Hi - New to the group!

[Guest guest]

Hi, my name is Missy and I am a 37 year old Mom of two beautiful children. My

oldest is a 17 year old daughter, Kelsey, who has Asperger's (Official diagnosis

when she was 14 was " Autistic Tendencies " ) my youngest is my son who will

be 5 the end of this month. He has Autism. He falls somewhere in the 'middle'

when it comes to the spectrum. He just started to talk about a year and a half

ago. He is up to multiple word sentences and most recently (within the last

month) he is also interacting in conversations, answering questions, asking

questions, and there is a real give and take in his communication. It is funny

because only parents who have had a child affected by the speech aspect of

Autism would really appreciate being " talked back to " by your child! 's new

" thing " is when he is asked to do something, like time to come in the house or

let's go to the car... he'll respond with, " Don't say ' come here' " or " You

no say come here! " I try very hard to not giggle. We have really started

to change our pattern of speech - like being more " considerate " when asking him

to come inside so he'll learn the " please " and " thank you " . We have always

displayed consideration and always thanked him when he listened of followed

through - telling him " good listening " and such. But since he has found his

voice - there seems to be some " attitude " attached! LOL

Kelsey, my Aspie, is highly intelligent in college full-time as a junior in High

School. She is actually doing much better in college socially than in High

School. She still has difficult times understanding some social ques. She

becomes overwhelmed and stressed out/anxiety but she has learned calming

techniques and I have learned how to talk to her to calm her and make her see

the big picture of the situation. Being a teenager and Aspie is very difficult

on an emotional level. She is musically inclined so will decompress by playing

or listening to music. When Kelsey was little, Asperger's and Autism was not

something that was in the forefront but there was always something quirky and

different about her. The melt downs, the patterns, obsessive compulsive

behaviors at 3 and 4 years old, her ability to remember the most minute detail

(heaven forbid if you didn't remember!). After was diagnosis, we took her

to be evaluated - a lot of his symptoms and behaviors he was displaying she also

had as a child.

So that is us in a nutshell. I am married to my best friend, , for nearly

19 years. He and I work together as a great team but we still get very

overwhelmed. Our children are completely opposite. Kelsey was quiet and

clean/organized. is messy and loud - he is a tornado on two legs!

Next post will be my " wanted " list... help with behaviors and issues with

but I don't want to wear out my welcome

Blessings,

Missy

[Guest guest]

Missy welcome! How darling your sounds....My (ASD) is 30 months...he is funny too. Your daughter is bright and it sounds like the two of you have an awesome relationship....I did better in college socially too...I'm an introvert by nature; so all the high-school junk didn't appeal to me...long story there. LOL...but I enjoyed College.

You will never wear out your welcome...never. So glad you are here...there are so many helpful mom's on hear...I love to sit back and listen (read), I have even created an Autism Behavior Group folder so I can save all the wonderful tidbits of stuff I learn....some neat ladies here...it's a supportive site...and I know you'll feel good here. No infighting, isn't that wonderful???!!!!!! LOL

Blessings to you and yours,

e

wife to (19 yrs this summer Mom to Lily 6, and 2 1/2

To: AutismBehaviorProblems Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2009 10:25:36 PMSubject: Hi - New to the group!

Hi, my name is Missy and I am a 37 year old Mom of two beautiful children. My oldest is a 17 year old daughter, Kelsey, who has Asperger's (Official diagnosis when she was 14 was "Autistic Tendencies") my youngest is my son who will be 5 the end of this month. He has Autism. He falls somewhere in the 'middle' when it comes to the spectrum. He just started to talk about a year and a half ago. He is up to multiple word sentences and most recently (within the last month) he is also interacting in conversations, answering questions, asking questions, and there is a real give and take in his communication. It is funny because only parents who have had a child affected by the speech aspect of Autism would really appreciate being "talked back to" by your child! 's new "thing" is when he is asked to do something, like time to come in the house or let's go to the car... he'll respond with, "Don't say ' come here'" or "You no say come

here!" I try very hard to not giggle. We have really started to change our pattern of speech - like being more "considerate" when asking him to come inside so he'll learn the "please" and "thank you". We have always displayed consideration and always thanked him when he listened of followed through - telling him "good listening" and such. But since he has found his voice - there seems to be some "attitude" attached! LOLKelsey, my Aspie, is highly intelligent in college full-time as a junior in High School. She is actually doing much better in college socially than in High School. She still has difficult times understanding some social ques. She becomes overwhelmed and stressed out/anxiety but she has learned calming techniques and I have learned how to talk to her to calm her and make her see the big picture of the situation. Being a teenager and Aspie is very difficult on an emotional level. She is musically inclined so will decompress by

playing or listening to music. When Kelsey was little, Asperger's and Autism was not something that was in the forefront but there was always something quirky and different about her. The melt downs, the patterns, obsessive compulsive behaviors at 3 and 4 years old, her ability to remember the most minute detail (heaven forbid if you didn't remember!). After was diagnosis, we took her to be evaluated - a lot of his symptoms and behaviors he was displaying she also had as a child. So that is us in a nutshell. I am married to my best friend, , for nearly 19 years. He and I work together as a great team but we still get very overwhelmed. Our children are completely opposite. Kelsey was quiet and clean/organized. is messy and loud - he is a tornado on two legs!Next post will be my "wanted" list... help with behaviors and issues with but I don't want to wear out my welcome

