Guest guest Posted January 6, 2009 Report Share Posted January 6, 2009 I used to push through the bathroom door. He could come out okay, going in he might " stick. " For some other things, that " gentle pull " might work, but sometimes when I tried it I made things worse. Live and learn! > > Hi all, > > I have seen comments about kids getting stuck. My son has to put a > retainer on at night. He washes it, but I think he would wash it and > fall asleep in the sink if I didn't put a time limit on it. I count > back from 5 and then he puts it on. Shower too. When it's time, I Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2009 Report Share Posted January 6, 2009 So often when our son gets stuck, it is due to him not being able to start. He had doubts if he is starting right, so can't start at all. And he HAS to do it right. . . Everything is black and white with OCD, no gray area, no in-between. So, if he doubts the absolute right way, then he has trouble moving forward at all. When you see them struggle with doubts, you understand why it's called the doubting disease. Then you add " just right " OCD in, and it needs to feel a certain way too. Don't know if that is your son's problem, but thought I would share what we've dealt with. Medication seems to have helped make it less bothersome for him, but it's still there. BJ > > Hi all, > > I have seen comments about kids getting stuck. My son has to put a > retainer on at night. He washes it, but I think he would wash it and > fall asleep in the sink if I didn't put a time limit on it. I count > back from 5 and then he puts it on. Shower too. When it's time, I > count back from 5 then it's done. > > My daughter gets stuck too. She'll say " help " and then she is willing > to walk away from whatever with a gentle pull away from whatever. > > Hopefully, over time they will be able to " unstuck " themselves. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2009 Report Share Posted January 7, 2009 I know what you mean about black and white. Even after we knew our oldest had OCD, we didn't undertand that the black and white was related to that.. We see the doubting and the need for reassurance that it is " right " . Good enough is not acceptable. Neither is " it's ok " . He still asks the reassurance questions and they have to be answered correctly. He also asks them multiple times and sometimes in different ways to see that he gets the same anser. Sometimes he laughs about it, but still does it. Depending on how he feels at the moment he is willing to let it go a little. I think I'm seeing a window of opportunity where we might be able to work on it. ________________________________ To: Sent: Wednesday, January 7, 2009 2:35:53 AM Subject: Re: Getting stuck So often when our son gets stuck, it is due to him not being able to start. He had doubts if he is starting right, so can't start at all. And he HAS to do it right. . . Everything is black and white with OCD, no gray area, no in-between. So, if he doubts the absolute right way, then he has trouble moving forward at all. When you see them struggle with doubts, you understand why it's called the doubting disease. Then you add " just right " OCD in, and it needs to feel a certain way too. Don't know if that is your son's problem, but thought I would share what we've dealt with. Medication seems to have helped make it less bothersome for him, but it's still there. BJ > > Hi all, > > I have seen comments about kids getting stuck. My son has to put a > retainer on at night. He washes it, but I think he would wash it and > fall asleep in the sink if I didn't put a time limit on it. I count > back from 5 and then he puts it on. Shower too. When it's time, I > count back from 5 then it's done. > > My daughter gets stuck too. She'll say " help " and then she is willing > to walk away from whatever with a gentle pull away from whatever. > > Hopefully, over time they will be able to " unstuck " themselves. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2009 Report Share Posted January 7, 2009 We are new to OCD and this group. Our 10 yr old seems to " get stuck " this way: She has a script that she only she is aware of that we need to follow. If we don't do or say the right things or if things do not go as she has it " scripted " she becomes irate and cries inconsolably. This can go on for hours. The problem is during these times she says she can not be alone because she needs to be with someone. We can meet her/?OCD's " needs " sometimes by doing or saying the right thing. It is so frustrating because you want to walk away to keep it form escalating but she will follow you sobbing that she can't be alone begging you to do something or say something. It appears she is not even sure of what this something is at times. Then there are times when she asks for something to be done that doesn't seem to be part of a ritual and we do not meet it and she has the same response. She just won't let things go. If she believes it should be a certain way then there is no changing her mind or redirecting her. This happened in a store today and I just felt so frustrated because everyone thinks you do not have control over your 10 year old " brat " . Obviously, in a store you just need to leave (now you have to find a new time to run your errand) but once we were in the car and home it continued. This is where I try to walk away and say this your OCD talking but she just follows. But when I do question what is OCD and what is not?? She was diagnosed when she would not go to sleep until we all had done as she requested, kiss her in a certain order, I lay with her a certain number of minutes, etc.. and if this was not done right or interrupted she would become unglued and we would have to start again. When I finally ask why does it have to be this way she stated that " Dad kisses me, then her DB, the I lay with her, then I turn on the fan, then she checks the door, then she takes 45 sips of h2o, then she flips her pillow 3 times then she counts to ten and then she places her body pillow on her and her blanket behind her. Light bulb moment. She has always been very " black and white " and appeared very driven and difficult to redirect. Does this sound familiar to anyone? She was seeing a therapist but he did not have any experience with children with OCD. We have an appointment next Tuesday for CBT and ERP. Any suggestions before then. Getting stuck Hi all, I have seen comments about kids getting stuck. My son has to put a retainer on at night. He washes it, but I think he would wash it and fall asleep in the sink if I didn't put a time limit on it. I count back from 5 and then he puts it on. Shower too. When it's time, I count back from 5 then it's done. My daughter gets stuck too. She'll say " help " and then she is willing to walk away from whatever with a gentle pull away from whatever. Hopefully, over time they will be able to " unstuck " themselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2009 Report Share Posted January 7, 2009 >>Does this sound familiar to anyone? Yup! I think every kid has their " bedtime ritual " but our OCD kids can just go bonkers when we mess with their routines, can't they!? It's hard to say where the normal childhood rituals end and the OCD takes over. Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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