Guest guest Posted September 8, 2009 Report Share Posted September 8, 2009 I'm with Gail, I have a pretty good right hook ; )Heidi, Bexon's Mama, (2 years old, in 3rd cast from Salt Lake City Shriners, currently down from 61 degrees to 25) From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with .... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2009 Report Share Posted September 8, 2009 Im with you Heidi, im known for a pretty good left hook...LOL! From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with .... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2009 Report Share Posted September 8, 2009 LOL, between Heidi, Gail and Mel, that poor guy doesn't stand a chance. Joanmom to Hayden 2 1/262 degreesTreated at ish Rite Hospital Dallas, TX To: infantile_scoliosis Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 4:49:26 PMSubject: Re: thoughts? Im with you Heidi, im known for a pretty good left hook...LOL! From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with ..... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 So far we have a right hook, a left hook and a good swift kick in the _ _ _ with a pair of steel toed boots if he hurts Liv and/or heather. Not bad ladies, not bad! Gail "The Earth is the insane asylum for the rest of universe" “Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.†-BumperSnickerz. ********************************************************************Mom to , 11/28/98 - ADHD/ODD/SIDand , 02/02/02 - Congenital Scoliosis, VATER Association (vertebral and renal anomalies), Torticollis, Klippel Feil Syndrome, Fused Ribs, First VEPTR Recipient at Cincinnati Children's Hospital 3/21/05, VEPTR Expansions: 11/05, 04/20/06, 6/12/08 and 8/14/09; Mole (Spitz Nevus) removal: 11/26/07 & 2/11/08 From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with .... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 Hey, we take care of our friends! (and I have a friend who lives in CO who is also a member a of the "Steel toed posse" and I can have her to 's in a heartbeat if needed - no questions asked) Gail "The Earth is the insane asylum for the rest of universe" “Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.†-BumperSnickerz. ********************************************************************Mom to , 11/28/98 - ADHD/ODD/SIDand , 02/02/02 - Congenital Scoliosis, VATER Association (vertebral and renal anomalies), Torticollis, Klippel Feil Syndrome, Fused Ribs, First VEPTR Recipient at Cincinnati Children's Hospital 3/21/05, VEPTR Expansions: 11/05, 04/20/06, 6/12/08 and 8/14/09; Mole (Spitz Nevus) removal: 11/26/07 & 2/11/08 From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with ..... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 Gail, You really are a riot!! I love it! Keep up the laughs! Your great! From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with ..... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 AGREED Mel!!!!! Joanmom to Hayden 2 1/262 degreesTreated at ish Rite Hospital Dallas, TX To: infantile_scoliosis Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 7:04:26 PMSubject: Re: thoughts? Gail, You really are a riot!! I love it! Keep up the laughs! Your great! From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with ..... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 Hi , This is Deja Vu for me.... I have not seen my father since i was 14 and he hired a private detective to locate me, which he did, just prior to Noelle's diagnosis of PIS. I had agreed to meet with him and then my world exploded with the cofirmation of Noelle's scoli and all that went with it. I couldn't get my head around both things at once, so I put him off for the time being. I needed to focus on my child and myself first before i could think about his needs and the emotional cost it might have on me. If he's serious about seeing Liv and being in her life, then he should understand that you are protecting her welfare as she gets through the next few months before you bring this up to her. She is worth the wait and he should know that. Just my 2 cents! - Noelle's mommy, 2 1/2 years old and in 8th cast from Rochester NY, reflux, mild plagiocephaly, mild torticollos, hypotonia, ligament laxity, suspected Ehler's Danlos III Subject: Re: thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:27 PM Go with your gut. Four of my kids are adopted so they have no contact now with their birth families but I would not allow it to happened prior to a big ordeal like this surgery. If he waited this long to see her he can wait a little longer. From: hrhandco <heather@infantilesc oliosis.org>To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. comSent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 11:20:57 AMSubject: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2009 Report Share Posted September 9, 2009 Hmmm, my friend in CO's name is Mel too. Gail "The Earth is the insane asylum for the rest of universe" “Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.†-BumperSnickerz. ********************************************************************Mom to , 11/28/98 - ADHD/ODD/SIDand , 02/02/02 - Congenital Scoliosis, VATER Association (vertebral and renal anomalies), Torticollis, Klippel Feil Syndrome, Fused Ribs, First VEPTR Recipient at Cincinnati Children's Hospital 3/21/05, VEPTR Expansions: 11/05, 04/20/06, 6/12/08 and 8/14/09; Mole (Spitz Nevus) removal: 11/26/07 & 2/11/08 From: lingriffith@ juno.com <lingriffith@ juno.com>Subject: Re: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com, "poohlvr" <poohlvr1020@ yahoo.com>Date: Tuesday, September 8, 2009, 3:13 PM I agree with everyone's feedback as well. So much to deal with ..... continue to hang in there! , mom to Delaney, treated at ish Rite in Dallas----------Sent from my Verizon Wireless mobile phone- [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ___Best Weight Loss Program - Click Here!http://thirdpartyof fers.juno. com/TGL2141/ fc/BLSrjpTFoYc71 yxZ6pdz8wTQCOttR sDIu5D9QUURoKnMx DkCbS9gc0deZA8/------------ --------- --------- ------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 , Hi! I thought I would chime in..... