Re: Funeral Homes

[Guest guest]

Dena-

I really think you should let the hospice Social Worker/her supervisor know

about your experience. It was totally inappropriate that you were thrust into

this situation without being prepared as to what to expect.

XXXOOO

Gerry

Funeral Homes

Hi Everyone

My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of this

year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker has

been here twice and has asked me to go to the Mortuary

and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So..... I

stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I was

running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was in

for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so may

have to do this at some point. This is just my advise

so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with you!!! I

was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and was

ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my mom's

file as she has a plot next to my father at this

cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the cemetery.

They could see that everything for the cemetery had

been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me and

started showing me caskets and then a book with

flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was really

to run out to my car and when I started to bolt she

said. " You may want to reconsider and pick something

today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on Monday. "

So I started a monthly plan and picked the items out.

I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out the

items and explained what each one was for. A bag for

her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare you

with details. Just be prepared and take someone alone

with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

this. The social worker just said to stop by and alert

them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run to

the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I was

totally creeped out. I know it has to be done etc...

but I would have walked in with my husband and had a

total different mind set. Than let me pop in before I

hit Costco and the grocery store.

So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and gloom,

but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has to

deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps the

next person along.

Dena

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the heads up. We have done nothing regarding this and we

need to add this to our 'To Do' list. It's such a depressing thought,

but needs to be done nonetheless. My mother had mentioned an outfit

she said she wanted to be her 'funeral outfit' back in the summer, of

course for the life of me I can't remember what it was and all her

clothes are in a storage facility right now... We also don't know her

final wishes - mom had always given suggestions for years - but they

were always different. One minute she wants to be cremated and her

ashes thrown in the water in the Dominican Republic, the next minute

she wants to be buried... It's actually a comical discussion - b/c at

one point she wanted us to kill the dog and bury the dog with her

(This was a different family dog at the time of the discussion. She

read that the Mexicans believed that chiuauas lead the deceased to

heaven - but the family dog was a mutt and I warned her that the

rottweiler blood it also had might lead her to hell LOL) Anyway,

luckily I have my sister who would share this decision making

responsibility with - one of these days..

>

> Hi Everyone

>

> My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of this

> year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

> case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

> comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker has

> been here twice and has asked me to go to the Mortuary

> and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So..... I

> stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I was

> running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was in

> for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so may

> have to do this at some point. This is just my advise

> so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with you!!! I

> was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and was

> ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my mom's

> file as she has a plot next to my father at this

> cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the cemetery.

> They could see that everything for the cemetery had

> been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me and

> started showing me caskets and then a book with

> flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was really

> to run out to my car and when I started to bolt she

> said. " You may want to reconsider and pick something

> today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on Monday. "

> So I started a monthly plan and picked the items out.

> I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

> enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out the

> items and explained what each one was for. A bag for

> her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare you

> with details. Just be prepared and take someone alone

> with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

> this. The social worker just said to stop by and alert

> them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run to

> the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I was

> totally creeped out. I know it has to be done etc...

> but I would have walked in with my husband and had a

> total different mind set. Than let me pop in before I

> hit Costco and the grocery store.

>

> So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and gloom,

> but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has to

> deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps the

> next person along.

>

> Dena

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Dena,

I totally agree with Gerry. Someone needs to know. It should never have been

done that way.

Donna R

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Re: Funeral Homes

[Guest guest]

Hi Gerry

I plan to do just that. On his next visit I will " let

me know " what I really want to say is " let him have

it " It was just unnerving to me to pick out a casket

when my mom is still alive. Maybe it does not bother

some, but it did me. And I wondered if the funeral

home was telling me about the price increase or did

they just want a sell. I hope they would not do that.

I am becoming a skeptic I guess. But it's done now.

Dena

--- Gerry Deverell wrote:

>

> Dena-

> I really think you should let the hospice Social

> Worker/her supervisor know about your experience.

> It was totally inappropriate that you were thrust

> into this situation without being prepared as to

> what to expect.

> XXXOOO

> Gerry

>

>

> Funeral Homes

>

>

> Hi Everyone

>

> My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of

> this

> year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

> case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

> comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker

> has

> been here twice and has asked me to go to the

> Mortuary

> and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So.....

> I

> stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I

> was

> running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was

> in

> for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so

> may

> have to do this at some point. This is just my

> advise

> so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with

> you!!! I

> was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and

> was

> ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my

> mom's

> file as she has a plot next to my father at this

> cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the

> cemetery.

