Re: Hi to Moms having a tough day :)

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Hi Moms having a tough day

Sending a good word out to you today. Praying for everyone

to feel a new sense of hope and strength. Take a deep breath.

Don't yell at your child. Don't start thinking thoughts that

you have lost them , or that things will never be the same.

Choose to take a quiet moment for yourself today-

take a walk, or take a bath- do something for you that will

give your heart a moment to regroup. Remember to say

" I Love You " to each member in your family more times today

than you did yesterday. Choose to pray instead of give up.

With love and prayers,

Marcia in Nashville

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> Subject: Re: Re: parent contamination/response to debbie

> To:

> Date: Saturday, November 15, 2008, 2:03 AM

> Hi Jordana,

> Thanks for your reply. How old is your daughter? My

> daughter is only 8 and is resistant to therapy at this

> point. The severity of her illness is relativly new...almost

> 3 months and began in a PANDA situation. I am her greatest

> contamination source.My husband and I are seeing an

> OCD therapist that uses CBT/ERP. We brought my daughter one

> time and it was a violent apt. If she is contaminated by me

> (or something she considers dirty), she gets that way(a side

> of her I have never seen before this ). She is also newly on

> Prozac. The dosing is slow but I do see she is less

> depressed/agitated than one month ago. I am hoping her

> therapy will begin in a couple of weeks. I think she is

> afraid to go because she thinks her washing/wiping rituals

> will be taken away. They do make her feel better. I am

> nervous about the hard work involved in getting her to do

> ERP. If she knew it will involve touching me, she will NEVER

> go. I have not fully explained that part to her. I

> know she will not handle it well so I have kept the

> explanations to a minimum. I feel she is getting comfortable

> living like this , even though everyone is suffering. We

> help her keep her secret hidden and enable her OCD needs

> (opening doors, light switches respecting her clean

> spaces,etc.) The docs think she needs a couple of more weeks

> of meds before we start, so not to upset her " apple

> cart " too much. I know deep down she wants rid of

> this, she shared with us that it (the OCD)was only supposed

> to here a couple of weeks! It is amazing how draining and

> life altering this illness is for everyone. There are times

> I lose faith and don't know how to help her. I thank

> all those brave parents on this site who are able to rally

> for their kids. I hope I am becoming one of them.

> Rose

>

>

>

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> From: " Jordana120@... "

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> To:

> Sent: Friday, November 14, 2008 9:42:15 PM

> Subject: Re: Re: parent

> contamination/response to debbie

>

>

> Rose, I don't remember what you have written before.

>  Is your daughter going to be getting exposure and response

> prevention therapy?  That is what she desperately needs so

> that you both can return to a normal life, and if she is

> like me and my daughter, she will probably need medication

> for this to work.  Hang in there!  Hold on to the fact

> that she can really return to functioning normally.  It is

> probably really important that this exposure and response

> prevention therapy happen as soon as possible before her

> contamination fears snowball any further out of control.  

>

> Re: parent contamination/ thanks

> Chris

>

> Rose and Chris.

>

> I know what you mean when you say how it affects your

> family. I hate to admit it to anybody, but last night I just

> wanted to get up and walk out the door. And today, I've

> been so depressed, i just don't feel like I care about

> anything. It's only been 3 months and I'm tired of

> trying to get her to read the books, do exposure, do

> anything. She just wants to wallow in having OCD and not do

> anything to help herself. The only thing she's willing

> to do is take the medicine, and it's just not helping.at

> this point. I'm not even sure this new therapist is

> going to work out.

>

> She's been so difficult to live with these last two

> weeks, and such a smarta#$t, talking back, defying us,

> saying she'll do her chores, and then not do them. And

> when we ask why she won't do them, she just sits=2

> 0there. She only has 3 little chores! We impose a

> punishment and she just says, OK. We have fought almost

> every day over these stupid chores; it's just feeding

> her cats, filling the dishwasher, and vacuuming. It's

> mostly the cats and the dishwasher; she claims its the OCD,

> but I think it's also just a convenient excuse to not do

> anything. It'd be easier to just give up on it, but then

> that's not fair to my son, who has been taking up her

> slack (like feeding all the cats so they won't starve!)

> AND doing his own chores! Then she gets mad at him for doing

> her chore! And then she goes on and on last night about how

> we don't love her and pick on her and make her our

> slave! GIVE ME A BREAK! She's been a little mouthy in

> the past, but nothing like this!

>

> Maybe some of you won't think I'm a good parent,

> but last night, while I love my daughter very much, I sure

> didn't LIKE her much! I am hoping and praying this will

> subside when we back down the meds.

>

> Debbie

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