Guest guest Posted March 3, 2004 Report Share Posted March 3, 2004 Lori, I do not know how old your son is, but some of our bright kids DO learn how to use their OCD as an excuse to manipulate others. My way of figuring it whether my daughter is using OCD as an excuse for not wanting to do something is by the level of distress when I question her. When it is OCD, she zooms from semi-rational to panic very quickly while if it is not OCD, the response is merely argumentative. OCD has the ability and tendency to morph into different forms. So a child who may start with contamination fears may see those lessen only to be replaced with a need for symmetry and having things " just so. " Awfully sneaky disorder! Hang in there... Gail in N'Awlins Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2004 Report Share Posted March 3, 2004 I think a lot of us have wondered if our kids have gotten " smart " and at times been a little manipulative to blame OCD for misbehaving or avoidance, etc. Your son might have just been experiencing another facet of OCD! Sounds like something my would have some need/compulsion to do. OCD can certainly come up with weird things! And this " new OCD " behavior might not tie in at all with the more familiar thoughts your son has been having (tho it could). OCD has " told " my lots of things. There's not necessarily a thought that goes along with all he does but sometimes just that anxiety/fear/need that he " has " to complete something - sticking his arm in the air, not being able to go thru a doorway, repeating some movement (having to go back down the hall and start again or hitting light switches on/off repeatedly....). My son has said that all his OCD has to do with a feeling that something bad will happen to him if he doesn't do " it " (or even does do something) and also he needs a " just right " feeling. Keep us updated on how things are going and if anything else seems to pop up new! > I noticed something last night with my son and it had me confused a > little bit. We had a BBQ last night and whenever we do that we > always get out the marshmellows and roast them for desert. My son > had his long handled stick and I noticed him turning it around to > stick the wooden handle into the coals. I shook my head No and he > stopped. It really wasn't that huge of a deal and all I did was shake > my head I never said a word to scold him. He then told me " I think my > OCD told me to do that. " It got me thinking because I am used to his Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2004 Report Share Posted March 3, 2004 Don't forget that these wonderful children are ....just that, children. I had a similier conversation with our therapist, who along with my husband, reminded me that little boys are quite facinated with ... anything destructive, death, killing - i.e. every stick etc. gets turned into a gun, and hurting themselves, just to see what would happen. Add a little OCD to that, and presto! Its quite alarming, but mostly harmless. Just a few more grey hairs for all of us. doodlebug963 wrote:I noticed something last night with my son and it had me confused a little bit. We had a BBQ last night and whenever we do that we always get out the marshmellows and roast them for desert. My son had his long handled stick and I noticed him turning it around to stick the wooden handle into the coals. I shook my head No and he stopped. It really wasn't that huge of a deal and all I did was shake my head I never said a word to scold him. He then told me " I think my OCD told me to do that. " It got me thinking because I am used to his OCD telling him things like he doesn't love us or he is going to hurt us but that he knows he'd never actually do anthing to us. His Dr. also told us that there has never been any documented cases of someone actually acting out their morbid thought. So is this 2 different types of thoughts he is having since he actually started to act this one out? It's all so confusing and complex sometimes. I also wonder if he sometimes uses his OCD as an excuse if he misbehaves. Has anyone else experienced this? Thanks, Lori H. in WA Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, Kathy , Vivian Stembridge, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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