Re: HELP ME!/Margee

[Guest guest]

Hi Margee,

I appreciate so much that you and all the bunch are

here to let me (((SCREAM)))Sometimes you just have to

get online and vent and let it all out to the only

people who would understand and the distraction of

typing also helped me to calm down.

It seems lately that I get through one pile of sheets,

blankets, clothes, bed padding and it starts all over

again to strip the bed and remake it and do the pile

of laundry. He has been taking his clothes off, but

within the last few weeks, he is taking them off in

the bed and removing the padding from under him and

peeing on the bed. Usually it just goes as far as the

padding under the sheet, but he must have stood up at

one point and got back on the bed, because he was

laying across the width of the bed diagonally and

there is no padding on my side and it went through my

side also to the mattress and that is when I lost it!

I really sanitized it and sprayed it with Lysol, but

then the mattress was too wet to put clean sheets on,

so I took my hair blow dryer and stood there and blew

it dry before putting the sheets and stuff back on. I

just really wasn't in the mood, since I had only a few

hours before folded all the sheets and got them away

from the evening before. It got me at the wrong time

and I really lost control of myself to the point I

scared myself. I didn't think I was going to get a

grip of myself and that I was losing it, until I got

on to type and vent and it really helped to bring the

rage down.

I can't tell you how glad I am that you are

here....Huge Hugs, Jan

--- Margee wrote:

> Oh, Jan,

>

> I hurt so much for you. I wish I could fly out to

> California and help you. The best I can do is say

> I'm here and I care. Sending you cyber hugs

> ((((Jan)))

>

> Margee

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I will look for the Depression scale information that I mentioned. Happy to

share it if others ask for it too. If I remember correctly, the print was

small, so if it doesn't scan well, I may need to send it.

Regarding your eventful night... a suggestion. My mother has had some

waterproof mattress covers - both in the mattress pad form as well as the zip

on allergy proof covers. I have seen some in the JC Penny catalog before as

well as other catalogs. At least that may save the mattress from further

damage, as well as limit the work you need to do if he does manage to get

everything off.

.

About his undressing...Depending on how difficult he is, alternative clothing

may be an option. There was a catalog called Buck & Buck that I often used

when I worked at the nursing home for a variety of wheelchair bound needs for

people, - especially items that opened in the back for ease of dressing. I

haven't used them lately - probably in the past 5 years at least, but I do

recall that they had a men's coverall type jumpsuit that was meant to be

difficult to remove for people who liked to " disrobe " when they really should

be clothed. I think that it opened in the backI never ordered the item, and

perhaps they still carry it, Just a thought. I think they were based out of

Washington state, but I do not remember for sure. I can try to look for the

website and let you know if I find it, too. There were a number of accessible

clothing catalogs around that we used.

Also, my mother used some Boost pads - put out by Depends as additional

absorbence inside the diaper for my Dad when he was prone to leakage - until

the Lasix was out of his system, or if they were going out to the doctor, for

example. Perhaps that can help a little at night as well, if he leaves

everything on, I guess.

Just for the fun of it - perhaps you will have a little laugh - I had to do

four loads of laundry one night during harvest when my daughter had the flu.

It wasn't funny at the time, but It makes other days pale in comparison when

she is giving me a tough time!

Hope today is better for you!

Renae

Janet Colello wrote: Hi Margee,

I appreciate so much that you and all the bunch are

here to let me (((SCREAM)))Sometimes you just have to

get online and vent and let it all out to the only

people who would understand and the distraction of

typing also helped me to calm down.

It seems lately that I get through one pile of sheets,

blankets, clothes, bed padding and it starts all over

again to strip the bed and remake it and do the pile

of laundry. He has been taking his clothes off, but

within the last few weeks, he is taking them off in

the bed and removing the padding from under him and

peeing on the bed. Usually it just goes as far as the

padding under the sheet, but he must have stood up at

one point and got back on the bed, because he was

laying across the width of the bed diagonally and

there is no padding on my side and it went through my

side also to the mattress and that is when I lost it!

I really sanitized it and sprayed it with Lysol, but

then the mattress was too wet to put clean sheets on,

so I took my hair blow dryer and stood there and blew

it dry before putting the sheets and stuff back on. I

just really wasn't in the mood, since I had only a few

hours before folded all the sheets and got them away

from the evening before. It got me at the wrong time

and I really lost control of myself to the point I

scared myself. I didn't think I was going to get a

grip of myself and that I was losing it, until I got

on to type and vent and it really helped to bring the

rage down.

I can't tell you how glad I am that you are

here....Huge Hugs, Jan

--- Margee wrote:

> Oh, Jan,

>

> I hurt so much for you. I wish I could fly out to

> California and help you. The best I can do is say

> I'm here and I care. Sending you cyber hugs

> ((((Jan)))

>

> Margee

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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