> They could see that everything for the cemetery

> had

> been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me

> and

> started showing me caskets and then a book with

> flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was

> really

> to run out to my car and when I started to bolt

> she

> said. " You may want to reconsider and pick

> something

> today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on

> Monday. "

> So I started a monthly plan and picked the items

> out.

> I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

> enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out

> the

> items and explained what each one was for. A bag

> for

> her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare

> you

> with details. Just be prepared and take someone

> alone

> with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

> this. The social worker just said to stop by and

> alert

> them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run

> to

> the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I

> was

> totally creeped out. I know it has to be done

> etc...

> but I would have walked in with my husband and had

> a

> total different mind set. Than let me pop in

> before I

> hit Costco and the grocery store.

>

> So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and

> gloom,

> but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has

> to

> deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps

> the

> next person along.

>

> Dena

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Dena and ,

I couldn't agree more... Take someone with you and do it before.

I had to do this for my Mom after the fact. She died suddenly and

unexpectedly (massive heart attack). I wish we had things taken care

of prior to her passing because I was such a wreck while making all

the decisions. The people working with me were wonderful but I

wasn't able to grieve because I had to hold it together to take care

of everything... Needless to say I lost it after all was done and

she was burried. Everyone else (family) seemed to be able to go back

to normal life. I went into a deep depression. Took me awhile to

break out of it.

I need to take care of this for Dad (LBD) before his time so I don't

have to go through the same.

Thanks for the reminder and it's not morbid... We all have to go at

some point and it's a good idea to take care of this when you're not

in such an emotional state...

Hug's and prayer's to all,

Debbie

> >

> > Hi Everyone

> >

> > My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of this

> > year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

> > case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

> > comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker has

> > been here twice and has asked me to go to the Mortuary

> > and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So..... I

> > stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I was

> > running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was in

> > for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so may

> > have to do this at some point. This is just my advise

> > so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with you!!! I

> > was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and was

> > ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my mom's

> > file as she has a plot next to my father at this

> > cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the cemetery.

> > They could see that everything for the cemetery had

> > been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me and

> > started showing me caskets and then a book with

> > flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was really

> > to run out to my car and when I started to bolt she

> > said. " You may want to reconsider and pick something

> > today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on Monday. "

> > So I started a monthly plan and picked the items out.

> > I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

> > enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out the

> > items and explained what each one was for. A bag for

> > her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare you

> > with details. Just be prepared and take someone alone

> > with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

> > this. The social worker just said to stop by and alert

> > them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run to

> > the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I was

> > totally creeped out. I know it has to be done etc...

> > but I would have walked in with my husband and had a

> > total different mind set. Than let me pop in before I

> > hit Costco and the grocery store.

> >

> > So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and gloom,

> > but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has to

> > deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps the

> > next person along.

> >

> > Dena

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

II hate to ask this, but why does someone need underwear in the coffin.?

And isn't it just necessary to have something to the waist.?

[Guest guest]

Dena,

I feel so badly for what you went through with this experience. Personally, I

would have

walked away put into a pressure situation like that, to return with support and

the time

and mental preparation to put it all together.

My sister and I put things together with a funeral home for our mom last summer,

when

she appeared to be on her way, Sister was here from BC to say goodbye. Mom is

still with

us.

However, we went in by choice, knowing Mom's wishes, prepared to make those

final

decisions together, ahead of crisis. I rest easier knowing it is done, as she

and final

resting is an hour from my home, Sister having to travel from BC. It will make

the end

easier. I even have her clothing picked out, new underwear and all ready to go.

I did shed

a tear buying the underwear, thinking it was the last purchase I would make for

Mom, but

many more have been made since.

We were also hit with finalizing price wise, if the death is imminent, and if we

locked in we

could get their going rate as rates were going up soon. Now I know not what to

expect as

Mom continues to linger a slow decline. (PDD)

Of course there is marketing in the funeral business as much as we would prefer

not to

feel we've been taken advantage of. It is subtle, but they know they have a

market.

I hate what you feel but rest easy knowing these decisions have been made before

an even

more critical time emerges. It is a difficult beast to contend with.

Thinking of you.

, Oakville, Ont.

>

> >

> > Dena-

> > I really think you should let the hospice Social

> > Worker/her supervisor know about your experience.

> > It was totally inappropriate that you were thrust

> > into this situation without being prepared as to

> > what to expect.

> > XXXOOO

> > Gerry

> >

> >

> > Funeral Homes

> >

> >

> > Hi Everyone

> >

> > My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of

> > this

> > year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

> > case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

> > comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker

> > has

> > been here twice and has asked me to go to the

> > Mortuary

> > and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So.....

