Guest guest Posted August 7, 2009 Report Share Posted August 7, 2009 This past week I helped my dad move from California to Wyoming. It was 2 days in a u-haul driving for over 12 hours a day. The first day was especially stressful because he had run way behind on packing so we packed and loaded the truck all day and night and then hit the road as soon as we finished the next morning without a wink of sleep. I was certainly exhausted and stressed so I am sure that added greatly to my sound intolerance. My dad has several ticks like constant sniffles, noisey lip licking, and a habit of shouting rather than talking in a normal tone all of which he just doesn & #39;t realize. I brought my iPod and wore it pretty much the whole car ride. There was even a time in there where I could still here him over the music and I got so overwhelmed that I put my music on full blast and just sobbed uncontrolably. Normally I use music or walking away but in the truck I was trapped. I know his feelings are hurt because we didn & #39;t talk much but everytime I took them off I would get so angry and couldn & #39;t stand it. Im sure he thinks i am so rude and i am so angry at myself for not being able to be more tolerant. For so long I have though that I was the only person with this weird condition and it is very hard for me to talk about it to others. I & #39;ve not had much luck with explaining it to others, although my husband has been much more understanding since I told him about all of you. My dad and I haven & #39;t been as close since my parents split 8 years ago so I don & #39;t know if I can open up to him about all of this with out sounding like a big weirdo or like I & #39;m making up excuses for the way I acted. I dont want to just ignore this but i just dont know how to approach it. Can anyone offer some advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2009 Report Share Posted August 8, 2009 Hi Dani, I always think it's best to just get it out. Sometimes holding in the secret makes things worse and makes you more anxious. At least if it's out in the open you won't have to worry about people thinking you are rude. Personally I would just tell him and explain why you wore your iPod the whole time and got frustrated. Tell him about this group like you told your husband and explain that it's a real condition that you struggle with every day. Tell him you don't mean to hurt his feelings but it's something you really feel out of control with (especially being trapped in a truck). Whether people choose to listen to you and accept what you are saying is up to them... all you can do is try. Don't be upset with yourself that you can't be more tolerant... it will only make you more upset. Part of being able to deal with this condition better is accepting yourself for who you are... misophonia and all. Best of luck. Darlene > > > This past week I helped my dad move from California to Wyoming. It was 2 days in a u-haul driving for over 12 hours a day. The first day was especially stressful because he had run way behind on packing so we packed and loaded the truck all day and night and then hit the road as soon as we finished the next morning without a wink of sleep. I was certainly exhausted and stressed so I am sure that added greatly to my sound intolerance. My dad has several ticks like constant sniffles, noisey lip licking, and a habit of shouting rather than talking in a normal tone all of which he just doesn & #39;t realize. I brought my iPod and wore it pretty much the whole car ride. There was even a time in there where I could still here him over the music and I got so overwhelmed that I put my music on full blast and just sobbed uncontrolably. Normally I use music or walking away but in the truck I was trapped. I know his feelings are hurt because we > didn & #39;t talk much but everytime I took them off I would get so angry and couldn & #39;t stand it. Im sure he thinks i am so rude and i am so angry at myself for not being able to be more tolerant. For so long I have though that I was the only person with this weird condition and it is very hard for me to talk about it to others. I & #39;ve not had much luck with explaining it to others, although my husband has been much more understanding since I told him about all of you. My dad and I haven & #39;t been as close since my parents split 8 years ago so I don & #39;t know if I can open up to him about all of this with out sounding like a big weirdo or like I & #39;m making up excuses for the way I acted. I dont want to just ignore this but i just dont know how to approach it. Can anyone offer some advice? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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