Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, if you dont agree with an IEP thats signed or not signed you can always have a MET team formed-they legally HAVE to do it. Dont let them shove you off, they dont have a choice. If her IEP says 60 minutes a week-then thats what she should be getting. They cant change that. Pennie Abby's Mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie is it possible she has ASD but is giving you a very different expression of it. Not all are alike not even siblings. Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Sondra, this has ran through my mind a lot lately. At this time I don't think she is unless it is very mild. Her receptive language is very good & she's good at expressing her wants & needs to us at home. Her articulation is really bad so it takes some time for us to understand her sometimes. She doesn't seem to have any sensory issues. She's always had good eye contact & very aware of her surroundings. But I still wonder because we're so new to Autism I know there's a lot I don't know yet. I guess deep down that's why I want the therapy at home. When Sky started speech therapy at home after a month of watching her scream & fight the therapist every time I realized there had to be something else going on. I didn't know anything about Autism then, but I just felt like something wasn't right. I feel like if I'm present during Rain's therapy then I can make sure it's just delays & not something else. I know that may sound crazy, but I can't help but fear there may be something else going on and I'm afraid others may over look it. From the time the girls were 3 months old I had a strong feeling something was wrong & I had so many people blow me off. I don't want to make the same mistakes I've made in the past again. Wendie > Wendie is it possible she has ASD but is giving you a very different > expression of it. Not all are alike not even siblings. > Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Thank you Pennie! It feels nice having someone back us up. Wendie > Wendie, if you dont agree with an IEP thats signed or not signed you can > always have a MET team formed-they legally HAVE to do it. Dont let them shove you > off, they dont have a choice. If her IEP says 60 minutes a week- then thats > what she should be getting. They cant change that. > > Pennie > Abby's Mom > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, the first thought I had was for Rain to go an extra day of preschool and that be her day devoted to therapy. The other thing I thought of is after you talk with the teacher to request another IEP meeting with the teacher at the meeting, I would make sure I requested this meeting in writing with the list of individual names. I never understood why they try to keep therapists out of meetings, either. If anyone needs to be there, they do! If you feel that home is the most appropriate setting for her, then stand by that. I'm betting they are trying to get it inschool to save the teacher time in commuting so she can have enough time for her kid load, but I don't know. Perhaps another thing you could do is a get a statement from her ped saying that home is most appropriate, and you could sight " natural setting " stuff they use in Early Intervention, don't know if it's applicable here or not. Good luck and keep your cool for now! Debi > Hey guys I really need some advise. We recently had Sky's twin > sister, Rain, evaluated through the school district. We found out > she's delayed in fine motor skills & borderline on gross motor > skills. As for her speech she scored between 24-31 months on > receptive & 20 months on expressive. I felt like her expressive > language was delayed, but I didn't realize she was that far behind. > I forgot to mention the girls are 31 months old. > > So yesterday we have Rain's IEP. We didn't have any problems setting > the goals & objectives for speech & fine motor. We all seemed to be > on the same page & it went smoothly. The part I'm worrying over is > where she will recieve therapy. They want to put Rain in the > Rescource program which I'm fine with, but they want her to recieve > services while she's at preschool. She just started preschool 2 > weeks ago. She only goes 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. The main > reason we decided to put Rain in preschool at this early age was so > she could be around more NT kids her age. Plus Rain is extremely shy > & will not talk around people she doesn't know. We would like Rain > to recieve services at home for now. The preschool Rain goes to has > a resource teacher there everyday so I know it would be easier for > them for her to get services there, but this is supposed to be about > what's best for Rain not the teacher. I feel like if she got > services at preschool she would be pulled away from the other kids & > I don't like that idea. At the meeting they said there are other > kids in her class that would also be getting services so Rain > wouldn't be singled out. When I asked how many they couldn't tell > me. That's another problem because if the group of kids that are > getting services is large I don't see Rain doing well. I can just > see her trying to fade in the back of the group. > > We went back & forth on this for awhile. The ladies at the IEP > trying to convince us to go with having the services at preschool. > At one point one of them made some statements I have problems with. > She said since the Resource teacher was already there it was like she > was getting 2 1/2 hours of therapy when she goes because the Resource > teacher helps plan the class. Well if that's true why wouldn't I > want her to get services at home because that's an extra hour of > services she could get. Then she made the statement that if we