a certain point he was getting too big for me to hold him and I was tired of being the bad guy. I refused the papoose and changed dentists. C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2009 Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Thanks everyone for the advice. I guess I should have prefaced it with: this is our 3rd pediatric special needs dentist. She does take time with my son (13yr)each time to see if he will go into the " quiet " room. They play games, sing, use sunglasses, have tv and by the chair some type of video game set-up. When finished, a token for a special gum machine toy.All previous dentists outright said he would be papoosed no matter what,even with some time of head gear, no trial period each time. As for brushing teeth, he will only touch the toothbrush but not brush teeth (regular or batt operated). We do play games with toothbrushes and art.Yes we do singing songs, even named areas of his mouth with rooms, (hallway, DW rm, Arthur's rm etc) so I can tell Arthur and DW stories.We are working with a special feeding consultant, who has been very helpful. She also travels the country like Talk Tools called Marsha Klein at Mealtime Connections. Thanks Kathy for the you tube video. I am going to make an appt to talk to the dentist and see if we can put the you tube video into action. Maybe at the very end of the business hrs when they are cleaning up a couple of days of week until next dentist visit in July. Janet H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2009 Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 That is a great idea to do it after hours, Janet..and I am going to talk to the people at our local autism resource center to see what they are doing here..this would be an excellent program to get started in our area as well (as far as I know, we don’t have anything like it) KathyR From: DownSyndromeInfoExchange [mailto:DownSyndromeInfoExchange ] On Behalf Of jmhill46619 Sent: Saturday, April 25, 2009 11:47 AM To: DownSyndromeInfoExchange Subject: [DownSyndromeInfoExchange] Re: Dentist Thanks everyone for the advice. I guess I should have prefaced it with: this is our 3rd pediatric special needs dentist. She does take time with my son (13yr)each time to see if he will go into the " quiet " room. They play games, sing, use sunglasses, have tv and by the chair some type of video game set-up. When finished, a token for a special gum machine toy.All previous dentists outright said he would be papoosed no matter what,even with some time of head gear, no trial period each time. As for brushing teeth, he will only touch the toothbrush but not brush teeth (regular or batt operated). We do play games with toothbrushes and art.Yes we do singing songs, even named areas of his mouth with rooms, (hallway, DW rm, Arthur's rm etc) so I can tell Arthur and DW stories.We are working with a special feeding consultant, who has been very helpful. She also travels the country like Talk Tools called Marsha Klein at Mealtime Connections. Thanks Kathy for the you tube video. I am going to make an appt to talk to the dentist and see if we can put the you tube video into action. Maybe at the very end of the business hrs when they are cleaning up a couple of days of week until next dentist visit in July. Janet H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2009 Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Janet- I wish I could cure my son of his oral defensiveness too! Thanks for letting me know that there are others out there with oral defensive kids. Nate has had the Dentist check his teeth twice. I was able to restrain him. He was able to get in and check but forget trying to clean them. For now I can hogtie him to brush his teeth because he is still small (14kg). Thanks for sharing your experience. Keep me posted on how the feeding team appointment go for your son. Nate is going to start back up with the local feeding Clinic at the end of May. Sherry > > Thanks everyone for the advice. > > I guess I should have prefaced it with: this is our 3rd pediatric special needs dentist. She does take time with my son (13yr)each time to see if he will go into the " quiet " room. They play games, sing, use sunglasses, have tv and by the chair some type of video game set-up. When finished, a token for a special gum machine toy.All previous dentists outright said he would be papoosed no matter what,even with some time of head gear, no trial period each time. > > As for brushing teeth, he will only touch the toothbrush but not brush teeth (regular or batt operated). We do play games with toothbrushes and art.Yes we do singing songs, even named areas of his mouth with rooms, (hallway, DW rm, Arthur's rm etc) so I can tell Arthur and DW stories.We are working with a special feeding consultant, who has been very helpful. She also travels the country like Talk Tools called Marsha Klein at Mealtime Connections. > > Thanks Kathy for the you tube video. I am going to make an appt to talk to the dentist and see if we can put the you tube video into action. Maybe at the very end of the business hrs when they are cleaning up a couple of days of week until next dentist visit in July. > > Janet H > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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