Guest guest Posted December 15, 2007 Report Share Posted December 15, 2007 Boy I hear you dana - there is safety in being fat. Here are the things I realized about this: *When I'm fat and someone gives me a compliment about my work or anything, I know it is because I'm smart not pretty. *When I'm fat and some guy comes in to talk to me at work - I know it is because either he needs my help or because I have a good personality not because of my appearance AND not to make a move on me. *When I'm fat - to a certain degree I feel freer to be myself - and people won't hate me - they can always say - yes she is smart and fun but see - she is human, she struggles with weight. It is strange - especially when I read what I've written - I know that when I was thinner folks made a big deal over me and some of my talents and made me embarrassed and other people resented that. I want to be liked be everyone - (something I've been working on) so somehow being fat does feel safer. Safe is nice - well-liked is nice but maybe it is time to be the real me - and celebrate my talents and honor myself with the body I really want. What makes you feel safe about feeling fat? diane Sadly, I think I feel safer in an overweight body. How do I get to a point that I feel safe in a fit body? I know this may sound odd to some, but hopefully someone will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2007 Report Share Posted December 15, 2007 Try to figure out what feels safe about the weight. Work on why? stephensond12056 wrote: Boy I hear you dana - there is safety in being fat. Here are the things I realized about this: *When I'm fat and someone gives me a compliment about my work or anything, I know it is because I'm smart not pretty. *When I'm fat and some guy comes in to talk to me at work - I know it is because either he needs my help or because I have a good personality not because of my appearance AND not to make a move on me. *When I'm fat - to a certain degree I feel freer to be myself - and people won't hate me - they can always say - yes she is smart and fun but see - she is human, she struggles with weight. It is strange - especially when I read what I've written - I know that when I was thinner folks made a big deal over me and some of my talents and made me embarrassed and other people resented that. I want to be liked be everyone - (something I've been working on) so somehow being fat does feel safer. Safe is nice - well-liked is nice but maybe it is time to be the real me - and celebrate my talents and honor myself with the body I really want. What makes you feel safe about feeling fat? diane Sadly, I think I feel safer in an overweight body. How do I get to a point that I feel safe in a fit body? I know this may sound odd to some, but hopefully someone will understand. --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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