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Hi

everyone, I thought it was time for another update. As most of you know Don and I separated and I have moved. I moved in

with Jeff and the kids, what an interesting time that proved to be!!!! He

turned out to be an emotionally, and mentally abusive financial drain. He broke

up with me on Monday to pursue his dream of driving road trains, so he is based

in the country now. I managed to find a job in all this, but because I had a

post op haemorrhage after the gall bladder and needed two weeks off I lost my

job. I had a car accident last week, and I found a bag of sex toys in my ex

husband’s house (don). I have no problem with him having the toys, I am

happy he is getting a bit, but I object to them being left where the kids might

find them. I have been nursing my Grandmother this week, she has decided to

give up, and at the same time she is a wonderful rock for me. My mother is

obviously frustrated with Gran, but I explained to Mum that she and my Aunty

have their own lives, and Gran has the right to live as she wants, and it is her

death, and she is entitled to die in her house if she wishes.

It also

looks like after nearly 11 years of marriage, giving up my career, giving birth

to two children, raising them. I get no settlement! He gets the house as it has

been in his family for generations (I don’t want to live there), but I am

expected to pay rent and not given a start. I did everything I could to save to

marriage; it nearly sent me around the bend. Don

was here for dinner last night, and the ignorant gentleman fell asleep on the

lounge when he was watching TV. It was just like being married again. OH YES

please let me go back……. So I am sorry I have

dumped all this on you but I did need to vent and of course I lost a lot of

friends when we broke up. I decided that the friends who spoke to Don and got his side and then didn’t ring me,

or chose his side weren’t worth it. I was known as the scarlet woman when

I left. My mother and grandmother even wiped me for a while. Don conveniently forgot the problems in the past

etc.

So in

the process I have been eating all the wrong food. I saw my doc today after the

gall bladder and he told me he isn’t happy to touch the band for two or

three months. He discussed my lack of weight loss and my pbing with me and went

over the rules again. Which is good, as I have found I had to retrain myself.

So he has agreed to me doing Tony Ferguson shakes for one or two meals, make

the main meal in the middle of the day, and he has put me on reductil for three

months. So I hope it will be of some help. Once again thank you if you

have read this far. I am sorry to dump this on you but I do feel better. Thank

you. Rose if you read this I have lost your number, I would love to talk, mine

are: 98882806 or 0411 425838.

Anne

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[Guest guest]

Anne, I am flabbergasted!! After all this man has done why have him

at your new HOME for dinner. Yes, he needs to see the children, but

why your place? You do not need to be further exposed to him and his

cruel, demeaning ways. You know he and his family upset you. I am

glad the Dr. has taken control of your band issues. Give yourself

some real time to heal after the gall op. I tell everyone that is a

big surgery. Some seem to think it's like appendix but from my own

experience, it needs time to recoup. Best wishes Anne and I'm glad

Jeff has gone. We both know, from what you told me, he was a dead

weight from the beginning, so, with that in mind I am treading on

soft ground here, BUT, next time, give yourself more time. I know it

is daunting being alone with the children. You are young and you

want a nice man in your life. Jumping from the frying pan into the

fire has proven destructive. Date, let them spoil you, get to know

them and their insecurities and habits, then, if they are the *one*,

let them move in. You, and your children are too precious to be

exposed to more pain. Good luck with your future. I hope you find

true happiness. Maree

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[Guest guest]

Maree, why tread softly with me? I have learnt a lot this year,

and thought a dinner together would be nice seeing as Don

and I get along OK. I wont be making that mistake again. I need time as you

said, it feels weird now very alone and I wonder which idiot will suck me in

next. The kids are great, they keep me going, and I really would be a mess if I

let it get to me. I am rolling with it, if this had happened a couple of years

ago I would really not be together, at least I enjoy my own company now. If

ever you want some company for a chat, or a night out, just let me know. Thanks

for your advice.

Anne

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