Re: I'm even embarassed/ashamed to TALK about weight [loss]!

[Guest guest]

I don't talk much about weight loss either. Maybe because I tryed so many

times without success. Maybe it's because with an eating disorder I feel

it's inappropriate. I know I've frustrated my husband because I keep

thinking the next thing will do it for me. First I decided it was yoga, then

I thought working out, then I decided to drop my meds, and that was a

decision that greatly affected him as I was not very easy to get along with.

We are working things out and working on bettering ourselves, we keep coming

up with new rules because the way we were living was not good. I was

resentful that he never helped around the house, so I didn't do anything

either. Resentment and depression got in the way.

I can certainly relate to the isolation part. No one in my life even knows

I'm doing the inside out weight loss program other than the group. I'll

probably keep it that way for a while. Thank God for all of you!

> It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I loathe

> to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> in this struggle.

>

> Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

>

> Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> getting/giving more support.

>

> Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

>

> -COV

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I am with you! Folks know I eat healthy. I have shown a friend who asked

about how I eat 's site

and otherwise this has been pretty quiet. My husband konws I listen to

Podcasts all sorts of them and he never asks. He is a busy CPA.

This is an intimate person walk - learning to know, love and accept

yourself!

Keep walking!

I am very proud of you!!!!

LE

On Wed, Jan 7, 2009 at 10:26 AM, Bjorkquist <takekyukido@...

> wrote:

> I don't talk much about weight loss either. Maybe because I tryed so

> many

> times without success. Maybe it's because with an eating disorder I feel

> it's inappropriate. I know I've frustrated my husband because I keep

> thinking the next thing will do it for me. First I decided it was yoga,

> then

> I thought working out, then I decided to drop my meds, and that was a

> decision that greatly affected him as I was not very easy to get along

> with.

>

> We are working things out and working on bettering ourselves, we keep

> coming

> up with new rules because the way we were living was not good. I was

> resentful that he never helped around the house, so I didn't do anything

> either. Resentment and depression got in the way.

> I can certainly relate to the isolation part. No one in my life even knows

> I'm doing the inside out weight loss program other than the group. I'll

> probably keep it that way for a while. Thank God for all of you!

>

>

> On Wed, Jan 7, 2009 at 6:45 AM, cozyoceanview

<declawed@...<declawed%40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> > It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I loathe

> > to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> > idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> > in this struggle.

> >

> > Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

> >

> > Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> > getting/giving more support.

> >

> > Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

> >

> > -COV

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

I feel the same! but none of us should feel this way. sometimes I will

even get embarrassed when I am eating healthy food at work, or power walking

around work at lunch or in my neighborhood. I feel as though people are

looking at me and judging me and asking themselves what the heck I'm doing,

or saying that I look funny. I try to remind myself all the time that if

anyone should be asking what the heck anyone is doing, it should be me! I

am the one eating the fruits and vegetables, and taking advantage of extra

time to get some exercise, and taking care of my body and myself in

general. I repeat to myself that it doesn't matter what any of these people

think, because I am doing what makes me feel good and what I know is good

for me.

it's really hard sometimes... I live in Mississippi and since I don't have a

gym membership anymore, it seems as though I meet fewer and fewer people

that are taking care of themselves. 's podcast on the 3 P's is one

that I turn to often - Persistence, Patience, and Practice!

thanks for listening.

audrey

> It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I loathe

> to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> in this struggle.

>

> Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

>

> Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> getting/giving more support.

>

> Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

>

> -COV

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Audrey

Even though I have gym included in my home owners dues, I don't meet all

that many folks who take

care of themselves!

But we have each other that that is a majority!

Mississipppi? I live in Washington state - Olympia.

I have a band on my wrist to remind me who cares what others think! This is

my life! My best life yet to quote Osteen!

LE

> I feel the same! but none of us should feel this way. sometimes I will

> even get embarrassed when I am eating healthy food at work, or power

> walking

> around work at lunch or in my neighborhood. I feel as though people are

> looking at me and judging me and asking themselves what the heck I'm doing,

> or saying that I look funny. I try to remind myself all the time that if

> anyone should be asking what the heck anyone is doing, it should be me! I

> am the one eating the fruits and vegetables, and taking advantage of extra

> time to get some exercise, and taking care of my body and myself in

> general. I repeat to myself that it doesn't matter what any of these people

> think, because I am doing what makes me feel good and what I know is good

> for me.

> it's really hard sometimes... I live in Mississippi and since I don't have

> a

> gym membership anymore, it seems as though I meet fewer and fewer people

> that are taking care of themselves. 's podcast on the 3 P's is one

> that I turn to often - Persistence, Patience, and Practice!

>

> thanks for listening.

