please pray for my family

[Guest guest]

I have posted over the past few weeks about my husband drinking again when he is

on a transplant list. Finally he went last Friday to detox and was released

today. The doctor has recommended a 30 day program and my husband still wants to

do things his way. After 4 days he still has the attitude that I see when he

drinks. I made a decision while he was gone that I will not continue to live

with him until he stops drinking and we have had some counseling for our

marriage. When my husband is not drinking, we never argue and we are so happy.

When he drinks, by the time he finally hits A bottom, he has destroyed all

respect and trust. Even the love becomes questionable. I told him I won't file

for divorce and I am willing to go to counseling but, at this time I am not

willing to live together until he has completed a treatment program and marriage

counseling. I have so much anger because it seems like every few years we have

to go through this. I am angry not only from the mental abuse but, that the man

I loved had a chance for a transplant and threw it away. I don't know if I have

made the right choice only that this is different than the other times. All the

other times he has quit or gone to treatment and then he comes home we attempt

to be normal. I struggle and after I trust him again it happens again. Being at

home and being with his family does not keep him sober so hopefully when he sees

that it will not be tolerated any longer he will work a program. I know my

husband is sick and could possibly die but, I feel that as long as I tolerate

it, I am enabling him to drink and ultimately kill himself. I can't watch that.

I am asking each of you to pray for my husband and for all of us that love him.

[Guest guest]

You've been in my thoughts and prayers every day. 28-30 day programs are a

blessing. He would be lucky to receive that type of treatment.

Stay strong & I will keep praying.

Leigh

gsaunders5@... wrote:

I have posted over the past few weeks about my husband drinking again

when he is on a transplant list. Finally he went last Friday to detox and was

released today. The doctor has recommended a 30 day program and my husband still

wants to do things his way. After 4 days he still has the attitude that I see

when he drinks. I made a decision while he was gone that I will not continue to

live with him until he stops drinking and we have had some counseling for our

marriage. When my husband is not drinking, we never argue and we are so happy.

When he drinks, by the time he finally hits A bottom, he has destroyed all

respect and trust. Even the love becomes questionable. I told him I won't file

for divorce and I am willing to go to counseling but, at this time I am not

willing to live together until he has completed a treatment program and marriage

counseling. I have so much anger because it seems like every few years we have

to go through this. I am angry not only from

the mental abuse but, that the man I loved had a chance for a transplant and

threw it away. I don't know if I have made the right choice only that this is

different than the other times. All the other times he has quit or gone to

treatment and then he comes home we attempt to be normal. I struggle and after I

trust him again it happens again. Being at home and being with his family does

not keep him sober so hopefully when he sees that it will not be tolerated any

longer he will work a program. I know my husband is sick and could possibly die

but, I feel that as long as I tolerate it, I am enabling him to drink and

ultimately kill himself. I can't watch that.

I am asking each of you to pray for my husband and for all of us that love him.

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[Guest guest]

First, know...that God is always with us, no matter what. Through the good and

the bad. But we can't always see it.

Before you leave, know, that his drinking will double. He will have an excuse to

drink (like he needs one). But when you leave he will most definitely not see it

as a wake up call. And will more likely find comfort in his depression.

If he can get into treatment it would be great. Obviously the doctors treated

his symptoms for the week he was in the hospital. Did they give a prognosis? Did

they treat his ascites?

I hate to be blunt, but, your husband will succumb to his illness. And from what

I've read in your posts, probably within the next year. But you have to be

strong and have/find faith.

Moving out, may not solve it. Staying may not either. Do what's right in your

heart. Remember, he is still the man you once loved. But is now dying.

He's scared. He just can't express it. You are all he's got. You have to let him

know that.

I will pray for you.

Love,

MaC

gsaunders5@... wrote: I have posted over

the past few weeks about my husband drinking again when he is on a transplant

list. Finally he went last Friday to detox and was released today. The doctor

has recommended a 30 day program and my husband still wants to do things his

way. After 4 days he still has the attitude that I see when he drinks. I made a

decision while he was gone that I will not continue to live with him until he

stops drinking and we have had some counseling for our marriage. When my husband

is not drinking, we never argue and we are so happy. When he drinks, by the time

he finally hits A bottom, he has destroyed all respect and trust. Even the love

becomes questionable. I told him I won't file for divorce and I am willing to go

to counseling but, at this time I am not willing to live together until he has

completed a treatment program and marriage counseling. I have so much anger

because it seems like every few years we

have to go through this. I am angry not only from the mental abuse but, that

the man I loved had a chance for a transplant and threw it away. I don't know if

I have made the right choice only that this is different than the other times.

All the other times he has quit or gone to treatment and then he comes home we

attempt to be normal. I struggle and after I trust him again it happens again.

Being at home and being with his family does not keep him sober so hopefully

when he sees that it will not be tolerated any longer he will work a program. I

know my husband is sick and could possibly die but, I feel that as long as I

tolerate it, I am enabling him to drink and ultimately kill himself. I can't

watch that.

I am asking each of you to pray for my husband and for all of us that love him.

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