chose > services at home she may only get 60 minutes every 2 weeks. Her IEP > says 60 minutes a week! How can they change that just because we > want home services instead of preschool. If she wasn't in preschool > they wouldn't have a choice. Another thing that bothers me is when > we were first transitioning Sky from the birth - 3 program into the > school district program we were going over Sky's options. At that > point we didn't know if Sky would be going to special ed preschool or > a regular preschool. They told me if they recommended the resource > program at regular preschool they would cover the cost of preschool. > No one mentioned that to us yesterday regarding Rain! > > After going back & forth they told us we didn't have to make a > decision on location right then. We all agreed on the Resource > program & the location was something we could work out with the > teacher. So we signed the IEP. It doesn't state anywhere on the IEP > the location so I'm o.k. with signing it. We made sure they > explained every little thing on the IEP even items that weren't > checked off. We didn't want to find out later that they had > purposely mislead us. So now I have to wait for the resource teacher > to call me. I'm actually thinking about asking for her Monday when I > drop Rain off. I'm not comfortable agreeing to something when I > don't know anything about it or how it's carried out in the > classroom. That's another thing that really bothered me. Why wasn't > someone from the resource program at our IEP who could explain the > ins & outs?!? They did the same thing to us when we did Sky's IEP. > No one from the school was there so we were left with a lot of > unanswered questions. I can't figure out why they don't have these > people present during first time IEPs. So anyway I know some of you > have a lot of experience with these things am I being difficult or is > there something we're not getting? Or do you think we're right for > asking for services at home? I just feel like if I'm present during > services I can do more for Rain in between services. After all I'm > the one who provides the most therapy for my girls. If you made it > to the bottom of this post thanks for listening & I'm open to any > advise or suggestions. > Wendie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, the first thought I had was for Rain to go an extra day of preschool and that be her day devoted to therapy. The other thing I thought of is after you talk with the teacher to request another IEP meeting with the teacher at the meeting, I would make sure I requested this meeting in writing with the list of individual names. I never understood why they try to keep therapists out of meetings, either. If anyone needs to be there, they do! If you feel that home is the most appropriate setting for her, then stand by that. I'm betting they are trying to get it inschool to save the teacher time in commuting so she can have enough time for her kid load, but I don't know. Perhaps another thing you could do is a get a statement from her ped saying that home is most appropriate, and you could sight " natural setting " stuff they use in Early Intervention, don't know if it's applicable here or not. Good luck and keep your cool for now! Debi > Hey guys I really need some advise. We recently had Sky's twin > sister, Rain, evaluated through the school district. We found out > she's delayed in fine motor skills & borderline on gross motor > skills. As for her speech she scored between 24-31 months on > receptive & 20 months on expressive. I felt like her expressive > language was delayed, but I didn't realize she was that far behind. > I forgot to mention the girls are 31 months old. > > So yesterday we have Rain's IEP. We didn't have any problems setting > the goals & objectives for speech & fine motor. We all seemed to be > on the same page & it went smoothly. The part I'm worrying over is > where she will recieve therapy. They want to put Rain in the > Rescource program which I'm fine with, but they want her to recieve > services while she's at preschool. She just started preschool 2 > weeks ago. She only goes 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. The main > reason we decided to put Rain in preschool at this early age was so > she could be around more NT kids her age. Plus Rain is extremely shy > & will not talk around people she doesn't know. We would like Rain > to recieve services at home for now. The preschool Rain goes to has > a resource teacher there everyday so I know it would be easier for > them for her to get services there, but this is supposed to be about > what's best for Rain not the teacher. I feel like if she got > services at preschool she would be pulled away from the other kids & > I don't like that idea. At the meeting they said there are other > kids in her class that would also be getting services so Rain > wouldn't be singled out. When I asked how many they couldn't tell > me. That's another problem because if the group of kids that are > getting services is large I don't see Rain doing well. I can just > see her trying to fade in the back of the group. > > We went back & forth on this for awhile. The ladies at the IEP > trying to convince us to go with having the services at preschool. > At one point one of them made some statements I have problems with. > She said since the Resource teacher was already there it was like she > was getting 2 1/2 hours of therapy when she goes because the Resource > teacher helps plan the class. Well if that's true why wouldn't I > want her to get services at home because that's an extra hour of > services she could get. Then she made the statement that if we chose > services at home she may only get 60 minutes every 2 weeks. Her IEP > says 60 minutes