> > I

> > stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I

> > was

> > running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was

> > in

> > for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so

> > may

> > have to do this at some point. This is just my

> > advise

> > so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with

> > you!!! I

> > was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and

> > was

> > ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my

> > mom's

> > file as she has a plot next to my father at this

> > cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the

> > cemetery.

> > They could see that everything for the cemetery

> > had

> > been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me

> > and

> > started showing me caskets and then a book with

> > flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was

> > really

> > to run out to my car and when I started to bolt

> > she

> > said. " You may want to reconsider and pick

> > something

> > today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on

> > Monday. "

> > So I started a monthly plan and picked the items

> > out.

> > I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

> > enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out

> > the

> > items and explained what each one was for. A bag

> > for

> > her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare

> > you

> > with details. Just be prepared and take someone

> > alone

> > with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

> > this. The social worker just said to stop by and

> > alert

> > them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run

> > to

> > the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I

> > was

> > totally creeped out. I know it has to be done

> > etc...

> > but I would have walked in with my husband and had

> > a

> > total different mind set. Than let me pop in

> > before I

> > hit Costco and the grocery store.

> >

> > So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and

> > gloom,

> > but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has

> > to

> > deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps

> > the

> > next person along.

> >

> > Dena

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Donna

I plan on having a little talk with the social worker

on his next visit to the house. I am glad you agree.

Dena

--- Donna Mido wrote:

> Dena,

>

> I totally agree with Gerry. Someone needs to know.

> It should never have been done that way.

>

> Donna R

>

> Do you want to read more about Lewy Body? You can

> also read the Thistle, the LBD Newsletter. Just

> click on:

>

> http://www.lewybodydementia.org

>

>

> Re: Funeral Homes

>

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi

Thank you for your kind words. I am just hoping that

others will be a little more prepared than I was.

Dena

--- stimtimminss wrote:

> Dena,

> I feel so badly for what you went through with this

> experience. Personally, I would have

> walked away put into a pressure situation like that,

> to return with support and the time

> and mental preparation to put it all together.

> My sister and I put things together with a funeral

> home for our mom last summer, when

> she appeared to be on her way, Sister was here from

> BC to say goodbye. Mom is still with

> us.

> However, we went in by choice, knowing Mom's wishes,

> prepared to make those final

> decisions together, ahead of crisis. I rest easier

> knowing it is done, as she and final

> resting is an hour from my home, Sister having to

> travel from BC. It will make the end

> easier. I even have her clothing picked out, new

> underwear and all ready to go. I did shed

> a tear buying the underwear, thinking it was the

> last purchase I would make for Mom, but

> many more have been made since.

> We were also hit with finalizing price wise, if the

> death is imminent, and if we locked in we

> could get their going rate as rates were going up

> soon. Now I know not what to expect as

> Mom continues to linger a slow decline. (PDD)

> Of course there is marketing in the funeral business

> as much as we would prefer not to

> feel we've been taken advantage of. It is subtle,

> but they know they have a market.

> I hate what you feel but rest easy knowing these

> decisions have been made before an even

> more critical time emerges. It is a difficult beast

> to contend with.

> Thinking of you.

> , Oakville, Ont.

>

>

> >

> > >

> > > Dena-

> > > I really think you should let the hospice Social

> > > Worker/her supervisor know about your

> experience.

> > > It was totally inappropriate that you were

> thrust

> > > into this situation without being prepared as to

> > > what to expect.

> > > XXXOOO

> > > Gerry

> > >

> > >

> > > Funeral Homes

> > >

> > >

> > > Hi Everyone

> > >

> > > My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th

> of

> > > this

> > > year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to

> your

> > > case as well as DR, social worker and Home

> Health

> > > comes out to do the baths. Well, the social

> worker

> > > has

> > > been here twice and has asked me to go to the

> > > Mortuary

> > > and alert them that my mom was on hospice.

> So.....

> > > I

> > > stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while

> I

> > > was

> > > running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I

> was

> > > in

> > > for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you

> so

> > > may

> > > have to do this at some point. This is just my

> > > advise

> > > so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with

> > > you!!! I

> > > was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in

> and

> > > was

> > > ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my

> > > mom's

> > > file as she has a plot next to my father at

> this

> > > cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the

> > > cemetery.

> > > They could see that everything for the

> cemetery

> > > had

> > > been paid for. So she placed a book in front

> of me

> > > and

> > > started showing me caskets and then a book

> with

> > > flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was

> > > really

> > > to run out to my car and when I started to

> bolt

> > > she

> > > said. " You may want to reconsider and pick

> > > something

> > > today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on

> > > Monday. "

> > > So I started a monthly plan and picked the

> items

> > > out.

