Guest guest Posted January 1, 2006 Report Share Posted January 1, 2006 Sharon the thing is I don't know what my mother would say to me. She was so angry and gave me such a look the day before she died. she looked at me just like she always did when she was very dissapointed in me. That look haunts me. -- In LBDcaregivers , " Sharon " <LadySmilingAtU2@c...> wrote: > > kaqren, > ativan is the drug of choice in many hospitals/physicans offices when they > want to calm someone down. and even the lbd doc we went here said that what > is good for one patient can be disastrous for another patient and he tried > meds slow and one at a time, but when i finally heard the words lewy body > disease i researched and researched as i had my laptop in the hosp with us. > but dad had been on trazadone and ativan in 93 when he had his first major > hallucination issues, but my dad hated meds and unless his sister supervised > him he would not take them or would spit them out. > would your mom be saying to you, honey you did the best you can, i love you > for what you did for me and how you helped or would she be chastizing you > for sometihng you didnt know, hmmmm anyh bets anyone. i thought so, i > bet yhour mom would thankyou for trying everything you could and taking > care of her. dont you think??? hugs sharon > > -- End Stages > > > > Could someone tell me their experience with the end stages? What > > happeneds in the end stages? I know it is different for > most....but my > > mother passed away with LBD and I feel that I may have helped > > contribute to her death by not understanding exactly what was going > on. > > It might help me if I know how the end stage was for someone else. > > > > Thank you, > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2006 Report Share Posted January 1, 2006 karen, she was scared of dying my mom is that type of manipulator and that is why i am not her medical directive my cousin peter is and he desont know what he is getting into still if your mother was one of htose controling parents you could have haad the surgeon general as her private phsycian and married prnce charles and be the future queen of england she still wouldnt have been happy right>>> so. people like that are no pleawsing no matter what, my mom would not be proud of me for the 6 a's just get disappointed about the 1 b and when i busted but to get that up to an a, i woudntlt be praised on that grade raising but would chastixed for one of the others dropping to a b. with my mom it is a no win situation, she lives in arizona i live in florida and i see her once every year or so and can only see her for a few days at a time. my mom is so manipulating that she was so distraught about dads death only because her ALIMONY was stopping not becuase my dad was dead. she had to create a scene at a public restaurant aginst my cousin who is a year older than me. here it is i am the rest of the family is grievcing and moms makes an ass of herself again so she is in control of everything makeing everyone else miserasble. keep your chin up i knojw you did the best you could, hugs sharon -- End Stages > > > > Could someone tell me their experience with the end stages? What > > happeneds in the end stages? I know it is different for > most....but my > > mother passed away with LBD and I feel that I may have helped > > contribute to her death by not understanding exactly what was going > on. > > It might help me if I know how the end stage was for someone else. > > > > Thank you, > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2006 Report Share Posted January 1, 2006 , It hurts my heart to think that you are carrying your mothers angry look around with you all the time. If I may, this was one look at one point in time. Think of all the times where you mom was smiling or just plain normal looking instead. These are the moments that count. As often happens, our LO's take out their frustration on us because we are the ones that are around. Her look could have gone to anyone but it came your way. I'm sure your mother would not want you to carry this heavy weight around. Chuck that boulder off your shoulders - you did good - you were there! Courage wrote: > Sharon the thing is I don't know what my mother would say to me. She > > was so angry and gave me such a look the day before she died. she > looked at me just like she always did when she was very dissapointed > in me. That look haunts me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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