a week! How can they change that just because we > want home services instead of preschool. If she wasn't in preschool > they wouldn't have a choice. Another thing that bothers me is when > we were first transitioning Sky from the birth - 3 program into the > school district program we were going over Sky's options. At that > point we didn't know if Sky would be going to special ed preschool or > a regular preschool. They told me if they recommended the resource > program at regular preschool they would cover the cost of preschool. > No one mentioned that to us yesterday regarding Rain! > > After going back & forth they told us we didn't have to make a > decision on location right then. We all agreed on the Resource > program & the location was something we could work out with the > teacher. So we signed the IEP. It doesn't state anywhere on the IEP > the location so I'm o.k. with signing it. We made sure they > explained every little thing on the IEP even items that weren't > checked off. We didn't want to find out later that they had > purposely mislead us. So now I have to wait for the resource teacher > to call me. I'm actually thinking about asking for her Monday when I > drop Rain off. I'm not comfortable agreeing to something when I > don't know anything about it or how it's carried out in the > classroom. That's another thing that really bothered me. Why wasn't > someone from the resource program at our IEP who could explain the > ins & outs?!? They did the same thing to us when we did Sky's IEP. > No one from the school was there so we were left with a lot of > unanswered questions. I can't figure out why they don't have these > people present during first time IEPs. So anyway I know some of you > have a lot of experience with these things am I being difficult or is > there something we're not getting? Or do you think we're right for > asking for services at home? I just feel like if I'm present during > services I can do more for Rain in between services. After all I'm > the one who provides the most therapy for my girls. If you made it > to the bottom of this post thanks for listening & I'm open to any > advise or suggestions. > Wendie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, the first thought I had was for Rain to go an extra day of preschool and that be her day devoted to therapy. The other thing I thought of is after you talk with the teacher to request another IEP meeting with the teacher at the meeting, I would make sure I requested this meeting in writing with the list of individual names. I never understood why they try to keep therapists out of meetings, either. If anyone needs to be there, they do! If you feel that home is the most appropriate setting for her, then stand by that. I'm betting they are trying to get it inschool to save the teacher time in commuting so she can have enough time for her kid load, but I don't know. Perhaps another thing you could do is a get a statement from her ped saying that home is most appropriate, and you could sight " natural setting " stuff they use in Early Intervention, don't know if it's applicable here or not. Good luck and keep your cool for now! Debi > Hey guys I really need some advise. We recently had Sky's twin > sister, Rain, evaluated through the school district. We found out > she's delayed in fine motor skills & borderline on gross motor > skills. As for her speech she scored between 24-31 months on > receptive & 20 months on expressive. I felt like her expressive > language was delayed, but I didn't realize she was that far behind. > I forgot to mention the girls are 31 months old. > > So yesterday we have Rain's IEP. We didn't have any problems setting > the goals & objectives for speech & fine motor. We all seemed to be > on the same page & it went smoothly. The part I'm worrying over is > where she will recieve therapy. They want to put Rain in the > Rescource program which I'm fine with, but they want her to recieve > services while she's at preschool. She just started preschool 2 > weeks ago. She only goes 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. The main > reason we decided to put Rain in preschool at this early age was so > she could be around more NT kids her age. Plus Rain is extremely shy > & will not talk around people she doesn't know. We would like Rain > to recieve services at home for now. The preschool Rain goes to has > a resource teacher there everyday so I know it would be easier for > them for her to get services there, but this is supposed to be about > what's best for Rain not the teacher. I feel like if she got > services at preschool she would be pulled away from the other kids & > I don't like that idea. At the meeting they said there are other > kids in her class that would also be getting services so Rain > wouldn't be singled out. When I asked how many they couldn't tell > me. That's another problem because if the group of kids that are > getting services is large I don't see Rain doing well. I can just > see her trying to fade in the back of the group. > > We went back & forth on this for awhile. The ladies at the IEP > trying to convince us to go with having the services at preschool. > At one point one of them made some statements I have problems with. > She said since the Resource teacher was already there it was like she > was getting 2 1/2 hours of therapy when she goes because the Resource > teacher helps plan the class. Well if that's true why wouldn't I > want her to get services at home because that's an extra hour of > services she could get. Then she made the statement that if we chose > services at home she may only get 60 minutes every 2 weeks. Her IEP > says 60 minutes a week! How can they change that just because we > want home services instead of preschool. If