Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 Dena, A few months back (May), I was in the same position as you. I was facing the big decision of whether to place my dad or not. I was so exhausted but I kept telling myself, " I can do this " . I had 2 aides coming in to help me and it still wasn't enough. Everyone kept telling me, you will know when it is time. They were right. It sounds to me like in your heart, you know. I felt the same way, like I was givng up. But, really you aren't. You aren't admitting defeat, you are admitting you need help. You aren't giving up your caregiver responsibilities, they are just taking on a new direction. I still consider myself my dad's caregiver even though he has been in the NH for over 6 months. I am there every day to make sure that he is taken care of. I am his voice, his advocate. When he needs me to speak up, I do it, LOUD and STRONG! Hang in there Dena. You are doing a great job! Your mom is lucky to have you. Not alot of people are willing to do what we all have chosen to do. You are special! Hugs, Donna P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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