Guest guest Posted October 6, 2008 Report Share Posted October 6, 2008 lol,thats so funny! - In AutismBehaviorProblems , pkuenstler@... wrote: > > Yes, the wig came off and Karac went through a period of time checking to > see if anyone else's hair would come off. LOL, Pat K > > > In a message dated 10/5/2008 9:10:09 P.M. Central Daylight Time, > hawkie6@... writes: > > > > > OMG Pat! You are kidding? The wig came off? Now, that should of been on > tape. > Stacie > > > In a message dated 10/4/2008 6:24:23 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, > pkuenstler@... a messag > > > > > , I enjoyed what you had to say about Moms of special needs kids > needing to take of themselves; that is so true. > Your statement about your child pulling the hair out of the head of his > babysitter reminded me of a phase Karac went through. > > Karac doesn't like for anyone to speak to him in a rough tone of voice. One > day the woman aide on the school bus spoke to him in an angry tone of voice, > and he reached up and pulled her hair. It came off because it was a wig. > For awhile after that Karac went through a stage of pulling other peoples hair > to see if it would come off too. LOL, Pat K > > > In a message dated 10/4/2008 8:10:03 A.M. Central Daylight Time, > walkman975@... a messag > > > > > The truth is that NO ONE will ever understand how you feel when your child > has an off the chart behavior other than another parent who is in the same > boat. NO ONE. Not your mother, sister, BFF (unless she has a child like yours), > your priest, minister or rabbi, psychologist, speech therapist, teacher, > babysitter etc. > > No one can possibly understand the intense pain that you feel when your > child smacks you, pulls the hair out of the head of his babysitter, freaks out at > the supermarket, or whatever. So don't expect to get a lot of support from > them. They just do not get it and can't. They may feel bad for you, but that > isn't going to help you. > > Many dads run away from things like this-some physically leave (like mine) > and others emotionally leave. Of course there are some wonderful dads out > there-so if you are one of them, I applaud you. Lucky for me, I have a great > step-dad in the picture who by being a little removed from it, is a great help > to me. I can't take my son out by myself very often (he goes out with a big > strong fellow 4 times a week for fun activities), so on the weekends, my > husband comes with me. We used to travel a great deal with my son (he's been to > England, Scotland, the Bahamas, etc). But he is too difficult for that now, and > it is a great sadness for me to realize that. > > So, I am learning that I must take care of myself. The stress that we are > exposed to can age us rapidly. Studies have been done on stress and guess who > they have used as the subjects? Moms of children with autism, because they > found that we are the most stressed out group around. Scary!! Your kids need you > healthy and around a long time. Take care of yourself. > > Because I do workshops on this subject, I have talked to so many moms. I > have found that caretakers of people with illness or special needs become > martyrs. The reason for this is that we become so conditioned to always put someone > else's needs before our own that very quickly we forget about our own needs. > We feel really guilty to do something nice for ourselves. Think about it. Do > you feel a tinge of guilt if you say (or even think) about doing something > fun like going out to lunch with your friend, a movie (that you want to see) > with your husband, spending money on yourself? If I am honest, I have to say > that I always feel that tinge of guilt and have to force myself to get beyond > it. I herniated a disk in my back and it took me almost a year to deal with > it. (Now I go to a physical therapist who specializes in Pilates therapy. It's > like having my own personal trainer). > > In my community, moms with kids in the spectrum are starting to get together > and do things on occasion by ourselves. Last week, one organization held a > movie party. Of course the movie was about autism, but it was fun to drink > coffee and talk with other moms in the middle of the day. > > We all need to concentrate on ourselves and make at least one activity a > week that is just for us alone. > > Herskowitz > valerieherskowitz.val > > ____________________________________ > McCain or Obama? Stay updated on coverage of the Presidential race while > you browse - _Download Now_ > (http://toolbar.aol.com/elections/ download.html?ncid=emlweusdown00000001) ! > > > > > > > > > > ____________________________________ > New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your destination. 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