Re: Off Topic - But need some emotional support

May 12, 2009

I have to say this. I LOVE the fact that Sharon just posted a need and so many people right away jumped right in to support her and help her. Wow, what an AMAZING group we have here huh?

Stacie

((((((((Sharon))))))))Go see the Dr. You have to try and stay healthy for your young one.>> When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.> > Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months. > > I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.> > Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.> > Sharon>

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May 12, 2009

Sharon,

I'm saying a prayer for you as I type this. I'm sorry to hear that. I know it's scary. I think sometime the health profession forgets the bedside manner and is blunt. I understand about gaining the weight. When I was in my 30's I was on the depaprovera (spelling?) shot for birth control and gained a lot of weight. Sometimes men, not all men, but they forget sometimes how sensitive the subject is.

I am a nurse aid and I've seen other nurses that are so cold and untactful. Could the doctor have put it another way, yeah...probably. But I guess he wants to show how serious it is.

My husband & I looked into the lap band and gastric bypass and the pros and cons of each. The lap band surgery is safer was our conclusion which could be adjusted if there was too much reflux coming. however the gastric bypass was cutting the stomach instead cinching it.

Hang in there....my prayers are with you...

Off Topic - But need some emotional support

When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.

Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months.

I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.

Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.

Sharon

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May 12, 2009

I would do it in a heart beat. A friend of the family had it done four years ago, and she is literally a new woman. Prior to the surgery, she had NO energy. She could barely walk from the car to the house, without getting out of breath. She was going to die an early death, if she didn't take corrective action. Today, she is happier and healthier than she's ever been. She can now play tennis, etc. Her husband is VERY happy with the results. Lastly, she will be around to see her daughter get married next month. I don't know if she would have made it otherwise. The doctor wasn't insulting her about her condition, by suggesting the procedure. He wanted to save her life, which is the ultimate responsibility of a doctor.

Sara

Off Topic - But need some emotional support

When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months. I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.Sharon

May 12, 2009

You are no bother sharon...you are a doll.

Prayers for you as you think about the things your doctor said...

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To: AutismBehaviorProblems Sent: Monday, May 11, 2009 7:18:26 PMSubject: Off Topic - But need some emotional support

When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months. I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust

this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync.. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.Sharon

May 12, 2009

((((((((Sharon))))))))

Go see the Dr. You have to try and stay healthy for your young one.

>

> When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep

depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed

that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain,

weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.

>

> Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip

from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to

check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months.

>

> I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could

do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my

knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or

the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I

gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that

someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust this man, he wants me to

see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago

which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I

can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you

guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.

>

> Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.

>

> Sharon

>

May 12, 2009

Hi Sharon!While I would certainly advise you to consult your doctor, you may also want to check out a program like Curves. Â I joined myself a few years ago after gaining quite a bit of weight, and at the encouragement of my doctor. Â I never dreamed it would help me as much as it did - though I still have a ways to go, I've lost over 45 lbs. and have managed to keep it off.While I don't mean to sound like a billboard, I've read the testimonials of many ladies in situations similar to yours. Â It is a very positive, encouraging environment of ladies who in my experience offer A LOT of emotional support - and not just in weight-loss issues.The program also works with you to reset your metabolism, which you had mentioned. Â There have been many women who have been given the "early death warning" by their doctors who started the Curves program and can attest to its effectiveness.Anyway, just a thought. Â You can check it out at www.curves.com if interested.HTH,Heidi Off Topic - But need some emotional support

When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.

Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months.

I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.

Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.

Sharon

May 12, 2009

Yes Stacie this is a wonderful group, I got more responses out of this group than my husband has said all night.

thank you all for your suggestions and insight. I am going to call the doctor and see if he can recommend someone closer to me driving to Chicago is NOT my idea of an adventure.

Sharon

Subject: Re: Re: Off Topic - But need some emotional supportTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Monday, May 11, 2009, 11:29 PM

I have to say this. I LOVE the fact that Sharon just posted a need and so many people right away jumped right in to support her and help her. Wow, what an AMAZING group we have here huh?

Stacie

In a message dated 5/11/2009 3:58:09 P.M. Hawaiian Standard Time, karenrichard2000@ yahoo.com writes:

((((((((Sharon) )))))))Go see the Dr. You have to try and stay healthy for your young one.>> When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.> > Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months. > > I got the shock of my life when he said that

there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I trust this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.> > Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.> > Sharon>

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May 12, 2009

Hi Heidi

thanks for the advice, Unfortunately because of my hip and knee I am unable to work out, tried curves for a month and thought I was going to die from the pain in my knee

Sharon

Subject: Re: Off Topic - But need some emotional supportTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Monday, May 11, 2009, 10:13 PM

Hi Sharon!

While I would certainly advise you to consult your doctor, you may also want to check out a program like Curves. I joined myself a few years ago after gaining quite a bit of weight, and at the encouragement of my doctor. I never dreamed it would help me as much as it did - though I still have a ways to go, I've lost over 45 lbs. and have managed to keep it off.

While I don't mean to sound like a billboard, I've read the testimonials of many ladies in situations similar to yours. It is a very positive, encouraging environment of ladies who in my experience offer A LOT of emotional support - and not just in weight-loss issues.

The program also works with you to reset your metabolism, which you had mentioned. There have been many women who have been given the "early death warning" by their doctors who started the Curves program and can attest to its effectiveness.

Anyway, just a thought. You can check it out at www.curves.com if interested.

HTH,

Heidi Off Topic - But need some emotional support

When my mom died two years ago very unexpectedly I went into a deep depression. I was put on a lot of medicine to help me get better - it seemed that every medicine they put me on had the same warnings - rapid weight gain, weight gain to be expected, yadda yadda yadda.Well today I went to see my orthopod that I trust very much he replaced my hip from a birth defect 5 years ago so today was kinda a recheck and he was going to check my right knee which has been hurting severely for the past few months. I got the shock of my life when he said that there was really nothing he could do for me except send me to a doctor for obesity. He says nothing will fix my knee better than losing weight. He wants me to think about gastric bypass or the lap band. I am in shock, I am hurt and my husband doesn't get it. I know I gained 100 lbs in the last two years I am having trouble, but I am so sad that someone thinks I need that type of surgery. I

trust this man, he wants me to see this doctor to get my metabolism back in sync. Problem is he is in Chicago which is 50 miles away and I am afraid to go. I don't want to die, I'm afraid I can't get ahold of either of my sisters to talk to them so I am turning to you guys so that I have someone to talk to about this.Sorry I bothered the group with this I'm just scared and alone.Sharon

May 13, 2009

Hi Sharon,

I have no cartilidge in both knees and the Dr said the best thing is to lose

weight. Ive been trying.....for years. UGH.

When I was sick these past 2 weeks I lost about 10 pounds (I DONT recommend

losign weight that way!!!!!!) and my knees dont hurt as much, its true. of

course, it could also be because I havent been WALKING. Anyway, Im pretty sure I

have a point, lol

Oh yeah......Im another one of us that cant seem to do for herself. I will do

anything in the world for my children, but when it comes to me, forget it. I

will suffer.

Maybe the dr recommended losing weight that way because its a bit quicker and

you wont have to suffer as much. I have about 50 pounds to lose and it IS slow

going.

In our town we have a " sister site " to the Freecycyle site when people go in

and ask recommendations for local things. Ive asked for good doctors lots of

times. Maybe you can look and see if your Freecycle has a similar site??? Ive

gotten lots of good , local advice and recommendations.

Love

Frazz