Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 Dena, Thanks for the input. I only have trouble handling it when I'm having a bad day. I too have a problem understanding my Mother. She invents words or uses the wrong words. She also gets frustrated when I tell her I don't understand and I start asking 20 questions. I've gotten really good at guessing what she wants, but not always. I think that when she gets mad, she can find the right words, but by that time their not very nice words. I know she loves me. When she sees me her face lights up. Several times she has said " God bless America " when she sees me. Exelon really helped my Mother with communication. Before the Exelon, my Mother was like yours and only rarely could you understand her. I hope she doesn't get that way again, but odds are she will. in Dallas > > > When I go to visit my Mother at the nursing home, > > she is very excited > > to see me. Usually during the visit, she will end up > > telling me that > > she's going to kill me or telling me that I'm > > worthless. Also, when I > > tell her that I lover her, she will say she doesn't > > believe it. > > > > Once when I was leaving, she said, " Got to H*ll " . I > > told her that no > > matter how bad she talked to me that I still loved > > her. She told me > > that what she had said wasn't bad. I asked her for > > confirmation that > > telling me to go to h*ll wasn't bad and she assured > > me that it wasn't > > bad. Every time I call her on something bad she has > > said to me she > > tells me that she didn't mean it that way. It must > > be Lewy Logic > > (oxymoron). > > > > Just remember that they love you enough to take it > > out on you. Also, > > my Mother will occasionally say that she's the > > Mother meaning that she > > wants to be in control and not me. I try to give her > > as much control > > as possible and treat her like an adult, but it's > > not always possible. > > > > The " verbal abuse " is one of the hardest things for > > me to handle. I > > have gotten a lot better at handling it and I try > > not to hear the bad > > things she says. Kind of like husbands that filter > > out what their > > wives are saying. Down deep I know she loves me and > > occasionally she > > will tell me that she loves me. > > > > I also have trouble when my Mother fights me when > > I'm trying to do > > something she wants me to do like helping her into > > bed. Once again, > > that Lewy Logic get in the way. > > > > For a long time, the Exelon, Namenda, Seroquel and > > Zoloft kept her > > calmer and more cooperative. They are not helping as > > much now and > > we're having more trouble with her being agitated > > and uncooperative. > > She's also sleeping more, so I believe that she > > starting to enter that > > final stage. > > > > in Dallas > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 exelon has a great caregiver support system where they will call y9ou and help you with the trials and tribulatoims of dementia, tho they are geared towards alz they are very interested in learning about our lo reaction to the med that number is 1-877-memory4. i highly recommend it. also wehn the exelon seems to lose its effectiveness we had namenda added to dads meds but unfortunately teh orthostatic bp drops were to much so we had to take dad off of all dementia meds as they tend to cause lower bp. fyi -- Re: Dena - Mothers Dena, Thanks for the input. I only have trouble handling it when I'm having a bad day. I too have a problem understanding my Mother. She invents words or uses the wrong words. She also gets frustrated when I tell her I don't understand and I start asking 20 questions. I've gotten really good at guessing what she wants, but not always. I think that when she gets mad, she can find the right words, but by that time their not very nice words. I know she loves me. When she sees me her face lights up. Several times she has said " God bless America " when she sees me. Exelon really helped my Mother with communication. Before the Exelon, my Mother was like yours and only rarely could you understand her. I hope she doesn't get that way again, but odds are she will. in Dallas > > > When I go to visit my Mother at the nursing home, > > she is very excited > > to see me. Usually during the visit, she will end up > > telling me that > > she's going to kill me or telling me that I'm > > worthless. Also, when I > > tell her that I lover her, she will say she doesn't > > believe it. > > > > Once when I was leaving, she said, " Got to H*ll " . I > > told her that no > > matter how bad she talked to me that I still loved > > her. She told me > > that what she had said wasn't bad. I asked her for > > confirmation that > > telling me to go to h*ll wasn't bad and she assured > > me that it wasn't > > bad. Every time I call her on something bad she has > > said to me she > > tells me that she didn't mean it that way. It must > > be Lewy Logic > > (oxymoron). > > > > Just remember that they love you enough to take it > > out on you. Also, > > my Mother will occasionally say that she's the > > Mother meaning that she > > wants to be in control and not me. I try to give her > > as much control > > as possible and treat her like an adult, but it's > > not always possible. > > > > The " verbal abuse " is one of the hardest things for > > me to handle. I > > have gotten a lot better at handling it and I try > > not to hear the bad > > things she says. Kind of like husbands that filter > > out what their > > wives are saying. Down deep I know she loves me and > > occasionally she > > will tell me that she loves me. > > > > I also have trouble when my Mother fights me when > > I'm trying to do > > something she wants me to do like helping her into > > bed. Once again, > > that Lewy Logic get in the way. > > > > For a long time, the Exelon, Namenda, Seroquel and > > Zoloft kept her > > calmer and more cooperative. They are not helping as > > much now and > > we're having more trouble with her being agitated > > and uncooperative. > > She's also sleeping more, so I believe that she > > starting to enter that > > final stage. > > > > in Dallas > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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