Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post elsewhere if you like. Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you have shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until I saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me to comprehend. While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has been a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way can rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get professional help. I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing questions from the director about the level of education in the Long family. I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a part of this country Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. Blessings, -- Renée s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 Well, may your marriage become stronger and both of your spirit's as well. Until then, I will do my part by keeping IOWL members updated with information on the purpose of this group on the FaceBook and MySpace group. You take the time to get yourselve and your life together and best wishes to your family. Have a great day! - Jess ________________________________ To: insideoutweightloss Sent: Tuesday, February 3, 2009 2:34:16 PM Subject: Where I stand Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post elsewhere if you like. Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you have shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until I saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me to comprehend. While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has been a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way can rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get professional help. I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing questions from the director about the level of education in the Long family. I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a part of this country Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. Blessings, -- Renée s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 I hope all ends well for you, but I have a feeling that you will be walking through the fire for a while. Life can hand each and every one of us disappointments; I am sure that you still love your husband but are disappointed, too. But if you're a team in all things, you will pull through this. Worry about yourself and your family right now and nothing else. Subject: Where I stand To: insideoutweightloss Date: Tuesday, February 3, 2009, 2:34 PM Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post elsewhere if you like. Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you have shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until I saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me to comprehend. While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has been a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way can rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get professional help. I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing questions from the director about the level of education in the Long family. I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a part of this country Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. Blessings, -- Renée s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 Hi , I'm glad you're getting some " breathing room " with things. There are various sides to every situation and maelstrom - the sides that are seen, and the sides that are hidden, and I feel that you and your family need time to work things out in the way that's best for yourselves. This is what I meant by being respectful - we don't know what all went on and what actually happened, and you and your family need space, time, and privacy to work through things in your own time. - Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 I admire your courage. Keep the faith, hold your chin up. Ye without sin cast the first stone.... > > Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post elsewhere if > you like. > > > Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. > > > I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you have > shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. > > > > Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to > share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my > husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday > night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until I > saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he > had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and > insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me > to comprehend. > > > > While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has been > a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way can > rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it > has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get > professional help. > > > > I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the > parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing > questions from the director about the level of education in the Long family. > I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and > valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my > comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an > acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be > proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, > and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we > live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a > part of this country > > > > Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. > > > > Blessings, > > > > > > > -- > Renée s > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 , my husband has uttered some real bang ups over the years. He's anti circumcision for our boys. Now this is a quiet and sweet man who never raises his voice to me, ever. He said, in the NICU, in a LOUD voice, " it's ritual gentile mutilation, unless your religion requires it. " Great timing, not only should he have kept his big mouth shut, he said it just as the woman in the next crib was coming in with her circumcised son. I about died, I apologized profusely and so did he. He also got quite a lecture from a very stressed out me. Apparently, a son in the NICU for 8 weeks had gotten to him and he just lost his manners. This is not an excuse, it's a reason. You need to get to the bottom of the reason and counseling sounds like a WONDERFUL start. It's helped us, couples counseling, when we lost our son, and when we found out all four living children have an issue. SO think about both and be angry. Cause it's a normal emotion. Feel everything and let it go. Look at me, giving advice to the woman who has saved me. LOL!!!! It's all sassy fabulous: <http://blog.liedel.org/> Blog.liedel.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 Thank you for keeping us posted, . Prayers are with you and your family. xoxo Patti p.s. Is it too early to think about going back to work??? We miss you and it IS supposed to be good medicine, right??? :-) On Tue, Feb 3, 2009 at 4:34 PM, s wrote: > Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post > elsewhere if > you like. > > Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. > > I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you > have > shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. > > Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to > share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my > husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday > night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until > I > saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he > had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and > insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me > to comprehend. > > While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has > been > a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way > can > rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it > has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get > professional help. > > I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the > parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing > questions from the director about the level of education in the Long > family. > I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and > valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my > comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an > acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be > proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, > and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we > live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a > part of this country > > Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. > > Blessings, > > > > -- > Renée s > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 , I hope the group with join me in sending you warmth and love. My first thought was to send you cookies, lol, but you have taught me that sending you love and positive energy is just as helpful and healthier. I'm sending love, too. We all do inappropriate things and get caught up in moments. He did, he's human. I'm glad he is a good husband and father. I'm sure he'll continue to be and will become a better person because of this. I'm just sorry he had to learn this lesson in such a public manner. My brother's father is British and a proud citizen of the USA. We welcome as much as we welcome him. Most of us do and say ridiculous things, we just don't get caught on national tv. May your God and spirituality bless you. Love, in Cleveland Where I stand To: insideoutweightloss Date: Tuesday, February 3, 2009, 2:34 PM Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post elsewhere if you like. Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you have shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until I saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me to comprehend. While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has been a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way can rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get professional help. I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing questions from the director about the level of education in the Long family. I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a part of this country Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. Blessings, -- Renée s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2009 Report Share Posted February 4, 2009 Hi , I could have been . I could have been Gayla. We live in a very split country. If we could heal that split we could do everything. Love to all! Jean Subject: Where I stand To: insideoutweightloss Date: Tuesday, February 3, 2009, 5:34 PM Hi All, I am posting this statement here, and feel free to post elsewhere if you like. Dear Clients, Colleagues, Friends and the interested public. I deeply appreciate the compassionate outpouring of support many of you have shown as I struggle through this most difficult time. Now that I have had a few days to process my own feelings, I would like to share with you where I truly stand. I too am utterly appalled by my husband's behavior during the swap. I had not seen the footage until Friday night, so didn't fully know how extraordinarily badly he had behaved until I saw it on national TV. I knew he was not proud of his behavior and that he had many misgivings. I did not know he had been aggressively cruel and insulting on so many levels. This has been extraordinarily difficult for me to comprehend. While I completely condemn his behavior, I feel confused because he has been a loving and dedicated husband and father for many years. This in no way can rationalize his inexcusable behavior. It is simply an explanation of why it has taken me this long to make a statement. I have asked him to get professional help. I know that I created offense as well. When I made the statement about the parents not having advanced degrees, I was responding to direct and probing questions from the director about the level of education in the Long family. I certainly don't think people need college degrees to live intelligent and valuable lives, and was not passing any kind of judgment with my comment. My edited comment regarding being an American was actually an acknowledgement that to me, being born here isn't enough of a reason to be proud. We each need to make meaningful contributions that we are proud of, and acknowledge other's contributions as well. We create community and we live honorably and that is what makes us proud. I am truly grateful to be a part of this country Again, thank all of you for your heartfelt comments. Blessings, -- Renée s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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