Blessings,Missy

[Guest guest]

Welcome Missy,

I am mom to JJ (jacob) age 21 with autism and I also have a son "" age 36 and 2 grandsons. Lois

Hi - New to the group!

[Guest guest]

Welcome, you have stumbled upon a wonderful group! Everyone always has great

suggestions, because no matter what the problem, chances are that some (or many)

of the people here have been through it at some point.

I have two boys on the spectrum, one very mild- in regular ed age 6, and my

younger one who is mod/mild/??? that will be 5 in August. Your son's story

sounds similar to my youngest. He started speaking about a year and a half ago,

now he is using multiple-word sentences, and just like your son, he definitely

has what sounds like an 'attitude' and my husband and I have the HARDEST time

not laughing at the super-cute (but probably rude-sounding to other people)

things that come out of his mouth. He really is a joy, tons of personality and

very funny.

I'm glad you found this group and I know you'll find good empathizers and

advice here!

W

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> Missy welcome!  How darling your sounds...My (ASD) is 30

months...he is funny too.  Your daughter is bright and it sounds like the two of

you have an awesome relationship....I did better in college socially too....I'm

an introvert by nature; so all the high-school junk didn't appeal to me...long

story there. LOL...but I enjoyed College.

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> You will never wear out your welcome...never.  So glad you are here...there

are so many helpful mom's on hear...I love to sit back and listen (read), I have

even created an Autism Behavior Group folder so I can save all the wonderful

tidbits of stuff I learn....some neat ladies here...it's a supportive site...and

I know you'll feel good here.  No infighting, isn't that wonderful???!!!!!!  LOL

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> Blessings to you and yours, 

> e

> wife to (19 yrs this summer   Mom to Lily 6, and 2 1/2

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> To: AutismBehaviorProblems

> Sent: Sunday, May 10, 2009 10:25:36 PM

> Subject: Hi - New to the group!

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> Hi, my name is Missy and I am a 37 year old Mom of two beautiful children. My

oldest is a 17 year old daughter, Kelsey, who has Asperger's (Official diagnosis

when she was 14 was " Autistic Tendencies " ) my youngest is my son who will

be 5 the end of this month. He has Autism. He falls somewhere in the 'middle'

when it comes to the spectrum. He just started to talk about a year and a half

ago. He is up to multiple word sentences and most recently (within the last

month) he is also interacting in conversations, answering questions, asking

questions, and there is a real give and take in his communication. It is funny

because only parents who have had a child affected by the speech aspect of

Autism would really appreciate being " talked back to " by your child! 's new

" thing " is when he is asked to do something, like time to come in the house or

let's go to the car... he'll respond with, " Don't say ' come here' " or " You

no say come here! "

> I try very hard to not giggle. We have really started to change our pattern

of speech - like being more " considerate " when asking him to come inside so

he'll learn the " please " and " thank you " . We have always displayed consideration

and always thanked him when he listened of followed through - telling him " good

listening " and such. But since he has found his voice - there seems to be some

" attitude " attached! LOL

>

> Kelsey, my Aspie, is highly intelligent in college full-time as a junior in

High School. She is actually doing much better in college socially than in High

School. She still has difficult times understanding some social ques. She

becomes overwhelmed and stressed out/anxiety but she has learned calming

techniques and I have learned how to talk to her to calm her and make her see

the big picture of the situation. Being a teenager and Aspie is very difficult

on an emotional level. She is musically inclined so will decompress by playing

or listening to music. When Kelsey was little, Asperger's and Autism was not

something that was in the forefront but there was always something quirky and

different about her. The melt downs, the patterns, obsessive compulsive

behaviors at 3 and 4 years old, her ability to remember the most minute detail

(heaven forbid if you didn't remember!). After was diagnosis, we took her

to be evaluated - a lot of his symptoms and

> behaviors he was displaying she also had as a child.

>

> So that is us in a nutshell. I am married to my best friend, , for

nearly 19 years. He and I work together as a great team but we still get very

overwhelmed. Our children are completely opposite. Kelsey was quiet and

clean/organized. is messy and loud - he is a tornado on two legs!

>

> Next post will be my " wanted " list... help with behaviors and issues with

but I don't want to wear out my welcome

>

> Blessings,

> Missy

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