Guest guest Posted September 6, 2001 Report Share Posted September 6, 2001 Lorri, Ugh!! I hope that is better soon and that this isn't a pattern this early in the school year. We go back to dance class and story time beginning next week so it should be interesting. No preschool this year though so that should help. Grace 8/97 (IgA deficiency, poor t-cell response, poor pneumococcal antibodies, EA's, recent adenoidectomy, resolving almost total hair loss, penicillin allergy) Caelan 8/99 ((IgA deficiency, poor t-cell response, poor pneumococcal antibodies,eosinophilic esophagitis, GERD, anaphylaxis milk , egg, peanut, Biaxin, allergy to tomato, peas, carrots, squash, penicillin, EA's,) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2001 Report Share Posted September 6, 2001 Lorri, Ugh!! I hope that is better soon and that this isn't a pattern this early in the school year. We go back to dance class and story time beginning next week so it should be interesting. No preschool this year though so that should help. Grace 8/97 (IgA deficiency, poor t-cell response, poor pneumococcal antibodies, EA's, recent adenoidectomy, resolving almost total hair loss, penicillin allergy) Caelan 8/99 ((IgA deficiency, poor t-cell response, poor pneumococcal antibodies,eosinophilic esophagitis, GERD, anaphylaxis milk , egg, peanut, Biaxin, allergy to tomato, peas, carrots, squash, penicillin, EA's,) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2003 Report Share Posted July 18, 2003 So sorry about your son. Why do schools (and daycares) not use the information we give them? It seems like my son's teachers each semester aren't even aware he HAS an IEP until a few weeks into the term when they'll call me about something, or I'll call them, & I end up pointing out that " in his IEP it says... " & then they say they didn't know that. From about age 4 to age 10 my son had to attend daycares at least before & after school while I worked. Some were part of national chains. At every enrollment I had to fill out forms and cards giving information, including " is there anything special we should know about your child? " & I would carefully write in things like no sudden transitions, no touching him from behind without warning, give a place he can go to cool off when he feels himself getting out of control. He got expelled from most daycares he attended, & I would find out that most of the staff knew nothing about the information I'd filled out. At school, by the time the teachers catch on to the fact that they need to be making accomodations for him, so much time has passed that it's too late, or almost so. Maybe this year, before school starts, I should personally see to it that every teacher he has gets a copy of the IEP. I may also get something together about AS to give to his teachers to educate them. It just all seems so unfair that the schools and teachers have this info available & don't use it, & then blame our child and us as parents when the child can't conform to their expectations.-- In autism-aspergers , " T.K. " <torrieka12@c...> wrote: > Well my son was suspended today from summer school. > Anyway, they are going to have a fit when they read his IEP (which they > havent even done yet) because they are breaking the law big time. He has a > one on one aide specified in it and they havent provided him with one. The > aide is to be available specifically for these situations and they dont have > one. Is that MY fault... hell no its not. Ive already filed some > complaints against them and I intended to file more. There is a class > action lawsuit by a group of parents of autistic spectrum children because > of the segragation and treatment of these children already. > > Oh well.. such is my life.. always fighting the district about something > stupid.. > > > Get your facts first, and then you can distort them as much as you please. > Mark Twain (1835 - 1910) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2003 Report Share Posted July 18, 2003 My son has been kicked out of 5 daycares now for the exact same reasons you listed. Thanks for your words.. We have an IEP meeting scheduled for the week before school to inform everyone about him and what NOT to do.. I hope it works.. Im so exhausted from constantly fighting for him. TK Get your facts first, and then you can distort them as much as you please. Mark Twain (1835 - 1910) -----Original Message-----From: candacethvedt Sent: Thursday, July 17, 2003 8:15 PMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: SchoolSo sorry about your son. Why do schools (and daycares) not use the information we give them? It seems like my son's teachers each semester aren't even aware he HAS an IEP until a few weeks into the term when they'll call me about something, or I'll call them, & I end up pointing out that "in his IEP it says..." & then they say they didn't know that. From about age 4 to age 10 my son had to attend daycares at least before & after school while I worked. Some were part of national chains. At every enrollment I had to fill out forms and cards giving information, including "is there anything special we should know about your child?" & I would carefully write in things like no sudden transitions, no touching him from behind without warning, give a place he can go to cool off when he feels himself getting out of control. He got expelled from most daycares he attended, & I would find out that most of the staff knew nothing about the information I'd filled out. At school, by the time the teachers catch on to the fact that they need to be making accomodations for him, so much time has passed that it's too late, or almost so. Maybe this year, before school starts, I should personally see to it that every teacher he has gets a copy of the IEP. I may also get something together about AS to give to his teachers to educate them. It just all seems so unfair that the schools and teachers have this info available & don't use it, & then blame our child and us as parents when the child can't conform to their expectations.-- In autism-aspergers , "T.K." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2003 Report Share Posted July 18, 2003 Oh TK, boy did your post bring back bad memories. That was our whole school year last year!!! I wish I had some answers for you. For us, it is placing in a private special ed school. It at least is getting him more of an education since he is not spending the majority of his day either in meltdown mode or withdrawing. But, I do worry about socialization since he does not have any typical kids to play with there. Oh well, we do the best we can...... Give your son lots of love and hugs if he will let you. I know when has days like that, he needs the reassurance that we still love him. I know he hates " losing it " as much as we hate to see him do it. He is almost always sorry afterward. Good luck, Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2003 Report Share Posted July 18, 2003 Debi, Thanks, I would love for him to go to a private special education school. However, there are none available here in this town. The school district has a "autistic" program but there is a class action lawsuit against one of the teachers for abusing a child. Plus there is a law suit against the district from a group of parents of autistic children for other reasons. The school he is in during the school year is one of the better schools in the district (which I had to fight for, they wanted to place him in a class for emotionally disturbed children. His private therapist helped keep him out of that one). His K teacher is trained and has worked with many many autistic children. Ive been told by parents (not the teachers) that she is awsome with them. So im crossing my fingers TK Get your facts first, and then you can distort them as much as you please. Mark Twain (1835 - 1910) -----Original Message-----From: debin_1999 Sent: Thursday, July 17, 2003 11:18 PMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: SchoolOh TK, boy did your post bring back bad memories. That was our whole school year last year!!! I wish I had some answers for you. For us, it is placing in a private special ed school. It at least is getting him more of an education since he is not spending the majority of his day either in meltdown mode or withdrawing. But, I do worry about socialization since he does not have any typical kids to play with there. Oh well, we do the best we can......Give your son lots of love and hugs if he will let you. I know when has days like that, he needs the reassurance that we still love him. I know he hates "losing it" as much as we hate to see him do it. He is almost always sorry afterward. Good luck,Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2003 Report Share Posted July 19, 2003 Good luck, TK!! I hope kindergarten will go well for him. Is it a regular ed kindergarten? Will he have an aide? Or is it a special day class? Debi > Debi, > > Thanks, I would love for him to go to a private special education school. > However, there are none available here in this town. The school district > has a " autistic " program but there is a class action lawsuit against one of > the teachers for abusing a child. Plus there is a law suit against the > district from a group of parents of autistic children for other reasons. > The school he is in during the school year is one of the better schools in > the district (which I had to fight for, they wanted to place him in a class > for emotionally disturbed children. His private therapist helped keep him > out of that one). His K teacher is trained and has worked with many many > autistic children. Ive been told by parents (not the teachers) that she is > awsome with them. So im crossing my fingers > > TK > > > > Get your facts first, and then you can distort them as much as you please. > Mark Twain (1835 - 1910) > Re: School > > > Oh TK, boy did your post bring back bad memories. That was our > whole school year last year!!! I wish I had some answers for you. > For us, it is placing in a private special ed school. It at > least is getting him more of an education since he is not spending > the majority of his day either in meltdown mode or withdrawing. > But, I do worry about socialization since he does not have any > typical kids to play with there. Oh well, we do the best we > can...... > > Give your son lots of love and hugs if he will let you. I know when > has days like that, he needs the reassurance that we still > love him. I know he hates " losing it " as much as we hate to see > him do it. He is almost always sorry afterward. > > Good luck, > Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2003 Report Share Posted July 19, 2003 Its maninstream class with an aide full time. Im hoping it goes well but who knows, lol. Get your facts first, and then you can distort them as much as you please. Mark Twain (1835 - 1910) -----Original Message-----From: debin_1999 Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 6:29 PMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: SchoolGood luck, TK!!I hope kindergarten will go well for him. Is it a regular ed kindergarten? Will he have an aide? Or is it a special day class? Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2004 Report Share Posted August 19, 2004 <no one talked to her all day> When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to my child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the communication must begin with someone! I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much better--PTL! Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! cristey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Hi Cristey, Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about Lexi!! We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on Monday so will let you know how he (and we) do. I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking and praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind right now. Blessings to you, too. Re: school <no one talked to her all day> When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to my child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the communication must begin with someone! I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much better--PTL! Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! cristey Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Thank you for the comments. After reading my post, I realized it sounded harsh and I hope no one was offended. No one commented. But I tire of hearing people (adults included) that no one was friendly, etc. I have found if we initiate a friendly conversation, we will almost never be the victim of rude behavior. But I'm one of those weirdos that hunts down new people at a homeschool mtg, etc. to introduce myself. Maybe it isn't easy for everyone to extend the hand of fellowship. How is doing? I'll be praying. God bless, cristey On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 11:26:45 -0400 " mrsflowermom " writes: > Hi Cristey, > Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about Lexi!! > We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on Monday > so will let you know how he (and we) do. > I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our > children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking and > praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind > right now. Blessings to you, too. > > Re: school > > > > <no one talked to her all day> > > When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to my > child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the > communication must begin with someone! > I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much > better--PTL! > Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! > cristey > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be > accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// > . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list > moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy > . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to > Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , > louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Thank you for the comments. After reading my post, I realized it sounded harsh and I hope no one was offended. No one commented. But I tire of hearing people (adults included) that no one was friendly, etc. I have found if we initiate a friendly conversation, we will almost never be the victim of rude behavior. But I'm one of those weirdos that hunts down new people at a homeschool mtg, etc. to introduce myself. Maybe it isn't easy for everyone to extend the hand of fellowship. How is doing? I'll be praying. God bless, cristey On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 11:26:45 -0400 " mrsflowermom " writes: > Hi Cristey, > Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about Lexi!! > We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on Monday > so will let you know how he (and we) do. > I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our > children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking and > praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind > right now. Blessings to you, too. > > Re: school > > > > <no one talked to her all day> > > When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to my > child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the > communication must begin with someone! > I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much > better--PTL! > Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! > cristey > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be > accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// > . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list > moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy > . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to > Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , > louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Cristey, Sorry, by saying that nobody talked to my daughter I did not mean to imply that she just stood around waiting for someone to talk to her. Meg is hardly shy. She will tell you what she is thinking without a second thought (needs to work on tact). My guess is that the kids were all scared of her! By day two, things were much better and she seems to be making friends. So far I don't think she is having trouble with OCD at school and she is liking it a lot. But... the first time someone in class comes down with the stomach flu... that is when I am anticipating problems! On the far other hand, my 16 yo son is the one with Social Anxiety Disorder (my husband is also really shy). And, yes, it is PAINFUL for him to be around new people he does not know. However, even though the anxiety has not gone away, he is learning to be very gracious in conversation. He seems to do much better, though, when someone else comes to talk with him first...still having a hard time initiating conversation on his own... but working on it. He does not ever say that others are unfriendly or that no one came to talk to him because he is fully aware that this is his own problem. And he hates it! I think, just as it is really difficult for people without OCD to understand what our OCD kids go through, it is also nearly impossible for someone who is not shy to understand someone who is. Shy people are not uncaring or rude, but the anxiety can be incredible for them at times. My son says, " but mom, how do you just KNOW what to say to someone. " So, we actually practice different things to say and teach him tricks like remembering something the other person said previously to use as a conversation starter later. But, it will never be easy for this kid. He will probably always struggle with it. No, I wasn't offended, but I also know that sometimes it is not just as simple as it seems. On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 13:56:05 -0500 Cristey Gibson writes: > > Thank you for the comments. After reading my post, I realized it > sounded > harsh and I hope no one was offended. No one commented. But I tire > of > hearing people (adults included) that no one was friendly, etc. I > have > found if we initiate a friendly conversation, we will almost never > be the > victim of rude behavior. But I'm one of those weirdos that hunts > down > new people at a homeschool mtg, etc. to introduce myself. Maybe it > isn't > easy for everyone to extend the hand of fellowship. > How is doing? I'll be praying. > God bless, > cristey > On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 11:26:45 -0400 " mrsflowermom " > writes: > > Hi Cristey, > > Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about > Lexi!! > > We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on Monday > > > so will let you know how he (and we) do. > > I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our > > children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking > and > > praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind > > right now. Blessings to you, too. > > > > Re: school > > > > > > > > <no one talked to her all day> > > > > When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to my > > child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the > > communication must begin with someone! > > I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much > > better--PTL! > > Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! > > cristey > > > > > > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be > > accessed at: > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// > > . > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, > Ph.D., > > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list > > moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > > Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy > > . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to > > > Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , > > louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Cristey, Sorry, by saying that nobody talked to my daughter I did not mean to imply that she just stood around waiting for someone to talk to her. Meg is hardly shy. She will tell you what she is thinking without a second thought (needs to work on tact). My guess is that the kids were all scared of her! By day two, things were much better and she seems to be making friends. So far I don't think she is having trouble with OCD at school and she is liking it a lot. But... the first time someone in class comes down with the stomach flu... that is when I am anticipating problems! On the far other hand, my 16 yo son is the one with Social Anxiety Disorder (my husband is also really shy). And, yes, it is PAINFUL for him to be around new people he does not know. However, even though the anxiety has not gone away, he is learning to be very gracious in conversation. He seems to do much better, though, when someone else comes to talk with him first...still having a hard time initiating conversation on his own... but working on it. He does not ever say that others are unfriendly or that no one came to talk to him because he is fully aware that this is his own problem. And he hates it! I think, just as it is really difficult for people without OCD to understand what our OCD kids go through, it is also nearly impossible for someone who is not shy to understand someone who is. Shy people are not uncaring or rude, but the anxiety can be incredible for them at times. My son says, " but mom, how do you just KNOW what to say to someone. " So, we actually practice different things to say and teach him tricks like remembering something the other person said previously to use as a conversation starter later. But, it will never be easy for this kid. He will probably always struggle with it. No, I wasn't offended, but I also know that sometimes it is not just as simple as it seems. On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 13:56:05 -0500 Cristey Gibson writes: > > Thank you for the comments. After reading my post, I realized it > sounded > harsh and I hope no one was offended. No one commented. But I tire > of > hearing people (adults included) that no one was friendly, etc. I > have > found if we initiate a friendly conversation, we will almost never > be the > victim of rude behavior. But I'm one of those weirdos that hunts > down > new people at a homeschool mtg, etc. to introduce myself. Maybe it > isn't > easy for everyone to extend the hand of fellowship. > How is doing? I'll be praying. > God bless, > cristey > On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 11:26:45 -0400 " mrsflowermom " > writes: > > Hi Cristey, > > Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about > Lexi!! > > We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on Monday > > > so will let you know how he (and we) do. > > I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our > > children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking > and > > praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind > > right now. Blessings to you, too. > > > > Re: school > > > > > > > > <no one talked to her all day> > > > > When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to my > > child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the > > communication must begin with someone! > > I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much > > better--PTL! > > Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! > > cristey > > > > > > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be > > accessed at: > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// > > . > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, > Ph.D., > > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list > > moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > > Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy > > . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to > > > Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , > > louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 , I'm sorry too. I didn't mean to imply that your daughter was in the wrong. ly, I've been in the 'meet your fears head on' with my kids and it oozing out all over the place; youi guys caught the brunt of it. After my daughter was diagnosed with OCD in May and after extensive reading, I realized that I've done a poor job in encouraging (challenging) my children to face their fears. So that has become my 'obsession'. Sorry to be so harsh. cristey On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 16:21:44 -0600 Villareal writes: > Cristey, > Sorry, by saying that nobody talked to my daughter I did not mean > to > imply that she just stood around waiting for someone to talk to her. > Meg > is hardly shy. She will tell you what she is thinking without a > second > thought (needs to work on tact). My guess is that the kids were all > scared of her! By day two, things were much better and she seems to > be > making friends. So far I don't think she is having trouble with OCD > at > school and she is liking it a lot. But... the first time someone > in > class comes down with the stomach flu... that is when I am > anticipating > problems! > > On the far other hand, my 