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! Blessings, =) To: infantile_scoliosis Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AMSubject: thoughts? Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. Thank you.HRH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 > > , > Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > Blessings, > =) > > > > > ________________________________ > > To: infantile_scoliosis > Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM > Subject: thoughts? > > � > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > Thank you. > HRH > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 Thanks everyone. I have made the decision that he will not be allowed to see her, prior to the procedures. If he wants to try to establish a relationship post recovery, we can discuss what his intentions are at that time. Olivia is not happy with him. She wrote him a letter last year asking him if she could change her name legally to our family name of Montoya, since thats the family she identifies with. She told him that she wanted to have the same name as her mom, her nana, her uncles, cousins and that even her dogs had the last name of Montoya. She even reasoned with him and said that this was not to hurt him in anyway, but rather to help her. She didnt want the last name of Sorensen because she doesnt know him or anyone in his family. By his choice, not mine. Anyway, his reply pissed her off and she doesnt mention him at all. Strong girl. HRH > > , > Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > Blessings, > =) > > > > > ________________________________ > > To: infantile_scoliosis > Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM > Subject: thoughts? > > � > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > Thank you. > HRH > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 , Poor baby!! And you are totally making the right decision! You are such a great mom and a great person and even considering giving him a chance to correct his mistake of leaving shows that in you. Good for you! Subject: Re: thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis Date: Friday, September 11, 2009, 8:29 AM Thanks everyone. I have made the decision that he will not be allowed to see her, prior to the procedures. If he wants to try to establish a relationship post recovery, we can discuss what his intentions are at that time.Olivia is not happy with him. She wrote him a letter last year asking him if she could change her name legally to our family name of Montoya, since thats the family she identifies with. She told him that she wanted to have the same name as her mom, her nana, her uncles, cousins and that even her dogs had the last name of Montoya. She even reasoned with him and said that this was not to hurt him in anyway, but rather to help her. She didnt want the last name of Sorensen because she doesnt know him or anyone in his family. By his choice, not mine.Anyway, his reply pissed her off and she doesnt mention him at all.Strong girl.HRH >> ,> Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > Blessings,> =) > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __> From: hrhandco <heather@... >> To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com> Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM> Subject: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?> > � > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > Thank you.> HRH> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 , Liv is such a strong girl. You may not want to share what Bio dad replied, but does she have the legal right to change her name? Surely at 18, right? Heidi, Bexon's Mama, (2 years old, in 3rd cast from Salt Lake City Shriners, currently down from 61 degrees to 25) Subject: Re: thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis Date: Friday, September 11, 2009, 6:29 AM Thanks everyone. I have made the decision that he will not be allowed to see her, prior to the procedures. If he wants to try to establish a relationship post recovery, we can discuss what his intentions are at that time.Olivia is not happy with him. She wrote him a letter last year asking him if she could change her name legally to our family name of Montoya, since thats the family she identifies with. She told him that she wanted to have the same name as her mom, her nana, her uncles, cousins and that even her dogs had the last name of Montoya. She even reasoned with him and said that this was not to hurt him in anyway, but rather to help her. She didnt want the last name of Sorensen because she doesnt know him or anyone in his family. By his choice, not mine.Anyway, his reply pissed her off and she doesnt mention him at all.Strong girl.HRH >> ,> Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > Blessings,> =) > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __> From: hrhandco <heather@... >> To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com> Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM> Subject: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?> > � > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > Thank you.