Re: OT - How to win friends and influence people (book)

[Guest guest]

Hi Sandy, that's interesting, i remember my brother found and read a copy (he

has aspergers) I've never read it though.

Charlotte

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> Hi all,

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> We have been flicking through " How to win friends and influence people "

> (a classic text first published in the 30's)

>

> http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0091906814/r\

> ef=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1307005028 & sr=8-1

> <http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0091906814/\

> ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1307005028 & sr=8-1>

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> this is the wikipedia summary

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> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

> <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People>

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> We noticed that it basically encourages quite a few non-autistic

> behaviours. For example, it stresses the importance of using names,

> smiling and taking an interest in other people and their interests.

> I'll paste a summary below from part of the wikipedia summary. Each

> chapter explains why these behaviours are important.

>

> I don't think self-help books are that popular with everyone - but we

> thought it was interesting. (I guess giving a book entitled " How to win

> friends and influence people " to someone isn't the best way to win and

> influence them though ..... hm? :-)).

>

> Seven Ways to Make People Like You

>

> 1. Become genuinely interested in other people.

> 2. Smile.

> 3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and

> most important sound in any language.

> 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

> 5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.

> 6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

> 7. Make that person comfortable and give equal attention to them.

>

> Best wishes, Sandy

>

[Guest guest]

This is a fantastic book - I bought it 20 years ago and use it a lot - there is another one he did too called "how to stop worrying and start living" and that is one of best books in the world - i have actually bought copies for about 6 people and given it them for free cos i could see they have worry issues - it is like gold dust

> To: Autism-Biomedical-Europe > Date: Thu, 2 Jun 2011 09:44:47 +0000> Subject: Re: OT - How to win friends and influence people (book)> > Hi Sandy, that's interesting, i remember my brother found and read a copy (he has aspergers) I've never read it though.> Charlotte> > > >> > > > Hi all,> > > > We have been flicking through "How to win friends and influence people"> > (a classic text first published in the 30's)> > > > http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0091906814/r\> > ef=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1307005028 & sr=8-1> > <http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0091906814/\> > ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1307005028 & sr=8-1>> > > > this is the wikipedia summary> > > > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People> > <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People>> > > > We noticed that it basically encourages quite a few non-autistic> > behaviours. For example, it stresses the importance of using names,> > smiling and taking an interest in other people and their interests. > > I'll paste a summary below from part of the wikipedia summary. Each> > chapter explains why these behaviours are important.> > > > I don't think self-help books are that popular with everyone - but we> > thought it was interesting. (I guess giving a book entitled "How to win> > friends and influence people" to someone isn't the best way to win and> > influence them though ..... hm? :-)).> > > > Seven Ways to Make People Like You> > > > 1. Become genuinely interested in other people.> > 2. Smile.> > 3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and> > most important sound in any language.> > 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.> > 5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.> > 6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.> > 7. Make that person comfortable and give equal attention to them.> > > > Best wishes, Sandy> >> > > > > ------------------------------------> > DISCLAIMER> No information contained in this post is to be construed as medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek it from a suitably qualified practitioner.>

[Guest guest]

I'm not saying it's not useful for people on the spectrum but,

personally, when I meet people who look me in the eye too much, use my

name a lot and seem too interested in what I say, I think " They've been

reading a self-help book or they've been on a course and I wish they

would just be themselves. " It stresses me out! Maybe that's just me though.

But I do like the sound of the other book you recommend , think I

might get that.

Sara x

[Guest guest]

Totaly agree.

 

That is one of the first " inspirational " books I have read, and I must admit the title does not lend itself to passing the book onto others or giving as a gift, but it is to the point!

 

That particular book written by Dale Carnegie who had a great influence on Napolean Hill - author of Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude - and - Think and Grow Rich, were at the forefront of what we now refer to the " Law of Attraction " - very powerful stuff!

 

Cheers.

 

 

Hi all,

We have been flicking through  " How to win friends and influence people " (a classic text first published in the 30's)

http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0091906814/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1307005028 & sr=8-1

this is the wikipedia summary

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

We noticed that it basically encourages quite a few non-autistic behaviours.  For example, it stresses the importance of using names, smiling and taking an interest in other people and their interests.  I'll paste a summary below from part of the wikipedia summary.  Each chapter explains why these behaviours are important. 

I don't think self-help books are that popular with everyone - but we thought it was interesting.  (I guess giving a book entitled " How to win friends and influence people " to someone isn't the best way to win and influence them though ..... hm? :-)).

Seven Ways to Make People Like You

Become genuinely interested in other people.

Smile.

Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

Talk in terms of the other person's interest.

Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Make that person comfortable and give equal attention to them.

Best wishes, Sandy

-- isybeeautism.com