she wasn't in preschool > they wouldn't have a choice. Another thing that bothers me is when > we were first transitioning Sky from the birth - 3 program into the > school district program we were going over Sky's options. At that > point we didn't know if Sky would be going to special ed preschool or > a regular preschool. They told me if they recommended the resource > program at regular preschool they would cover the cost of preschool. > No one mentioned that to us yesterday regarding Rain! > > After going back & forth they told us we didn't have to make a > decision on location right then. We all agreed on the Resource > program & the location was something we could work out with the > teacher. So we signed the IEP. It doesn't state anywhere on the IEP > the location so I'm o.k. with signing it. We made sure they > explained every little thing on the IEP even items that weren't > checked off. We didn't want to find out later that they had > purposely mislead us. So now I have to wait for the resource teacher > to call me. I'm actually thinking about asking for her Monday when I > drop Rain off. I'm not comfortable agreeing to something when I > don't know anything about it or how it's carried out in the > classroom. That's another thing that really bothered me. Why wasn't > someone from the resource program at our IEP who could explain the > ins & outs?!? They did the same thing to us when we did Sky's IEP. > No one from the school was there so we were left with a lot of > unanswered questions. I can't figure out why they don't have these > people present during first time IEPs. So anyway I know some of you > have a lot of experience with these things am I being difficult or is > there something we're not getting? Or do you think we're right for > asking for services at home? I just feel like if I'm present during > services I can do more for Rain in between services. After all I'm > the one who provides the most therapy for my girls. If you made it > to the bottom of this post thanks for listening & I'm open to any > advise or suggestions. > Wendie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, the first thought I had was for Rain to go an extra day of preschool and that be her day devoted to therapy. The other thing I thought of is after you talk with the teacher to request another IEP meeting with the teacher at the meeting, I would make sure I requested this meeting in writing with the list of individual names. I never understood why they try to keep therapists out of meetings, either. If anyone needs to be there, they do! If you feel that home is the most appropriate setting for her, then stand by that. I'm betting they are trying to get it inschool to save the teacher time in commuting so she can have enough time for her kid load, but I don't know. Perhaps another thing you could do is a get a statement from her ped saying that home is most appropriate, and you could sight " natural setting " stuff they use in Early Intervention, don't know if it's applicable here or not. Good luck and keep your cool for now! Debi > Hey guys I really need some advise. We recently had Sky's twin > sister, Rain, evaluated through the school district. We found out > she's delayed in fine motor skills & borderline on gross motor > skills. As for her speech she scored between 24-31 months on > receptive & 20 months on expressive. I felt like her expressive > language was delayed, but I didn't realize she was that far behind. > I forgot to mention the girls are 31 months old. > > So yesterday we have Rain's IEP. We didn't have any problems setting > the goals & objectives for speech & fine motor. We all seemed to be > on the same page & it went smoothly. The part I'm worrying over is > where she will recieve therapy. They want to put Rain in the > Rescource program which I'm fine with, but they want her to recieve > services while she's at preschool. She just started preschool 2 > weeks ago. She only goes 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. The main > reason we decided to put Rain in preschool at this early age was so > she could be around more NT kids her age. Plus Rain is extremely shy > & will not talk around people she doesn't know. We would like Rain > to recieve services at home for now. The preschool Rain goes to has > a resource teacher there everyday so I know it would be easier for > them for her to get services there, but this is supposed to be about > what's best for Rain not the teacher. I feel like if she got > services at preschool she would be pulled away from the other kids & > I don't like that idea. At the meeting they said there are other > kids in her class that would also be getting services so Rain > wouldn't be singled out. When I asked how many they couldn't tell > me. That's another problem because if the group of kids that are > getting services is large I don't see Rain doing well. I can just > see her trying to fade in the back of the group. > > We went back & forth on this for awhile. The ladies at the IEP > trying to convince us to go with having the services at preschool. > At one point one of them made some statements I have problems with. > She said since the Resource teacher was already there it was like she > was getting 2 1/2 hours of therapy when she goes because the Resource > teacher helps plan the class. Well if that's true why wouldn't I > want her to get services at home because that's an extra hour of > services she could get. Then she made the statement that if we chose > services at home she may only get 60 minutes every 2 weeks. Her IEP > says 60 minutes a week! How can they change that just because we > want home services instead of preschool. If she wasn't in preschool > they wouldn't have a choice. Another thing that bothers me is when > we were first transitioning Sky from the birth - 3 program into the > school district program we were going over Sky's options. At that > point we didn't know if Sky would be going to special ed preschool or > a regular preschool. They told me if they recommended the resource > program at regular preschool they would cover the cost of preschool. > No one mentioned that to us yesterday regarding Rain! > > After going back & forth they told us we didn't have to make a > decision on location right then. We all agreed on the Resource > program & the location was something we could work out with the > teacher. So we signed the IEP. It doesn't state anywhere on the IEP > the location so I'm o.k. with signing it. We made sure they > explained every little thing on the IEP even items that weren't > checked off. We didn't want to find out later that they had > purposely mislead us. So now I have to wait for the resource teacher > to call me. I'm actually thinking about asking for her Monday when I > drop Rain off. I'm not comfortable agreeing to something when I > don't know anything about it or how it's carried out in the > classroom. That's another thing that really bothered me. Why wasn't > someone from the resource program at our IEP who could explain the > ins & outs?!? They did the same thing to us when we did Sky's IEP. > No one from the school was there so we were left with a lot of > unanswered questions. I can't figure out why they don't have these > people present during first time IEPs. So anyway I know some of you > have a lot of experience with these things am I being difficult or is > there something we're not getting? Or do you think we're right for > asking for services at home? I just feel like if I'm present during > services I can do more for Rain in between services. After all I'm > the one who provides the most therapy for my girls. If you made it > to the bottom of this post thanks for listening & I'm open to any > advise or suggestions. > Wendie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, the first thought I had was for Rain to go an extra day of preschool and that be her day devoted to therapy. The other thing I thought of is after you talk with the teacher to request another IEP meeting with the teacher at the meeting, I would make sure I requested this meeting in writing with the list of individual names. I never understood why they try to keep therapists out of meetings, either. If anyone needs to be there, they do! If you feel that home is the most appropriate setting for her, then stand by that. I'm betting they are trying to get it inschool to save the teacher time in commuting so she can have enough time for her kid load, but I don't know. Perhaps another thing you could do is a get a statement from her ped saying that home is most appropriate, and you could sight " natural setting " stuff they use in Early Intervention, don't know if it's applicable here or not. Good luck and keep your cool for now! Debi > Hey guys I really need some advise. We recently had Sky's twin > sister, Rain, evaluated through the school district. We found out > she's delayed in fine motor skills & borderline on gross motor > skills. As for her speech she scored between 24-31 months on > receptive & 20 months on expressive. I felt like her expressive > language was delayed, but I didn't realize she was that far behind. > I forgot to mention the girls are 31 months old. > > So yesterday we have Rain's IEP. We didn't have any problems setting > the goals & objectives for speech & fine motor. We all seemed to be > on the same page & it went smoothly. The part I'm worrying over is > where she will recieve therapy. They want to put Rain in the > Rescource program which I'm fine with, but they want her to recieve > services while she's at preschool. She just started preschool 2 > weeks ago. She only goes 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. The main > reason we decided to put Rain in preschool at this early age was so > she could be around more NT kids her age. Plus Rain is extremely shy > & will not talk around people she doesn't know. We would like Rain > to recieve services at home for now. The preschool Rain goes to has > a resource teacher there everyday so I know it would be easier for > them for her to get services there, but this is supposed to be about > what's best for Rain not the teacher. I feel like if she got > services at preschool she would be pulled away from the other kids & > I don't like that idea. At the meeting they said there are other > kids in her class that would also be getting services so Rain > wouldn't be singled out. When I asked how many they couldn't tell > me. That's another problem because if the group of kids that are > getting services is large I don't see Rain doing well. I can just > see her trying to fade in the back of the group. > > We went back & forth on this for awhile. The ladies at the IEP > trying to convince us to go with having the services at preschool. > At one point one of them made some statements I have problems with. > She said since the Resource teacher was already there it was like she > was getting 2 1/2 hours of therapy when she goes because the Resource > teacher helps plan the class. Well if that's true why wouldn't I > want her to get services at home because that's an extra hour of > services she could get. Then she made the statement that if we chose > services at home she may only get 60 minutes every 2 weeks. Her IEP > says 60 minutes a week! How can they change that just because we > want home services instead of preschool. If she wasn't in preschool > they wouldn't have a choice. Another thing that bothers me is when > we were first transitioning Sky from the birth - 3 program into the > school district