RE: Any ideas/Home question/Debs

January 5, 2006

Debs,

My Dad did this a whole lot during the last two-three years of this disease.

He too kept asking mom when they were going home - he even " packed " and put on

his coat many times and told her they were leaving and going to the house

(home). What he was experiencing was seeing another home - the one my sister and

I grew up in and where we stayed the longest as a family. Maybe your Dad is

" seeing " the home he lives in from a different time period in his mind. Has the

furniture changed position or been new in the last 45 years? I think (only my

opinion here) but it seems that LB minds get into a time period and that is

where their mind's eye stays, so what they see in the present isn't meshing with

what their mind is telling them they see. Make sense?

It's a strange phenomonon and it took us about a year to figure out " where "

Daddy was trying to go home to. When we did, we were able to talk about it more

with him. We had some great memories come up from those talks.

Hope this helps.

na

in North Carolina

Debs wrote:

Mum and Dad have lived in the same house for 45 years but as Dad's

condition is worsening he seems to have developed the idea that he's not

in his own home. He regularly wakes Mum up, telling her to pack her

things and when she asks why he says it's because they're going home.

He has often asked my Mum to come and look at the sitting room and when

she asks what's wrong, he says that he's not in his own home and when

are they going home?

I know that this is part of the condition and suspect that it's because

he's feeling lost and insecure but I just wondered if anyone else has

experienced this? As I said, my parents have lived in the same house

for 45 years so it's not like they're somewhere that he doesn't know.

Does anyone have any thoughts?

Best wishes

Debs

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