Re: Re: Bed Sores/ Dena

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Dear Donna

Thank you Thank you for your words. They have truly

hit home!! I am just having this tug of war between my

head and my heart. But what you said made great sense.

I will be there for my mom to the bitter end. And it

doesn't have to be in my home. In fact, I know if my

mom was in her right mind she wouldn't want to be a

burden and she would have hated that I gave up my job

and part of my life to care for her. She would

probably be the first to say " Let me go " I know that

the decision is going to kill me. But it has to be

made soon. Thank you again, Donna

Dena

--- Donna wrote:

> Dena,

> A few months back (May), I was in the same position

> as you. I was

> facing the big decision of whether to place my dad

> or not. I was so

> exhausted but I kept telling myself, " I can do

> this " . I had 2 aides

> coming in to help me and it still wasn't enough.

> Everyone kept

> telling me, you will know when it is time. They

> were right. It

> sounds to me like in your heart, you know. I felt

> the same way,

> like I was givng up. But, really you aren't. You

> aren't admitting

> defeat, you are admitting you need help. You aren't

> giving up your

> caregiver responsibilities, they are just taking on

> a new

> direction. I still consider myself my dad's

> caregiver even though

> he has been in the NH for over 6 months. I am there

> every day to

> make sure that he is taken care of. I am his voice,

> his advocate.

> When he needs me to speak up, I do it, LOUD and

> STRONG! Hang in

> there Dena. You are doing a great job! Your mom is

> lucky to have

> you. Not alot of people are willing to do what we

> all have chosen

> to do. You are special!

> Hugs,

> Donna P.

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