16 yo son is the one with Social Anxiety > Disorder (my husband is also really shy). And, yes, it is PAINFUL > for him > to be around new people he does not know. However, even though the > anxiety has not gone away, he is learning to be very gracious in > conversation. He seems to do much better, though, when someone else > comes > to talk with him first...still having a hard time initiating > conversation > on his own... but working on it. He does not ever say that others > are > unfriendly or that no one came to talk to him because he is fully > aware > that this is his own problem. And he hates it! I think, just as it > is > really difficult for people without OCD to understand what our OCD > kids > go through, it is also nearly impossible for someone who is not shy > to > understand someone who is. Shy people are not uncaring or rude, but > the > anxiety can be incredible for them at times. My son says, " but mom, > how > do you just KNOW what to say to someone. " So, we actually practice > different things to say and teach him tricks like remembering > something > the other person said previously to use as a conversation starter > later. > But, it will never be easy for this kid. He will probably always > struggle > with it. No, I wasn't offended, but I also know that sometimes it is > not > just as simple as it seems. > > > > > > On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 13:56:05 -0500 Cristey Gibson > writes: > > > > Thank you for the comments. After reading my post, I realized it > > > sounded > > harsh and I hope no one was offended. No one commented. But I > tire > > of > > hearing people (adults included) that no one was friendly, etc. I > > > have > > found if we initiate a friendly conversation, we will almost never > > > be the > > victim of rude behavior. But I'm one of those weirdos that hunts > > > down > > new people at a homeschool mtg, etc. to introduce myself. Maybe > it > > isn't > > easy for everyone to extend the hand of fellowship. > > How is doing? I'll be praying. > > God bless, > > cristey > > On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 11:26:45 -0400 " mrsflowermom " > > writes: > > > Hi Cristey, > > > Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about > > Lexi!! > > > We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on > Monday > > > > > so will let you know how he (and we) do. > > > I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our > > > children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking > > > and > > > praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind > > > > right now. Blessings to you, too. > > > > > > Re: school > > > > > > > > > > > > <no one talked to her all day> > > > > > > When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to > my > > > child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the > > > communication must begin with someone! > > > I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much > > > better--PTL! > > > Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! > > > cristey > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be > > > accessed at: > > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// > > > . > > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, > > Ph.D., > > > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list > > > moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > > > > Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy > > > . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed > to > > > > > Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , > > > louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 , I'm sorry too. I didn't mean to imply that your daughter was in the wrong. ly, I've been in the 'meet your fears head on' with my kids and it oozing out all over the place; youi guys caught the brunt of it. After my daughter was diagnosed with OCD in May and after extensive reading, I realized that I've done a poor job in encouraging (challenging) my children to face their fears. So that has become my 'obsession'. Sorry to be so harsh. cristey On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 16:21:44 -0600 Villareal writes: > Cristey, > Sorry, by saying that nobody talked to my daughter I did not mean > to > imply that she just stood around waiting for someone to talk to her. > Meg > is hardly shy. She will tell you what she is thinking without a > second > thought (needs to work on tact). My guess is that the kids were all > scared of her! By day two, things were much better and she seems to > be > making friends. So far I don't think she is having trouble with OCD > at > school and she is liking it a lot. But... the first time someone > in > class comes down with the stomach flu... that is when I am > anticipating > problems! > > On the far other hand, my 16 yo son is the one with Social Anxiety > Disorder (my husband is also really shy). And, yes, it is PAINFUL > for him > to be around new people he does not know. However, even though the > anxiety has not gone away, he is learning to be very gracious in > conversation. He seems to do much better, though, when someone else > comes > to talk with him first...still having a hard time initiating > conversation > on his own... but working on it. He does not ever say that others > are > unfriendly or that no one came to talk to him because he is fully > aware > that this is his own problem. And he hates it! I think, just as it > is > really difficult for people without OCD to understand what our OCD > kids > go through, it is also nearly impossible for someone who is not shy > to > understand someone who is. Shy people are not uncaring or rude, but > the > anxiety can be incredible for them at times. My son says, " but mom, > how > do you just KNOW what to say to someone. " So, we actually practice > different things to say and teach him tricks like remembering > something > the other person said previously to use as a conversation starter > later. > But, it will never be easy for this kid. He will probably always > struggle > with it. No, I wasn't offended, but I also know that sometimes it is > not > just as simple as it seems. > > > > > > On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 13:56:05 -0500 Cristey Gibson > writes: > > > > Thank you for the comments. After reading my