> audrey

>

> On Wed, Jan 7, 2009 at 6:45 AM, cozyoceanview

<declawed@...<declawed%40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> > It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I loathe

> > to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> > idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> > in this struggle.

> >

> > Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

> >

> > Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> > getting/giving more support.

> >

> > Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

> >

> > -COV

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Agree totally. This feels like a very personal journey. I don't even

keep the success journal b/c I don't want my husband to see me writing

about myself in bed. I do the homework and its on my computer but for

the most part I need my thoughts to stay in my head until I'm ready to

share.

Jenn

[Guest guest]

There r a bunch of us who walk the walk not talk¿

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Re: I'm even embarassed/ashamed to TALK about

weight [loss]!

Agree totally. This feels like a very personal journey. I don't even

keep the success journal b/c I don't want my husband to see me writing

about myself in bed. I do the homework and its on my computer but for

the most part I need my thoughts to stay in my head until I'm ready to

share.

Jenn

[Guest guest]

snip>>>>>>This is an intimate person walk - learning to know, love and accept

yourself!

Keep walking!<<<<<<<<

Oh I so agree. This is work you have to do within yourself. Start talking to too

many people about it and you find you're explaining yourself and having people

'watching' you. This is internal work as much as external!

Luanne

[Guest guest]

I am the same as you, I haven't even mentioned this group to my

husband, because I am so ashamed of dragging him down with me on this

journey for 20 years. I feel just like Oprah said she felt on Monday's

show - I can't believe I am still dealing with and talking about my weight.

The same is almost overwhelming at times!

So I agree, I'm so glad we have all found each other!

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of

Bjorkquist

Sent: Wednesday, January 07, 2009 10:26 AM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: Re: I'm even embarassed/ashamed to TALK about

weight [loss]!

I don't talk much about weight loss either. Maybe because I tryed so many

times without success. Maybe it's because with an eating disorder I feel

it's inappropriate. I know I've frustrated my husband because I keep

thinking the next thing will do it for me. First I decided it was yoga, then

I thought working out, then I decided to drop my meds, and that was a

decision that greatly affected him as I was not very easy to get along with.

We are working things out and working on bettering ourselves, we keep coming

up with new rules because the way we were living was not good. I was

resentful that he never helped around the house, so I didn't do anything

either. Resentment and depression got in the way.

I can certainly relate to the isolation part. No one in my life even knows

I'm doing the inside out weight loss program other than the group. I'll

probably keep it that way for a while. Thank God for all of you!

On Wed, Jan 7, 2009 at 6:45 AM, cozyoceanview <declawed@...

<mailto:declawed%40gmail.com> > wrote:

> It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I loathe

> to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> in this struggle.

>

> Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

>

> Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> getting/giving more support.

>

> Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

>

> -COV

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hello everyone who is striving for freedom from the weight struggle,

I can relate to feeling ashamed of admitting I want or am trying to

lose weight. I feel like if I admit it to others, it's like letting

people know I'm not secure or confident with myself. It has gotten

to

the point where I don't accept responsibility for my weight loss when

others bring it up. I'll say it's stress or grad school that take

the

credit, rather than admitting that I was trying to lose weight. And

that mindset probably hinders me from reinforcing my good habits, so

I'm probably just doing a disservice to myself.

This may have contributed to my recent bounce back: I was within 3

pounds of my goal weight around Thanksgiving, and now I'm back to 11

pounds away (or more - I don't want to check). Thank goodness for

this

groups' comments and 's podcasts to help get me back on track.

I want to say, " Keep up the great work, everyone, " but instead I'll

say, " Keep up the easy and effortless path to weightloss and freedom

to

pursue your passions in life. "

MW

>

> It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I

loathe

> to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a

great

> idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel

isolated

> in this struggle.

>

> Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

>

> Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> getting/giving more support.

>

> Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

>

> -COV

>

[Guest guest]

I don't talk much about it or actually not at all either. If i mention

it at work, people give the " yeah whatever, you have failed so many

time why are you still trying " look. So I have decided that they will

just have to see when I get to my healthy weight. If I talk about it to

my family, either they call me everyday (my mil) to check on what I eat

and scold me everytime i eat something a little out of their idea of a

weightloss diet or make me feel like crap (my dad, which he does

regardless).

So I thin it's better left alone for now too.

>

> It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I loathe

> to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> in this struggle.

>

> Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

>

> Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> getting/giving more support.

>

> Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

>

> -COV

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> > It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I

loathe

> > to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a

great

> > idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel

isolated

> > in this struggle.

> >

> > Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

> >

> > Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> > getting/giving more support.

