Re: Chores - just to clarify

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My only concern about your post is are there other issues besides chores that

your therapists have identified as showing defiance.  If it is just the chore

thing, then it sounds like they are blowing the whole thing out of proportion,

but if it isn't then you may have to address these other issues.  If there

aren't other issues, then maybe you have to address finding other therapists.

Chores - just to clarify

Hi all,

No offense taken on any front, I know it can be hard to get the real

message, especially when it's long, and I was really upset at them time.

But..my main point was that the therapists were trying to convince me

that she was being defiant, as in, you ask her to do this and she

refuses by not doing it. I am saying, no, she is not being defiant,

there is something else going on! She goes to clean or do the task and

gets stuck, and or distracted. She feels good when she does get it done

and realizes it wasnt so bad, but just cant get started or if she does

gets stuck.

I was looking for answers from the therapists but they just kept

insisting she was being defiant, and... wanted to spend hours and

effort correcting the defiant behavior, rather than figuring out what

the real issue is.

Anyway I appreciate all of the advice and do not feel nearly as

stressed as I did when I originally posted. I guess I get concerned

that if I keep doing things for her she will have difficulty later on,

but I get tired of being mad and stressed about it.

Thanks everyone, this group really is the best!

Melinda