Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Hi Dena- You are definitely in our prayers. Please don't look at this as giving up. You aren't locking your mom up so you don't have to see her. You are assuring her care and safety and are still able to care for her and love her just the same. Love and hugs - Kia Kaha (Stay Strong) Sandie and Des Moines, IA -- Looking for a NH Hi Everyone I have decided that it is time to find a nursing home for my Mom. I called several today and found that they would not expect her since she had Kaiser Ins. and was on Kaiser Hospice. It was rather frustrating. So I called the Hospice SW and he gave me several that Kaiser does contract with. Tomorrow I start the search. Please be praying that I find the right one the first time and do not have to change her over and over. My mom is now bedridden. I have been so frustrated because I cannot get the DAMN!! diaper on her right. She is dead weight and does not roll well and it is soooo hard with just one person. I ripped three diapers trying and went back to the pull up type of diaper and believe it or not that worked better. Also she gets scrunched down in the bed and as one person again I cannot move her up without being at the head of the bed which is really almost impossible. So I get her up to standing and try to get a side step going and move her up which is way too hard on her. I cried all day yesterday with frustration. I just give up. Maybe I am not a strong enough person, maybe I just don't want to do this anymore. I don't know, but I do know that I am having anxiety attacks in the middle of the night, I can't eat and I feel sick in general. I guess that means it is time. I have done the absolute best I can for 10 months. I have changed my life for my mom, by quitting my job and being her full time caregiver. I would do it all again in a heart beat. I am not a quitter and this REALLY hurts me to give up. At least I feel like I am giving up. Sorry Mom!! Being bedridden is really harder than you think it will be. So Kaiser will give me 5 days respite and then transfer her to a facility or back home. I will let them know next week. I just ask that you all pray for me and that I make the right choice. Thanks. Dena __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2006 Report Share Posted March 3, 2006 Hi Sandie Your words have made me feel better. I just have to remember to look at that way. Thank you for your prayers too. God Bless. Dena --- Sandie wrote: > Hi Dena- > > You are definitely in our prayers. Please don't > look at > this as giving up. You aren't locking your mom up > so > you don't have to see her. You are assuring her > care > and safety and are still able to care for her and > love > her just the same. > > Love and hugs - Kia Kaha (Stay Strong) > > Sandie and > Des Moines, IA > > -- Looking for a NH > > Hi Everyone > > I have decided that it is time to find a nursing > home > for my Mom. I called several today and found that > they > would not expect her since she had Kaiser Ins. and > was > on Kaiser Hospice. It was rather frustrating. So I > called the Hospice SW and he gave me several that > Kaiser does contract with. Tomorrow I start the > search. Please be praying that I find the right one > the first time and do not have to change her over > and > over. > > My mom is now bedridden. I have been so frustrated > because I cannot get the DAMN!! diaper on her right. > She is dead weight and does not roll well and it is > soooo hard with just one person. I ripped three > diapers trying and went back to the pull up type of > diaper and believe it or not that worked better. > Also > she gets scrunched down in the bed and as one person > again I cannot move her up without being at the head > of the bed which is really almost impossible. So I > get > her up to standing and try to get a side step going > and move her up which is way too hard on her. I > cried > all day yesterday with frustration. I just give up. > Maybe I am not a strong enough person, maybe I just > don't want to do this anymore. I don't know, but I > do > know that I am having anxiety attacks in the middle > of > the night, I can't eat and I feel sick in general. I > guess that means it is time. I have done the > absolute > best I can for 10 months. I have changed my life for > my mom, by quitting my job and being her full time > caregiver. I would do it all again in a heart beat. > I > am not a quitter and this REALLY hurts me to give > up. > At least I feel like I am giving up. Sorry Mom!! > Being > bedridden is really harder than you think it will > be. > So Kaiser will give me 5 days respite and then > transfer her to a facility or back home. I will let > them know next week. I just ask that you all pray > for > me and that I make the right choice. Thanks. > > Dena > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2006 Report Share Posted March 3, 2006 Good morning Dena- Hoping you feel His strength and guidance as you make your phone calls. I said extra prayers for you last night and shall continue to do so. Many hugs to you- Sandie -- Looking for a NH > > Hi Everyone > > I have decided that it is time to find a nursing > home > for my Mom. I called several today and found that > they > would not expect her since she had Kaiser Ins. and > was > on Kaiser Hospice. It was rather frustrating. So I > called the Hospice SW and he gave me several that > Kaiser does contract with. Tomorrow I start the > search. Please be praying that I find the right one > the first time and do not have to change her over > and > over. > > My mom is now bedridden. I have been so frustrated > because I cannot get the DAMN!! diaper on her right. > She is dead weight and does not roll well and it is > soooo hard with just one person. I ripped three > diapers trying and went back to the pull up type of > diaper and believe it or not that worked better. > Also > she gets scrunched down in the bed and as one person > again I cannot move her up without being at the head > of the bed which is really almost impossible. So I > get > her up to standing and try to get a side step going > and move her up which is way too hard on her. I > cried > all day yesterday with frustration. I just give up. > Maybe I am not a strong enough person, maybe I just > don't want to do this anymore. I don't know, but I > do > know that I am having anxiety attacks in the middle > of > the night, I can't eat and I feel sick in general. I > guess that means it is time. I have done the > absolute > best I can for 10 months. I have changed my life for > my mom, by quitting my job and being her full time > caregiver. I would do it all again in a heart beat. > I > am not a quitter and this REALLY hurts me to give > up. > At least I feel like I am giving up. Sorry Mom!! > Being > bedridden is really harder than you think it will > be. > So Kaiser will give me 5 days respite and then > transfer her to a facility or back home. I will let > them know next week. I just ask that you all pray > for > me and that I make the right choice. Thanks. > > Dena > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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