post, I realized it > > > sounded > > harsh and I hope no one was offended. No one commented. But I > tire > > of > > hearing people (adults included) that no one was friendly, etc. I > > > have > > found if we initiate a friendly conversation, we will almost never > > > be the > > victim of rude behavior. But I'm one of those weirdos that hunts > > > down > > new people at a homeschool mtg, etc. to introduce myself. Maybe > it > > isn't > > easy for everyone to extend the hand of fellowship. > > How is doing? I'll be praying. > > God bless, > > cristey > > On Sat, 21 Aug 2004 11:26:45 -0400 " mrsflowermom " > > writes: > > > Hi Cristey, > > > Glad to " see " you back. I've missed you! Glad to hear about > > Lexi!! > > > We are going to Fort Lauderdale for 's evaluation on > Monday > > > > > so will let you know how he (and we) do. > > > I agree totally with you about OCD or no, we have to keep our > > > children accountable. This is an issue that I've been thinking > > > and > > > praying a lot about and seems to be in the forefront of my mind > > > > right now. Blessings to you, too. > > > > > > Re: school > > > > > > > > > > > > <no one talked to her all day> > > > > > > When my child uses this line, I return the responsibility to > my > > > child asking, " and to whom did you speak? " OCD or no, the > > > communication must begin with someone! > > > I've been out lately, but am back. Lexi is doing much > > > better--PTL! > > > Y'all are all in my prayers...what a ride this is! > > > cristey > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be > > > accessed at: > > http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// > > > . > > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, > > Ph.D., > > > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list > > > moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > > > > Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy > > > . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed > to > > > > > Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , > > > louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 While it might have been wrong for you to say you hated the class while you were IN class, it was definitely wrong for the teacher to say what she said. If I were you, I would make sure your mom and dad hear YOUR side of the story. The teacher ought to be disciplined. Your mother and father ought to go to the department head and inform him or her of what happened. Tom > Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been bussy with school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english that I hate the class with a deap hatered. The teacher told me infront of the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare office " . She said that at my. My mom and dad are going to go down to the school tomarow. She doesnt care about my disabliitys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 While it might have been wrong for you to say you hated the class while you were IN class, it was definitely wrong for the teacher to say what she said. If I were you, I would make sure your mom and dad hear YOUR side of the story. The teacher ought to be disciplined. Your mother and father ought to go to the department head and inform him or her of what happened. Tom > Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been bussy with school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english that I hate the class with a deap hatered. The teacher told me infront of the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare office " . She said that at my. My mom and dad are going to go down to the school tomarow. She doesnt care about my disabliitys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 While it might have been wrong for you to say you hated the class while you were IN class, it was definitely wrong for the teacher to say what she said. If I were you, I would make sure your mom and dad hear YOUR side of the story. The teacher ought to be disciplined. Your mother and father ought to go to the department head and inform him or her of what happened. Tom > Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been bussy with school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english that I hate the class with a deap hatered. The teacher told me infront of the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare office " . She said that at my. My mom and dad are going to go down to the school tomarow. She doesnt care about my disabliitys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Hello , It sounds like the school doesn't care about the fact that you're disabled let alone the fact that you need help with these classes. It sounds like they just want to strand you out in the middle of nowhere with no middle man and no support. I don't even think they realize that you have a problem with verbal usage and aspergers syndrome and ADD and dyslexia. That last one most certainly adds on a twist to how you write,read and interpret things and so it can really make a difference. You need services dear cousin of mine and i wish the state of california would benefit you with them and stop slacking off already. Because the more they slack off and keep on paper pushing like crazy the more they're only delaying the inevitable of your graduation from your high school. States and Schools who prevent students from graduating obviously feel that they have alot of time on their hands and are obviously not willing to contend with the problems that are at hand. The people on the board of education here in Michigan ended up going on a European vacation saying that there was some business involved in it but it was mostly a vacation. A VACATION OFF OF OUR TAXPAYERS MONEY!! My lawyer wants to file a class action suit against the board of education for wasting our taxpayers money on such petty things but has been unable to do so against the state of Michigan lately i feel that it has been an uphill battle for him. I have not had the chance to talk to my lawyer lately but i'm sure he is doing quite well . So anyways feel free to drop me a line on this one or just post your thoughts on the boards i'd be glad to get something of this sort in my yahoo inbox to read about from the yahoo groups. I hope to hear from you soon,good luck in all you