program we were going over Sky's options. At that > point we didn't know if Sky would be going to special ed preschool or > a regular preschool. They told me if they recommended the resource > program at regular preschool they would cover the cost of preschool. > No one mentioned that to us yesterday regarding Rain! > > After going back & forth they told us we didn't have to make a > decision on location right then. We all agreed on the Resource > program & the location was something we could work out with the > teacher. So we signed the IEP. It doesn't state anywhere on the IEP > the location so I'm o.k. with signing it. We made sure they > explained every little thing on the IEP even items that weren't > checked off. We didn't want to find out later that they had > purposely mislead us. So now I have to wait for the resource teacher > to call me. I'm actually thinking about asking for her Monday when I > drop Rain off. I'm not comfortable agreeing to something when I > don't know anything about it or how it's carried out in the > classroom. That's another thing that really bothered me. Why wasn't > someone from the resource program at our IEP who could explain the > ins & outs?!? They did the same thing to us when we did Sky's IEP. > No one from the school was there so we were left with a lot of > unanswered questions. I can't figure out why they don't have these > people present during first time IEPs. So anyway I know some of you > have a lot of experience with these things am I being difficult or is > there something we're not getting? Or do you think we're right for > asking for services at home? I just feel like if I'm present during > services I can do more for Rain in between services. After all I'm > the one who provides the most therapy for my girls. If you made it > to the bottom of this post thanks for listening & I'm open to any > advise or suggestions. > Wendie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Wendie, the first thought I had was for Rain to go an extra day of preschool and that be her day devoted to therapy. The other thing I thought of is after you talk with the teacher to request another IEP meeting with the teacher at the meeting, I would make sure I requested this meeting in writing with the list of individual names. I never understood why they try to keep therapists out of meetings, either. If anyone needs to be there, they do! If you feel that home is the most appropriate setting for her, then stand by that. I'm betting they are trying to get it inschool to save the teacher time in commuting so she can have enough time for her kid load, but I don't know. Perhaps another thing you could do is a get a statement from her ped saying that home is most appropriate, and you could sight " natural setting " stuff they use in Early Intervention, don't know if it's applicable here or not. Good luck and keep your cool for now! Debi > Hey guys I really need some advise. We recently had Sky's twin > sister, Rain, evaluated through the school district. We found out > she's delayed in fine motor skills & borderline on gross motor > skills. As for her speech she scored between 24-31 months on > receptive & 20 months on expressive. I felt like her expressive > language was delayed, but I didn't realize she was that far behind. > I forgot to mention the girls are 31 months old. > > So yesterday we have Rain's IEP. We didn't have any problems setting > the goals & objectives for speech & fine motor. We all seemed to be > on the same page & it went smoothly. The part I'm worrying over is > where she will recieve therapy. They want to put Rain in the > Rescource program which I'm fine with, but they want her to recieve > services while she's at preschool. She just started preschool 2 > weeks ago. She only goes 2 days a week for 2 1/2 hours. The main > reason we decided to put Rain in preschool at this early age was so > she could be around more NT kids her age. Plus Rain is extremely shy > & will not talk around people she doesn't know. We would like Rain > to recieve services at home for now. The preschool Rain goes to has > a resource teacher there everyday so I know it would be easier for > them for her to get services there, but this is supposed to be about > what's best for Rain not the teacher. I feel like if she got > services at preschool she would be pulled away from the other kids & > I don't like that idea. At the meeting they said there are other > kids in her class that would also be getting services so Rain > wouldn't be singled out. When I asked how many they couldn't tell > me. That's another problem because if the group of kids that are > getting services is large I don't see Rain doing well. I can just > see her trying to fade in the back of the group. > > We went back & forth on this for awhile. The ladies at the IEP > trying to convince us to go with having the services at preschool. > At one point one of them made some statements I have problems with. > She said since the Resource teacher was already there it was like she > was getting 2 1/2 hours of therapy when she goes because the Resource > teacher helps plan the class. Well if that's true why wouldn't I > want her to get services at home because that's an extra hour of > services she could get. Then she made the statement that if we chose > services at home she may only get 60 minutes every 2 weeks. Her IEP > says 60 minutes a week! How can they change that just because we > want home services instead of preschool. If she wasn't in preschool > they wouldn't have a choice. Another thing that bothers me is when > we were first transitioning Sky from the birth - 3 program into the > school district program we were going over Sky's options. At that > point we didn't know if Sky would be going to special ed preschool