Worst Mother in the World

[Guest guest]

I am sure you have all felt this way - well at least the women in the group.

I am having a severe problem with my son following the rules - he is 10 almost

11 and like I have said in other posts I don't know if it is normal, horomones

or Autism.

He knows he is not suppose to eat while he is on the computer, but today and

many many many other days he disobeys this rule, I usually correct and remind

him that he is not to eat while he is on the computer, but today I couldn't help

it, I caught him doing it again, so I said no more receipes from the computer

for 2 days - he is a collector of receipes (drives me nuts), then I sat down

directly across from him as he finished his breakfast and he completely loses

it. He starts screamiing and yelling and me and then he says he is sorry and I

said I accept your apology then the smart alec had to ask if he could use the

computer at all. I gave it some thought and said no you may not use it for 2

days - well that just did him in. A meltdown the size of Mt Rushmore followed

with him stomping off.

His dad called him into our bedroom to ask what was going on and he told him and

I think for once my Dh agreed with me, cause Danny started melting down again

and went of screaming into his bedroom.

I don't know what to do, okay so the issue is petty, he is not in danger but its

the princple that I want to get across you don't disobey the rules - my husband

and therapist have told me to pick my battles - but my battle is the

disobediene. So how do I pick those battles.

I don't know what is going on with my son, but it is certainly driving a wedge

into our relationship. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

Sharon, don't give in and keep strong. I am both a mom and behavior analyst and you are doing the correct thing. AND if you "give in" now, you've taught your soon that the more he pushes it or melts down, he will get what he wants. I know it's so hard, but hang in there. We get it here on this list.