Help needed . . .

[Guest guest]

I am working very hard to overcome some chemical depression, to set

my intent, to give so that I can receive, to believe and accept the

law of attraction, to practice positive thinking -- the ask and ye

shall receive principal.

And I was doing REALLY WELL!!!

But finances have, instead of improving, tanked and this is creating

a great deal (NO, THAT DOESN'T EVEN BEGIN TO DESCRIBE IT) of stress

in my home and with my husband.

Now -- we've tightened our belts, looked at the situation and have a

plan.

The problem is, my husband simply refuses to even TRY and practice

some of the law of attraction practices of setting goals, picturing

what you want, etc. He's very much a " set expectations low and you'll

never be disappointed guy. "

And I have GENTLY tried to convert him. And I KNOW you can't change

someone unless they want to change. So even as much as I DESPERATELY

WANT TO SHAKE HIM AND SAY " HOW'S THAT WORKING FOR YA, BABE? " to get

him to realize that being a Dougie Downer doesn't seem to have gotten

us far, I can't seem to get the words out because I don't want him to

feel badly.

So, assuming I can't change him, how do I keep his " attitude " from

bringing me down? It's a real problem. Please don't get me wrong -- I

love this man intensely and he is a wonderful man otherwise --

bright, ambitious, loving -- my best friend. It's simply a long-

inbred fear. He was raised in one of the poorest western cities in

the world, and under EXTREME circumstances of poverty -- he basically

had to raise his younger brother's and sisters and fight his older

brother all the time to keep their household together (long story,

but in some ways I think he DESERVES to be far more pessimistic than

he is).

And this applies not only to finances, but to my keeping my morale up

to build my (two) businesses, to keep my home in order, to help me be

organized and progressive, to keep my volunteer program going and, OF

COURSE, to keep my EATING HABITS naturally slender. He's supportive

of ME, but I can't get him to apply any desire to make these things

happen to him.

HELP??????????????????????????

Any ideas?

(and believe me, I feel badly writing this to you all instead of

putting it in front of him, but I just don't know how to approach it

and want someone else's perspective before I do).