> HRH> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 , Wow you have one very strong and mature young lady!!!! That takes amazing strength for a child to identify those feelings and voice them! Good for her!! You two are so strong and have been through so much together!! Praying for you both! Blessings, =) To: infantile_scoliosis Sent: Friday, September 11, 2009 7:29:53 AMSubject: Re: thoughts? Thanks everyone. I have made the decision that he will not be allowed to see her, prior to the procedures. If he wants to try to establish a relationship post recovery, we can discuss what his intentions are at that time.Olivia is not happy with him. She wrote him a letter last year asking him if she could change her name legally to our family name of Montoya, since thats the family she identifies with. She told him that she wanted to have the same name as her mom, her nana, her uncles, cousins and that even her dogs had the last name of Montoya. She even reasoned with him and said that this was not to hurt him in anyway, but rather to help her. She didnt want the last name of Sorensen because she doesnt know him or anyone in his family. By his choice, not mine.Anyway, his reply pissed her off and she doesnt mention him at all.Strong girl.HRH >> ,> Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > Blessings,> =) > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __> From: hrhandco <heather@... >> To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com> Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM> Subject: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?> > � > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > Thank you.> HRH> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2009 Report Share Posted September 12, 2009 She's very strong and i think that's a good choice..... Focus on yourselves for now!- Noelle's mommy, 2 1/2 years old and in 8th cast from Rochester NY, reflux, mild plagiocephaly, mild torticollos, hypotonia, ligament laxity, suspected Ehler's Danlos III Subject: Re: thoughts?To: infantile_scoliosis Date: Friday, September 11, 2009, 1:29 PM Thanks everyone. I have made the decision that he will not be allowed to see her, prior to the procedures. If he wants to try to establish a relationship post recovery, we can discuss what his intentions are at that time.Olivia is not happy with him. She wrote him a letter last year asking him if she could change her name legally to our family name of Montoya, since thats the family she identifies with. She told him that she wanted to have the same name as her mom, her nana, her uncles, cousins and that even her dogs had the last name of Montoya. She even reasoned with him and said that this was not to hurt him in anyway, but rather to help her. She didnt want the last name of Sorensen because she doesnt know him or anyone in his family. By his choice, not mine.Anyway, his reply pissed her off and she doesnt mention him at all.Strong girl.HRH >> ,> Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > Blessings,> =) > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __> From: hrhandco <heather@... >> To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com> Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM> Subject: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?> > � > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > Thank you.> HRH> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2009 Report Share Posted September 12, 2009 Hey , Very simply, I just wanted to say that I think you are handling this beautifully! I have some issues with my hubby's family that I won't go into - suffice to say, I have often said that it is not " blood " that makes one a relative, but it is being there for each other....in good times and in bad. > > > > , > > Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > > Blessings, > > =) > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: hrhandco <heather@> > > To: infantile_scoliosis > > Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM > > Subject: thoughts? > > > > � > > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > > Thank you. > > HRH > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2009 Report Share Posted September 12, 2009 VERY well said. My family is great but I have issues with my husbands family as well. My friends are more support for me than my inlaws. So I only surround myself with genuion, loving people. Joanmom to Hayden 2 1/262 degreesTreated at ish Rite Hospital Dallas, TX To: infantile_scoliosis Sent: Friday, September 11, 2009 8:40:49 PMSubject: Re: thoughts? Hey ,Very simply, I just wanted to say that I think you are handling this beautifully! I have some issues with my hubby's family that I won't go into - suffice to say, I have often said that it is not "blood" that makes one a relative, but it is being there for each other....in good times and in bad.> >> > ,> > Hi! I thought I would chime in.... Hope you dont mind. How does your daughter feel about her bio father??? That is the key question. If she has issues with him then it is probably not going to be constructive nor benificial before surgery nor shortly after. otherwise if she has no problems with him... I would say then it might be a good idea to allow her to see him. I would advise that it should rest on how her relationship is with him and not what your relation ship is with him. There is a difference and that is hard to seperate yourself from all of it. That would be my advice!!! I hope it helps!!! Let us all know what happens.... Prayers are with you! > > Blessings,> > =) > > > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __> > From: hrhandco <heather@>> > To: infantile_scoliosis @yahoogroups. com> > Sent: Tuesday, September 8, 2009 9:20:57 AM> > Subject: [infantile_scoliosi s] thoughts?> > > > � > > Livs bio dad has not had contact with her for 8 yrs. He called last week and asked to see her. My gut is telling me that this brief meeting prior to such a huge series of invasive procedures wouldnt be helpful to an 11 yr old mind. Bad timing....Geez. Nor does an 11 yr old little girl have the foresight to make such a decision and see how this meeting could affect her healing and personal development. I am not opposed to discussing a reunion post recovery, but certainly not before. I think that I may have slanted view on this and thats why I am coming here for your thoughts. > > Thank you.> > HRH> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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