or > a regular preschool. They told me if they recommended the resource > program at regular preschool they would cover the cost of preschool. > No one mentioned that to us yesterday regarding Rain! > > After going back & forth they told us we didn't have to make a > decision on location right then. We all agreed on the Resource > program & the location was something we could work out with the > teacher. So we signed the IEP. It doesn't state anywhere on the IEP > the location so I'm o.k. with signing it. We made sure they > explained every little thing on the IEP even items that weren't > checked off. We didn't want to find out later that they had > purposely mislead us. So now I have to wait for the resource teacher > to call me. I'm actually thinking about asking for her Monday when I > drop Rain off. I'm not comfortable agreeing to something when I > don't know anything about it or how it's carried out in the > classroom. That's another thing that really bothered me. Why wasn't > someone from the resource program at our IEP who could explain the > ins & outs?!? They did the same thing to us when we did Sky's IEP. > No one from the school was there so we were left with a lot of > unanswered questions. I can't figure out why they don't have these > people present during first time IEPs. So anyway I know some of you > have a lot of experience with these things am I being difficult or is > there something we're not getting? Or do you think we're right for > asking for services at home? I just feel like if I'm present during > services I can do more for Rain in between services. After all I'm > the one who provides the most therapy for my girls. If you made it > to the bottom of this post thanks for listening & I'm open to any > advise or suggestions. > Wendie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 Sondra, thank you so much for replying to me & giving me all this information to think about. I must admit I don't know a lot about Aspie kids because Sky doesn't fall into that catergory, so this is very helpful. You really made me more aware of things, which makes me want to keep a closer eye on Rain. Wendie > many Aspie kids do met milestones or are of slight delays in areas but > become more prominent as they develop more. So by age 6 it will more clear > if she is but before this unless she is to be much more prominent now it > might not be seen or understood this is why you hear of some with ASD who > are not dx until much older like age 10-14. My oldest two are like that had > some odd things that were pronounced ands such but were overlooked all thems > years. Isaiah was dx at age 14. Aimee is in processof evaluations but > current counselor says she is very , very high functioning aspergers which > boarders lines of normal in many areas unless one looks at the emotional and > social things and the executive functions and her thinking process. She is > there but female version, so this throws much professionals off on her. > Except the female professional we have sought who has adult brother on > spectrum so she can see. She to say Aimee is extremely resistive and this is > due to lack of her awareness anything is of wrong to her at this point in > life Aimee is failing in most areas of life and she still does not see that > she has any problems but the problem is with everyone else. Even when she to > be scratching her behind in public places she just does not see this as > being wrong socially since it is her bottom. To just walking into her > friends houses without knocking as Aimee thinks because it is her friend she > can just walk in well now the family things she is rude and doesn't want her > around so another failed relationship in friendships. It is so much sad to > be of parent and see her blindly self destructive behavior that she is very > resistant to have any teach or cue her in. She to be to even tell me today > she is upset how everyone is reacting to this event in the home as it was to > be only her problem and not everyone else since she was the one they called > names. And that we to have no right to be of upset and intervene. She lacks > understanding at all how this to effected the family as whole, as she sees > it as it should only effect her. I to tried to tell her she is my child > therefore it effects me as I to be worried for her she to say well that is > stupid because they didn't call me a name so I should not be effected at all > so you can see the lack of getting it. This is and has always been Aimee's > way of thinking but we lacked in the early years to understand this thinking > aAimee was of spoiled and self centered and controlling and such but we now > understand that this is how her ASD is presenting itself in her. She too > bites off all her nails from anxiety and stress. Her logical thinking is > strong , but it is her logic and not a true form of acceptable logic such as > to scratch her behind with her hands in her pants in public and such because > her logic it itches, it is her bottom therefore she has a right to scratch > it. Not acceptable login in society standards. So we are to now be > hopefully to get right supports for the family as a whole. I to tried to get > to prosecutors office today but not able to find it yet. So will try again. > I to writed out my words and much stressed in speaking to them since my own > language can be of such scattered under stress, but the husband has no time > to take off for days to do this. > Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2003 Report Share Posted September 13, 2003 I just want to say I DID NOT post that all those times, lol. Yahoo! must be trying to have some fun with us! Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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