do. Signed, Greg > > Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been busy with > school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days > ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all > in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english and > I hate the class with a deep hatred. The teacher told me in front of > the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going > to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare > office " . She said that at me. My mom and dad are going to go down to > the school tomorrow. She doesnt care about my disabilities. Signed, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Hello , It sounds like the school doesn't care about the fact that you're disabled let alone the fact that you need help with these classes. It sounds like they just want to strand you out in the middle of nowhere with no middle man and no support. I don't even think they realize that you have a problem with verbal usage and aspergers syndrome and ADD and dyslexia. That last one most certainly adds on a twist to how you write,read and interpret things and so it can really make a difference. You need services dear cousin of mine and i wish the state of california would benefit you with them and stop slacking off already. Because the more they slack off and keep on paper pushing like crazy the more they're only delaying the inevitable of your graduation from your high school. States and Schools who prevent students from graduating obviously feel that they have alot of time on their hands and are obviously not willing to contend with the problems that are at hand. The people on the board of education here in Michigan ended up going on a European vacation saying that there was some business involved in it but it was mostly a vacation. A VACATION OFF OF OUR TAXPAYERS MONEY!! My lawyer wants to file a class action suit against the board of education for wasting our taxpayers money on such petty things but has been unable to do so against the state of Michigan lately i feel that it has been an uphill battle for him. I have not had the chance to talk to my lawyer lately but i'm sure he is doing quite well . So anyways feel free to drop me a line on this one or just post your thoughts on the boards i'd be glad to get something of this sort in my yahoo inbox to read about from the yahoo groups. I hope to hear from you soon,good luck in all you do. Signed, Greg > > Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been busy with > school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days > ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all > in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english and > I hate the class with a deep hatred. The teacher told me in front of > the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going > to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare > office " . She said that at me. My mom and dad are going to go down to > the school tomorrow. She doesnt care about my disabilities. Signed, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 I hope your parents give her what for! That was AWFUL! e ________________________________ From: Sent: Wed 3/23/2005 8:20 PM To: FAMSecretSociety Subject: School Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been bussy with school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english that I hate the class with a deap hatered. The teacher told me infront of the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare office " . She said that at my. My mom and dad are going to go down to the school tomarow. She doesnt care about my disabliitys. FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship, support and acceptance. Everyone is valued. Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page in the folder marked " Other FAM Sites. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 I hope your parents give her what for! That was AWFUL! e ________________________________ From: Sent: Wed 3/23/2005 8:20 PM To: FAMSecretSociety Subject: School Hi everyone sorry I havent posted in a while I have been bussy with school. Anyways today had to have been one of the worst school days ever. Here is how it went I was in english. I am not doing good at all in there. I have said several times in class that I hate english that I hate the class with a deap hatered. The teacher told me infront of the class today " You dont know how the system works. " " You are going to fail my class. " " You are going to grow up going to the welfare office " . She said that at my. My mom and dad are going to go down to the school tomarow. She doesnt care about my disabliitys. FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship, support and acceptance. Everyone is valued. Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page in the folder marked " Other FAM Sites. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2008 Report Share Posted December 14, 2008 That's lovely. So pleasing that the school want to co-operate with you Sally Sharon wrote: > > Just wanted to let you know,that school is now going well,even the > Maths that had been a big problem.The school have come on board and > Katy is being given good and appropriate lessons with good visual > supports.She seems very happy there,I know we are lucky.I think my > constant barrage of questions and the info i gave about her helped.I > wanted to thank all of you who supported me,especially > Vicky,Sally,Mandi,Steph and Sara.We have also started our home > programme back up again for after school and the Senco has been very > responsive to the info regarding the after school work we are doing, > incorperating it into Katy's day and lessons. > > Thanks again, > Sharon x > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.9.17/1847 - Release Date: 13/12/2008 16:56 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2009 Report Share Posted January 10, 2009 Just wanted to let you know,that school is now going well,even the Maths that had been a big problem.The school have come on board and Katy is being given good and appropriate lessons with good visual supports.She seems very happy there >>Well done Sharon,long may it continue! Mandi x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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