Guest guest Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 Dena, It would be interesting to call the funeral home after their " prices " go up to see if this is true. If not, I'd put in a complaint and let them know that you are doing it. Sorry that you had to go through this. Courage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 When my Grandmother died, we took her back to her home town to be buried. The town was small and in a rural area. We used a local funeral home and they wanted a slip to go under her dress. It wasn't a dress that would really need a slip, but they thought it was proper for her to have a slip, so we went to a local store and bought one. We have chuckled over that many times. in Dallas > > > > > > > > > > II hate to ask this, but why does someone need underwear in the coffin.? > > And isn't it just necessary to have something to the waist.? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 When my Dad died the funeral home was explaining about clothes. They said " bring underware and sock - shoes are optional " . We chuckled about that many times over the difficult days. Dad hadn't worn his glasses for several months, but he wore them in the casket. We were told that after the viewing the glasses could be removed to be donated to the Lion's Club Eyeglass Bank. Also, just before they closed the casket, his tie was removed and given to my brother. This was something my mom and brother had worked out ahead of time. in WA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 Hi Gerry You said " They hit you when you are down " Is that not the most wrong thing you have ever heard? It is the lowest of the lows. I wonder if they can sleep at night? So sad to think that MONEY is involved in everything we do. Thanks for your thoughts about the sign in book too. (Dean was my father) Dena --- Gerry Deverell wrote: > Dean- > > My Mother and Dad made their funeral decisons 5 > years prior to Dad's death. The day Dad died, we > went to the funeral home and reviewed the > selections. We also looked at all the other caskets > and after doing so, went with Mom ad Dad's > selections. One thing that I found odd that they > did not want was a sign in book. I debated my > Mother over this issue. I told her everyone has > one. She said " what d you do with it afterwards? > Throw it in a drawer. " I said you may not remember > who came to the funeral. She said " So I won't > remember. " " It was a lost cause. Now my Mother is > sorry, because she really can't remembr who was > there. I really tried to stay focused that day, > taking in every detail, but I can't remember all > that attended either. So when making your plans, > please include the sign in book. > > Several weeks after the service, the funeral > director encouraged my Mother to prepay up front for > her funeral services, because prices would go up. > My Mother considered it, but my Mom is a financial > wizard and probably could make more money investing > it.. But the good thing, is that her choices are in > writing. However, she will have a sign in book! I > think it is a sales gimmick to tell the bereaved > customer, you better buy now. They hit you when you > are down. > > Gerry > > > Funeral Homes > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone > > > > > > My Mom was admitted to hospice on January > 10Th of > > > this > > > year. As some of you know a RN is assigned > to your > > > case as well as DR, social worker and Home > Health > > > comes out to do the baths. Well, the social > worker > > > has > > > been here twice and has asked me to go to > the > > > Mortuary > > > and alert them that my mom was on hospice. > So..... > > > I > > > stopped by last Friday. I just popped in > while I > > > was > > > running my usual errands. I had NO idea what > I was > > > in > > > for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you > so > > > may > > > have to do this at some point. This is just > my > > > advise > > > so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with > > > you!!! I > > > was all alone and it was not fun. I walked > in and > > > was > > > ushered to a room and a very nice lady got > my > > > mom's > > > file as she has a plot next to my father at > this > > > cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the > > > cemetery. > > > They could see that everything for the > cemetery > > > had > > > been paid for. So she placed a book in front > of me > > > and > > > started showing me caskets and then a book > with > > > flowers and flower packages to purchase. I > was > > > really > > > to run out to my car and when I started to > bolt > > > she > > > said. " You may want to reconsider and pick > > > something > > > today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on > > > Monday. " > > > So I started a monthly plan and picked the > items > > > out. > > > I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that > was not > > > enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took > out > > > the > > > items and explained what each one was for. A > bag > > > for > > > her clothes to be buried in etc... I will > spare > > > you > === message truncated === __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 Hi Courage Good Idea!!! I think I will wait a week or so and call. Dena --- gaat wrote: > Dena, > > It would be interesting to call the funeral home > after their " prices " go > up to see if this is true. If not, I'd put in a > complaint and let them > know that you are doing it. Sorry that you had to > go through this. > Courage > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 After I thought about it for a bit, Dena, not only the Hospice should have been more careful, but the funeral home also. Sounds like they didn't ask what you were prepared to do that day. Donna R Do you want to read more about Lewy Body? You can also read the Thistle, the LBD Newsletter. Just click on: http://www.lewybodydementia.org Re: Funeral Homes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2006 Report Share Posted February 23, 2006 When my dad passed away - I purchased him a new white button-down shirt and new socks for his final outfit - all of his socks had holes in the big toe and his shirts had ring around the collar (typical of dear ole dad) It was therapeutic to do this for him... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2006 Report Share Posted February 23, 2006 My dad was part of the Laurel & Hardy fan club - he even had a member card in his wallet - I put dad's Laurel & Hardy tie in his pocket. > > When my Dad died the funeral home was explaining about clothes. They said " bring underware and sock - shoes are optional " . We chuckled about that many times over the difficult days. > > Dad hadn't worn his glasses for several months, but he wore them in the casket. We were told that after the viewing the glasses could be removed to be donated to the Lion's Club Eyeglass Bank. Also, just before they closed the casket, his tie was removed and given to my brother. This was something my mom and brother had worked out ahead of time. > > in WA > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2006 Report Share Posted February 23, 2006 Hi Donna If the social worker would have said go to the funeral home and make final arrangements I would have understood that. He just said go in and alert them that she is on hospice. Now that I think about it, what difference would it make to the funeral home if she was on hospice or not? I guess I am glad that it is done, but for the newcomers to here just beware. Dena --- Donna Mido wrote: > After I thought about it for a bit, Dena, not only > the Hospice should have been more careful, but the > funeral home also. Sounds like they didn't ask what > you were prepared to do that day. > > Donna R > > Do you want to read more about Lewy Body? You can > also read the Thistle, the LBD Newsletter. Just > click on: > > http://www.lewybodydementia.org > > > Re: Funeral Homes > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 my dad wanted to be buried in his favorite suit tie and shirt, the funeral home supplied underwear, i was so upset about dads wishes being buried in his blue suit and i toyed with buying him a new outfit but eevn in his will he stated he wanted ot be buried in his blue suit, so as moth bitten as it was, and yes the many cigarette burns he had in it, i colored the holes with navy blue marker and buried him in his favorite suit and actually all of the family all laughed about it and said that is exactly how they remembered my daddy with is cigareet burned suits, everyone said i did right except for my wannabe perfect mother who was embarassed and humiliated and made it a point to tell allthey have been divorced since 1988. sad huh. do what is right in your heart, worry not what oethers think just what you and your dad thought that is most important. i gave dads better clothes to the nursing home for those forgotten loved ones to use and enjoy. hugs sharon m pensacola, florida daughter/caregiver of Leonard, symptomatic from the early 1990's. we moved in with him 1/19/03. diagnosed 5/04 broke hip ball 7/5/05, asp pneumonia and lung blood clot 7/14/05, asp pneumonia and uti 8/05, passed away 9/25/05 -- Re: Funeral Homes When my dad passed away - I purchased him a new white button-down shirt and new socks for his final outfit - all of his socks had holes in the big toe and his shirts had ring around the collar (typical of dear ole dad) It was therapeutic to do this for him... Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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