> > > I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was

> not

> > > enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took

> out

> > > the

> > > items and explained what each one was for. A

> bag

> > > for

> > > her clothes to be buried in etc... I will

> spare

> > > you

> > > with details. Just be prepared and take

> someone

> > > alone

> > > with you. I just had no idea that I would be

> doing

> > > this. The social worker just said to stop by

> and

> > > alert

> > > them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not

> run

> > > to

> > > the car and cry... but I did shutter, because

> I

> > > was

> > > totally creeped out. I know it has to be done

> > > etc...

> > > but I would have walked in with my husband and

> had

> > > a

> > > total different mind set. Than let me pop in

> > > before I

> > > hit Costco and the grocery store.

> > >

> > > So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and

> > > gloom,

> > > but just to prepare the next guy or girl who

> has

> > > to

> > > deal with all of this as I did. I hope this

> helps

> > > the

> > > next person along.

> > >

> > > Dena

> > >

> > >

> __________________________________________________

> > >

[Guest guest]

I just wanted Mom dressed in the way she would deem fit. Personally, I would

like to see

her in a cozy sweat suit, just to feel she is cozy in death. Each to his own in

this very final

decision. I am doing what feels right about who my Mom was.

>

>

>

>

> II hate to ask this, but why does someone need underwear in the coffin.?

> And isn't it just necessary to have something to the waist.?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dean-

My Mother and Dad made their funeral decisons 5 years prior to Dad's death. The

day Dad died, we went to the funeral home and reviewed the selections. We also

looked at all the other caskets and after doing so, went with Mom ad Dad's

selections. One thing that I found odd that they did not want was a sign in

book. I debated my Mother over this issue. I told her everyone has one. She

said " what d you do with it afterwards? Throw it in a drawer. " I said you may

not remember who came to the funeral. She said " So I won't remember. " " It was

a lost cause. Now my Mother is sorry, because she really can't remembr who was

there. I really tried to stay focused that day, taking in every detail, but I

can't remember all that attended either. So when making your plans, please

include the sign in book.

Several weeks after the service, the funeral director encouraged my Mother to

prepay up front for her funeral services, because prices would go up. My Mother

considered it, but my Mom is a financial wizard and probably could make more

money investing it.. But the good thing, is that her choices are in writing.

However, she will have a sign in book! I think it is a sales gimmick to tell

the bereaved customer, you better buy now. They hit you when you are down.

Gerry

Funeral Homes

> >

> >

> > Hi Everyone

> >

> > My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of

> > this

> > year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

> > case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

> > comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker

> > has

> > been here twice and has asked me to go to the

> > Mortuary

> > and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So.....

> > I

> > stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I

> > was

> > running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was

> > in

> > for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so

> > may

> > have to do this at some point. This is just my

> > advise

> > so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with

> > you!!! I

> > was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and

> > was

> > ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my

> > mom's

> > file as she has a plot next to my father at this

> > cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the

> > cemetery.

> > They could see that everything for the cemetery

> > had

> > been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me

> > and

> > started showing me caskets and then a book with

> > flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was

> > really

> > to run out to my car and when I started to bolt

> > she

> > said. " You may want to reconsider and pick

> > something

> > today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on

> > Monday. "

> > So I started a monthly plan and picked the items

> > out.

> > I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

> > enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out

> > the

> > items and explained what each one was for. A bag

> > for

> > her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare

> > you

> > with details. Just be prepared and take someone

> > alone

> > with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

> > this. The social worker just said to stop by and

> > alert

> > them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run

> > to

> > the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I

> > was

> > totally creeped out. I know it has to be done

> > etc...

> > but I would have walked in with my husband and had

> > a

> > total different mind set. Than let me pop in

> > before I

> > hit Costco and the grocery store.

> >

> > So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and

> > gloom,

> > but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has

> > to

> > deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps

> > the

> > next person along.

> >

> > Dena

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Group-

Some of the long time members will remember that when

my dad went into a nursing home my brother and I had a

garage sale of sorts, with all his things. My brother paid

for an add in our local newspaper and I did all the manual

work cleaning and pricing, sitting with everything during the

sale and talking with all the customers. The money raised

was put into an " Irrevocable Burial Fund " at the funeral

home of our choice. It was an insurance policy through a

company the funeral home uses. We went shopping in

a sense at the funeral home picking out everything we

wanted for our dad and also allowing for some expenses

we couldn't pick out at that moment (flowers, tea time after

the funeral home and such). It was all put in writing and I

put down a deposit with the money gained from the sale.