> >

> > Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

> >

> > -COV

> >

>

I have talkedso much about weightloss or weight problem that i now

feel costantly watched by everybody. My partner has been trying to

suport me for the last 20 years and the result is that i now eat

behind her back because i dont know anymore what is acceptable to eat

in font of people. I so glad i can finally air all these things in a

group and get the opinions of people that struggle with the same

issue.

Rose

[Guest guest]

I never thought of that! walking and exercising makes me feel even

more conspicuous and odd than being chunky does. hmmm. So where does

that lead me? another limiting belief?

I'm impressed by you and your guts to diverge from the community and

strike out on your own journey. fantastic!

-COV

>

> > It's become such a taboo topic, even within my own head, that I

loathe

> > to talk about it. I'm probably not the only one. This is such a great

> > idea-- to have a support group, because it's so easy to feel isolated

> > in this struggle.

> >

> > Even with , it's just me and my iPod... chugging along.

> >

> > Thank you guys for being here, and I'm looking forward to

> > getting/giving more support.

> >

> > Cream of Wheat- yum comfort food!

> >

> > -COV

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe some things to think about--

you can keep a little voice recorder by the bed, and record into it

while husband is brushing his teeth or what not? I have an application

on my iPhone, and other PDA and PC's do too.

you can use a pass-word protected file on your computer, and do your

success journal when you check your email before YOU brush your teeth?

I haven't come across a system that I like right now. My journal is on

the floor, and some of my entries are days apart. Then I have one file

on my iPhone with another 5-ish entries. I need to be more organized.

New year's elfolution

lol

COV

>

> Agree totally. This feels like a very personal journey. I don't even

> keep the success journal b/c I don't want my husband to see me writing

> about myself in bed. I do the homework and its on my computer but for

> the most part I need my thoughts to stay in my head until I'm ready to

> share.

>

> Jenn

>

[Guest guest]

hi MMW,

I have done the SAME exact thing-- even when I'm glowing on the

inside, thinking " I worked out 3x this week, and feel AWESOME, and

just had a salad for lunch, and am ready to GO " , and someone comes up

to me and says " Wow, you must be losing weight " ... I mumble and say

something like- oh, I forgot to pack my lunch.

I wish it were easier to share our small victories with those around

us. Sadly, many of us have learned that sharing invites criticism, or

scorn, or gossip. sigh...

Well, at least we can share HERE!

COV

[Guest guest]

I feel the same way. When people bring up my weight loss at work, I

don't want to discuss it. Maybe b/c I am ashamed of my past behavior

that lead to the weight gain. Perhaps forgiveness is the answer here.

I'm struggling with how to set my intent for this journey. I want to

be very specific in my intent. so slim fit and healthy is not specific

enough for me. A few years ago I was down to 130 and felt I could

have lost more, but I plateaued there and then went up, up, up. I

will turn 38 this spring and feel I can reach my goal, whatever it is,

by then as my gift to myself, but I don't want to be disappointed if I

don't reach it by the b-day. At the same time, I don't want to be

stuck in a limiting belief that I can't be a fit and healthy 120.

Thoughts?

Jenn

[Guest guest]

>

> I feel the same way. When people bring up my weight loss at work,

I

> don't want to discuss it. Maybe b/c I am ashamed of my past

behavior

> that lead to the weight gain. Perhaps forgiveness is the answer

here.

>

> I'm struggling with how to set my intent for this journey. I want

to

> be very specific in my intent. so slim fit and healthy is not

specific

> enough for me. A few years ago I was down to 130 and felt I could

> have lost more, but I plateaued there and then went up, up, up. I

> will turn 38 this spring and feel I can reach my goal, whatever it

is,

> by then as my gift to myself, but I don't want to be disappointed

if I

> don't reach it by the b-day. At the same time, I don't want to be

> stuck in a limiting belief that I can't be a fit and healthy 120.

> Thoughts?

>

> Jenn

>

I think if you put the pressure on yourself to be a " specific "

weight by a " specific " date you might set yourself up for

disappointment. Not that it can't be done but I think if we focus

on the big picture of being healthy and doing the best we can each

day we have a better chance of achieving our utimate goal. A

healthy weight loss is 1-2 lbs a week so maybe you can be " specific "

with mini goals, say 4-6 lbs in a month. I don't know how much you

have to lose but no matter what you lose by your birthday, it will

be less then you are today.

[Guest guest]

I think I'm at about 143 and I feel like a healthy weight for me is

somewhere between 123-127. You make a good point about mini goals. I

plan to weight myself once/month so I can focus on the process, not

the result. In the past I used to weight myself once/day and my mood

would be set for the day by the number on the scale. I'm going to

weigh myself on the 1st of every month, so I'll see what the result is

on February 1st and set my goal of 4-6 pounds per month from there.

Thanks for this advice!

Jenn