Then I paid monthly installments on it. When the time came

it was all pre-paid and in place only to finalize everything.

I had even picked out some music before hand. It was

tough yet so much easier at the end of our journey as

it has been mentioned, I had time to grieve, and didn't

have to worry about arrangements. My brother was

most gracious in allowing me to have say on anything

and everything I wanted for our dad's services and

final resting place. He even gave me the most beautiful

'thank you' card for all that I had done for dad.

I would have never thought to pre-arrange a funeral

had it not been mentioned to me before hand yet am

so thankful we did. When my mom passed away 20

years prior to dad it was all a blur.

My two cents worth-

Sandie

Des Moines, IA

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Dean-

My Mother and Dad made their funeral decisons 5 years prior to Dad's death.

The day Dad died, we went to the funeral home and reviewed the selections.

We also looked at all the other caskets and after doing so, went with Mom ad

Dad's selections. One thing that I found odd that they did not want was a

sign in book. I debated my Mother over this issue. I told her everyone has

one. She said " what d you do with it afterwards? Throw it in a drawer. " I

said you may not remember who came to the funeral. She said " So I won't

remember. " " It was a lost cause. Now my Mother is sorry, because she

really can't remembr who was there. I really tried to stay focused that day

taking in every detail, but I can't remember all that attended either. So

when making your plans, please include the sign in book.

Several weeks after the service, the funeral director encouraged my Mother

to prepay up front for her funeral services, because prices would go up. My

Mother considered it, but my Mom is a financial wizard and probably could

make more money investing it.. But the good thing, is that her choices are

in writing. However, she will have a sign in book! I think it is a sales

gimmick to tell the bereaved customer, you better buy now. They hit you

when you are down.

Gerry

Funeral Homes

> >

> >

> > Hi Everyone

> >

> > My Mom was admitted to hospice on January 10Th of

> > this

> > year. As some of you know a RN is assigned to your

> > case as well as DR, social worker and Home Health

> > comes out to do the baths. Well, the social worker

> > has

> > been here twice and has asked me to go to the

> > Mortuary

> > and alert them that my mom was on hospice. So.....

> > I

> > stopped by last Friday. I just popped in while I

> > was

> > running my usual errands. I had NO idea what I was

> > in

> > for. So I just wanted to prepare some of you so

> > may

> > have to do this at some point. This is just my

> > advise

> > so take it or leave it. #1 Take someone with

> > you!!! I

> > was all alone and it was not fun. I walked in and

> > was

> > ushered to a room and a very nice lady got my

> > mom's

> > file as she has a plot next to my father at this

> > cemetery. The mortuary is attached to the

> > cemetery.

> > They could see that everything for the cemetery

> > had

> > been paid for. So she placed a book in front of me

> > and

> > started showing me caskets and then a book with

> > flowers and flower packages to purchase. I was

> > really

> > to run out to my car and when I started to bolt

> > she

> > said. " You may want to reconsider and pick

> > something

> > today as our prices increase by $1,300.00 on

> > Monday. "

> > So I started a monthly plan and picked the items

> > out.

> > I felt like I was in a dream. Then if that was not

> > enough. She handed me a canvas bag and took out

> > the

> > items and explained what each one was for. A bag

> > for

> > her clothes to be buried in etc... I will spare

> > you

> > with details. Just be prepared and take someone

> > alone

> > with you. I just had no idea that I would be doing

> > this. The social worker just said to stop by and

> > alert

> > them. So I was totally unprepared. I did not run

> > to

> > the car and cry... but I did shutter, because I

> > was

> > totally creeped out. I know it has to be done

> > etc...

> > but I would have walked in with my husband and had

> > a

> > total different mind set. Than let me pop in

> > before I

> > hit Costco and the grocery store.

> >

> > So, I do not mean to be morbid or all doom and

> > gloom,

> > but just to prepare the next guy or girl who has

> > to

> > deal with all of this as I did. I hope this helps

> > the

> > next person along.

> >

> > Dena

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Donna

If the social worker would have said go to the funeral

home and make final arrangements I would have

understood that. He just said go in and alert them

that she is on hospice. Now that I think about it,

what difference would it make to the funeral home if

she was on hospice or not? I guess I am glad that it

is done, but for the newcomers to here just beware.

Dena

--- Donna Mido wrote:

> After I thought about it for a bit, Dena, not only

> the Hospice should have been more careful, but the

> funeral home also. Sounds like they didn't ask what

> you were prepared to do that day.

>

> Donna R

>

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